There have been a number of suicides in my extended family. Fortunately, none have been close relatives, but even at the distance, it is so very difficult for those left behind. I don't know the circumstances, or why your friend died a non-believer, but God's mercy is boundless, and we trust in His mercy while respecting His commands. My cousin left the church years before she committed suicide. I remember calling her just before the first Gulf war. (She was in the military.) She told me that I was the only family member who had taken the time to call and see if she was being sent into war. Some time later, she committed suicide. As far as I know, it had nothing to do with her service, but everything to do with her lack of fidelity in her marriage. So, you know, she had a LOT of strikes against her. I was weighed down by a lot of guilt. I knew she had a lack of support from her birth family, and I hadn't called her since that phone call.

I prayed for the repose of her soul every Sunday before Mass for years. After years of prayer, I went to Mass one Sunday, and when I said my prayer for her, I had an overwhelming sense of peace about her salvation. I wouldn't every presume to say what God's judgment is for Penny, but I cannot describe how profoundly comforted I felt about her soul. So, I guess my advice is: Assume that your friend has achieved purgatory and pray him home.

Hugs to you! Prayers for your friend!

Keeping him and you in my thoughts and prayers.