It means that their significant other isn't s pansy that allows themselves to be ran over.

Yup, I think it's good... I would rather they do call me out than get annoyed. However I've seen the lines get blurred and it turn in to mothering and that's when they don't hear from me again.

My very awesome friend once told me that she needs a man who will yell right back at her when she gets mad.

I don't need to be "put in my place" I need him to not sway from his.

Don't make me get the paddle out again.

Don't you threaten me with a good time!

I don't need to be "put in my place" I need him to not sway from his.

Don't make me get the paddle out again.

Don't you threaten me with a good time!

Too late! The gauntlet has been thrown down!!

This is something I LOVE about my current bf.

Granted, I've gotten my way in certain situations because he likes to make me happy and see me smile.

BUT, I can be a tricky gal. I have learned to manipulate (gasp) men to get what I want. I'm not saying its healthy but many many women do this, even without realizing. I've also dated pushovers in the past whom I could do what I wanted with and learned how to do it. (always choose the movie/ restaurant, win arguments, etc). With my current bf, he will call me out when I'm feeling entitled for whatever reason. He's very upfront with me!! And I love it because it challenges me.

I also am very upfront with him and he has always said I'm different than other girls because of it.

But like Poncho said, when it turns to mothering or controlling, it's no bueno.

It's give and take. I remember being called a stubborn a-hole many times by my ex because I refused to change my stance on certain things. :bigsmile:

One strangely common phrase I’m hearing about people who describe their SOs is “one thing I really love about her/him is s/he really puts me in my place and doesn’t take any sctuff from me.” What do you think about that?

She/he isn't a doormat and stands up for themselves and what they believe in...

I like to get my way... But love when someone does not always give into my charms.

I'm very much an independent person. I moved to an area where I didn't know anyone 4 years ago and was determined not to struggle. I don't ask for help often just because I don't want to put anyone out. But, I've dated men that won't "put up" with that. One would do my yardwork when I was at work because he knew I wouldn't let him otherwise. He also "scolded" me for trying to buy our beer on the way to a party one night. I'd ask him a question about the house and the next thing you know, he'd be over to fix the problem for me. He always said "one day you'll just learn that you can't do it all on your own". He was right, and was actually a pretty awesome guy. But, the timing just didn't work out for us.

ummm this sounds like an awesome guy! I love a guy who knows how to do work around the house and does it willingly. such a gentleman

One strangely common phrase I’m hearing about people who describe their SOs is “one thing I really love about her/him is s/he really puts me in my place and doesn’t take any sctuff from me.” What do you think about that?

I have never used the term "She puts me in my place", but I will say I believe people value legitimacy.

What I mean by that is, if someone (your SO) has a strong opinion about something, and is willing to disagree with you on it, that gives a signal that s/he is legitimate. (aka doesn't blow smoke up your *kitten*).

That being said, I like legitimate people. I don't necessarily like a woman who argues constantly for no reason other than to argue, but someone who can come up with conclusions and stick by them.

The opposite end of the spectrum is terrible imo, when you have to guess whether your SO is serious or is simply saying whatever s/he wants in order to get what they want.