BDSM & Leather.....need I say more
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So I've been very curious about getting into this type of lifestyle. How does one go about such?
It depends on what you mean by 'getting into'.
If you are looking for more information on BDSM 'lifestyle' and 'practices' the best resource i can recommend is a book called screw the roses, send me the thorns, by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. Also the Topping and Bottoming books. These go through 'jargon' that practitioners use, basics of bondage, a lot of safety information.
If you want to meet like minded people locally to you who have similar interests, have a look at sites such as bondage.com or fetlife.com. These are predominantly american sites and you can find information on local munches, club nights, meet and greets, as well information on different techniques, ideas and even personals sections.
Sadly a lot of the brilliant resources that were around 10-12 years ago have disappeared so i don't know where else to direct you, but i'm sure others do
As with anything, please take care of your safety first. If you've got any questions but don't want to put them here, please feel free to message me
Thank you very much! You think I can find those books at the local Barnes & Noble?
Uh, don't know about B&N, but you can order them from amazon. I'm in the UK and don't think i've ever seen them in high street book shops lol0 -
Aah how cool
I didnt know there were lifestylers on this site. I am also on Fetlife(if anyone wants to, they can friend me).. but Im on a different nick of course ^^
Im a sub(slave really)
I guess I identify as bi.. maybe. I have no idea. I call myself flexible >_<
Im new to this group btw. Hi all! ^^0 -
Masculine identified queer Dom here. My fitness goals are to gain stamina, endurance and muscle. Sex and BDSM is part of that... I love curvy women and enjoy being able to toss a curvy bottom/sub around and be intimidating to her/them in appearance. Always up for like-minded motivators and being a motivator on here.
Chin up, everyone. Anything is possible!0 -
So I've been very curious about getting into this type of lifestyle. How does one go about such?
It depends on what you mean by 'getting into'.
If you are looking for more information on BDSM 'lifestyle' and 'practices' the best resource i can recommend is a book called screw the roses, send me the thorns, by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. Also the Topping and Bottoming books. These go through 'jargon' that practitioners use, basics of bondage, a lot of safety information.
If you want to meet like minded people locally to you who have similar interests, have a look at sites such as bondage.com or fetlife.com. These are predominantly american sites and you can find information on local munches, club nights, meet and greets, as well information on different techniques, ideas and even personals sections.
Sadly a lot of the brilliant resources that were around 10-12 years ago have disappeared so i don't know where else to direct you, but i'm sure others do
As with anything, please take care of your safety first. If you've got any questions but don't want to put them here, please feel free to message me
Thank you very much! You think I can find those books at the local Barnes & Noble?
triskelionsociety.org < -- is a newly (relaunched) BDSM based educational forum a group of friends and myself run. Feel free to stop over and browse some of the groups and discussions going on.
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Haha alright, thank you very much 0
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Oh wow. So glad you posted this topic! Look at everyone! Nice to see I'm not alone here!
28, queer, pansexual, monogam-ish/poly-curious, fierce femme here. I'm not really sure on my place in the community, but I'm currently identifying as a switch.0 -
I am a Dom heavy switch, sometimes brat, monogamish (he is mono, I date girls romantically but non-sexually) (my last serious relationship was heavily poly), pansexual. I am on fetlife, easy to find too.. 0
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OMG, what a great group! My kinkier desires aren't what spurred my weight loss, but it's definitely helping! I am Sara, a TOP (not dominant) and a bit of a sadist. I am also an amateur ropester and hope with my weight loss that I can scamper around more easily to tie my partner up damn pretty!
As someone else in this thread mentioned, I met my girlfriend on Fetlife. It has been a crazy 3 years full of fun! I am always welcome to friends on Fetlife as well as here! (Mzup2nogood on Fetlife)
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Gay, mostly asexual, bondage sub here. Not super active in the community, largely because it's hard to find platonic play partners and in San Francisco the community is so large there is always a hotter guy in the wings who will put out. Still I get my thrills from time to time. Trying to lose weight is two fold for me, one I want to get healthier and live the life I want. Secondarily I hope it leads to some more avenues for the social areas of my life.0
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Former top, current switch, but mostly inactive as far as actual play goes these days. Previously poly, but focusing on my primary relationship now.
Coincidentally, I was thinking on my drive in to work that I need to donate my St. Andrews Cross to a leather charity for auction or something because I never use it any more.0 -
Former top, current switch, but mostly inactive as far as actual play goes these days. Previously poly, but focusing on my primary relationship now.
Coincidentally, I was thinking on my drive in to work that I need to donate my St. Andrews Cross to a leather charity for auction or something because I never use it any more.
I wish you were closer, I am in need of a St. Andrews Cross.0 -
Femme sub/switch if asked. Currently in a monogamous relationship, non-lifestyle. Open to like-minded friends. :-)0
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Stem Switch - currently in a monogamous relationship. Introducing the girlfriend into some fun activities
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Former top, current switch, but mostly inactive as far as actual play goes these days. Previously poly, but focusing on my primary relationship now.
Coincidentally, I was thinking on my drive in to work that I need to donate my St. Andrews Cross to a leather charity for auction or something because I never use it any more.
I wish you were closer, I am in need of a St. Andrews Cross.
I have a few connections down in the GA area that would probably love a good donation. If I was closer my organization would LOVE to auction it off. We have a yearly event that raises monies for EXCELLENT CHARITIES. Such as By the Grace of George! and animal charity! 0 -
Hi! I'm surprised to find more kinksters here! I'm a pansexual female sadomasochist. Glad to see everyone~~0
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Hello everyone!
I am queer, genderqueer, and sometimes equally ambiguously kinky. I used to dom my previous partner, but I would say I feel more comfortable as a switch. I really like fire play, although I haven't got to do it but once. I feel like a lot of my life goals used to be related to sexuality in general and my own, but I haven't felt very confident to go in that direction as much lately. I am studying sexuality in college though, and I LOVE to talk about it!!! I am poly, and I have one partner at the moment and a former partner who is becoming more significant in my life again. I used to be significantly involved in a couple poly communities, but I haven't been lately. I hope to change that by getting more involved, going to more conferences and workshops about sexuality again, and spending more time at sex shops with friends again.
I'd love to talk with more people who have similar interests, so even if I haven't sent you a friend request, please don't hesitant to send me one! I'm much more likely to accept it if I know why you're sending it.
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