Just Saying Hello
VanillaWishes
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Hi,
Just a hello, I've been on here for a little while but only really got started recently, this is my first post - ooh, go me!!
I am a single mum with twin boys at the more challenged and challenging end of the spectrum, one also has ADHD the other has PDA and life is never dull - I've had a pretty tough decade and I'm sad to say I've sought comfort in the cookie jar but am determined to get back into shape, get my confidence back and try and get back to something resembling me, if that makes sense.
I love my lads totally but sometimes the stress leaves me wondering what's next so I really need to do something for me, as selfish as that sounds, I don't have the confidence to join the gym again in my current state but that's the plan for when I've dropped some weight as I used to love it and it was a good de-stresser for me.
Nice to find a group that will understand my world :-)
xx
Just a hello, I've been on here for a little while but only really got started recently, this is my first post - ooh, go me!!
I am a single mum with twin boys at the more challenged and challenging end of the spectrum, one also has ADHD the other has PDA and life is never dull - I've had a pretty tough decade and I'm sad to say I've sought comfort in the cookie jar but am determined to get back into shape, get my confidence back and try and get back to something resembling me, if that makes sense.
I love my lads totally but sometimes the stress leaves me wondering what's next so I really need to do something for me, as selfish as that sounds, I don't have the confidence to join the gym again in my current state but that's the plan for when I've dropped some weight as I used to love it and it was a good de-stresser for me.
Nice to find a group that will understand my world :-)
xx
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Hello, Nice to meet you! I can totally understand, what you are going through, and you are right having a child/children on the spectrum there is never a dull moment. But yes you can find a good Stress relief in working out or exercise, it relives stress but it also gives you an opportunity to do something for yourself and get healthy
"Good Luck Momma" 0 -
Thank you for the welcome, still getting my bearings and finding my way around but I really think I'm in the right place :-) x0
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OMG! I'm so tired of parents who say they feel "selfish" for needing to do something for themselves. I have a 23-year-old on the spectrum AND a 21-year-old who is VERY hard of hearing (almost deaf). When they were young I used to give myself a break and go sit in a bookstore alone, with a coffee, thumbing through books. A few years later I started yoga and a few years after that I started running. Taking care of yourself physically and mentally makes you a better, saner person. Do not EVER feel guilty for needing that. You're a human being, after all. 0
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Hahaha don't get me wrong, I'm not entirely selfless I'm nearly at the end of a BSc Hons degree that's kept my brain ticking over but somehow the body got neglected so that's my mission now :-)0
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Hahaha don't get me wrong, I'm not entirely selfless I'm nearly at the end of a BSc Hons degree that's kept my brain ticking over but somehow the body got neglected so that's my mission now :-)
I can totally relate do studying - it keeps me sane. I'm 2 1/2 years into a BSc Hons in Maths and Stats through the OU. Having the books to delve into is a relief. Best thing is the tutorials which i always arrive early at so i can have a quiet cup of coffee before it starts.0 -
I never get to the tutorials but I do love that box of books! Have a project to write (Social psychology research study) so the printer won't play nicely - grrr! Yes, I started studying to keep my brain functioning as life can become nothing but autism, nappies, battles and appointments, I had no plans to do the full degree to start with but it's saved my sanity. My grades took a massive knock when I had to take the boys out of school and home ed for two years but now they're settled in a good school I can give my studies a little more focus :-).
Am looking into post grad studies as I'm hooked :-)0 -
I have a young son on the spectrum. The only thing that relieves my daily stress and makes me feel better is exercise. My job is outdoors and a real workout and I have a gym membership (but that's been mostly untouched since starting this job). I go to my job and literally knock the stuffing out of myself. My co-workers must wonder why I work my *kitten* off every day but it makes me feel good and some days is the only thing that makes me feel good.0
