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LoggingForLife
LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
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So I have been dating someone for about five months, exclusively. We me online and he tells me that he has canceled his online dating accounts back in month one. There were three or four. Well....he just got matched with one of my friends and upon investigation, he has an active and updated profile. Grrrrr. I'm so mad I can't think straight. So...I ask you brilliant and funny people....i'm sending him a message through her account...What do I say?????? I want to make him suffer, really sweat it out. HELP!!!!!

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  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    Talk to him as your friend, make a date, only you show up for the date. Busted!
  • LoggingForLife
    LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
    Oh, that's good.
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    Let your ego go and move on. It sucks you got played. It happens. What you want to do is childish and only looks good to the idiots who keep Jerry Springer on the air. In the end, it won't make a bit of difference. If you brag about it, it makes you look somewhat petty. If he tells others about it, it most likely won't have a spin that makes you look good either.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    Speaking from experience, I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, but a lie is a lie. . Personally, one big lie is all it would take for me at this point. If you let this one slide. .or if he talks you down and convinces you he will REALLY cancel his accounts this time. . .well.. the damage is done. You'll just never know. .

    I don't necessarily subscribe to the adage "once a cheater". . but when someone is SEEKING-OUT other people to date.. that's a pretty bad sign. :(

    If you feel the need to bust him cold. . do the ol' catfish routine like raige suggests. .That will make it a lot harder for him to explain it away for sure!. . It'll also be funny (though tragic, depending on how strong your feelings are for him). Also, if you can, try to get some pictures of the look on his face when you show up for your date.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    So...I ask you brilliant and funny people....i'm sending him a message through her account...What do I say?????? I want to make him suffer, really sweat it out. HELP!!!!!

    This can not end well. It shows a level of maturity not quite ready for a relationship. That whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing applies, I believe.

    That being said, do a few back and forth messages and get him to trade sexy photos. Get a friend to photoshop them into gay porn and send them back from your own account.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    So...I ask you brilliant and funny people....i'm sending him a message through her account...What do I say?????? I want to make him suffer, really sweat it out. HELP!!!!!

    This can not end well. It shows a level of maturity not quite ready for a relationship. That whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing applies, I believe.

    That being said, do a few back and forth messages and get him to trade sexy photos. Get a friend to photoshop them into gay porn and send them back from your own account.


    Agree with the first part.. And if you truely wanna drive him nuts go no conntact and stop talking to him at all.
  • LoggingForLife
    LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
    Ok...I'm a little calmer now. Thank you for all you input. I have decided to take the high road and not entertain my desire to make him suffer. I just sent a brief message - "hey, haven't we met?" and do a face to face break up this evening. Another one bites the dust. Thank you those who brought me to my senses!!!!! (and yes, i'm sure he will try to explain away to get me to stay...staying strong!)
  • farmers_daughter
    farmers_daughter Posts: 1,632 Member
    Had a friend go thru this this week and yes I've been there too many times.

    Do nothing. Stop talking to him, block his number. He played you, he knows what he's doing, and he knows if you stop talking he's been caught.

    He's not sorry for what he did he never will be - no revenge can make him sorry. He's probaby frustrated he got caught. Oh well. You are bigger and better than that.

    Doubt I'd even give them the face to face. All he's gonna do is talk, and at this point talk is worthless, it's less than cheap. He doesn't deserve your ear to listen to his bullsh!t.

    Keep on fishing....
  • LFDBabs
    LFDBabs Posts: 297 Member
    Talk to him as your friend, make a date, only you show up for the date. Busted!

    THIS^^ assuming that you've talked about being exclusive...and not just assumed exclusivity from him cancelling his accounts. From experience I can tell you, the look on his face will be priceless. You'll also have to be cool with the fact that this will end the relationship so you need to be good with that. The trust will be gone for BOTH of you.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I dont think I'd bother seeking revenge. But I would tell him I know, just so that he squirms a little...........

    Jeez! There is no end to this dating malarkey! :brokenheart:
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    Talk to him as your friend, make a date, only you show up for the date. Busted!

    THIS^^ assuming that you've talked about being exclusive...and not just assumed exclusivity from him cancelling his accounts. From experience I can tell you, the look on his face will be priceless. You'll also have to be cool with the fact that this will end the relationship so you need to be good with that. The trust will be gone for BOTH of you.

    I have done this before ... years ago and yes the look on his face was beyond Priceless. I knew going into it that it was the nail in the coffin and it was done, but it left me feeling better about it, like maybe I saved the next girl because maybe just maybe that guy wouldn't do it to anyone else again. Funny thing is ... that same guy messaged me not long ago on the dating site to apologize for what he did. Not because he wanted another chance, because this is years later but just to apologize for hurting me like that.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I dont think I'd bother seeking revenge. But I would tell him I know, just so that he squirms a little...........

    This - No need for drama but let him know you were on to his game.
  • disneywm76
    disneywm76 Posts: 573 Member
    I'm nosey....so how did it go??
  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,428 Member
    I'm nosey....so how did it go??

    Nosey too..........

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