I personally just joined the group because I hired a nutrition coach that recommended fitness pal. I was crushed when she told me that expecting to lose weight just with exercise was unrealistic. When I shared my feelings she questioned why I was crushed. I suppose it was the statement that I couldn't do what i use to do that was hard to accept. She told me that she didn't say I couldn't but that exercise is health no matter how much I did. Healthy for my muscles to remember what to do, health for my heart but that I didn't need to reset my behavior but my expectations on how fast I would lose weight and what else I had to do like watching what I ate and looking for foods that made me feel stronger or better instead of the empty calories I was consuming. It is important not to change your wishes, dreams and goals but accept that it may take more time, more patience, or different approaches or focus (when my body allows me to focus!).