soon to be pg - scared about weight gain!
KF1216
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Hey ladies!
I'm TTC my 3rd child (in the TWW now, but based on our ease of getting knocked up in the past I am hoping it happens fast again!)
Right before my son was born I weighed 250 - I'm 5'9". I got big time into running and using MFP and was down to 169 at my lowest, last summer (2012). Then life got tossed around a bit, my husband was relocated for his job, we moved across the state, moved again to buy a house, then this summer my little sister got sick and died. Needless to say all the stress has thrown me off my game for over a year now and this morning I was up to 189 :-(
I really want to be pregnant but I'm so nervous about gaining all that weight back. I've read that really overweight women are ok to lose weight while pregnant...I'm planning to talk to my midwife about it once I'm actually preggers. Just wondering what your experiences have been like. I have big babies, and in the past have lost nearly 25lbs within the first 2 weeks of giving birth so I think I could be comfortable gaining around 25lbs.
Anyway- would love to join in your group here and gain some good perspective and support
I'm TTC my 3rd child (in the TWW now, but based on our ease of getting knocked up in the past I am hoping it happens fast again!)
Right before my son was born I weighed 250 - I'm 5'9". I got big time into running and using MFP and was down to 169 at my lowest, last summer (2012). Then life got tossed around a bit, my husband was relocated for his job, we moved across the state, moved again to buy a house, then this summer my little sister got sick and died. Needless to say all the stress has thrown me off my game for over a year now and this morning I was up to 189 :-(
I really want to be pregnant but I'm so nervous about gaining all that weight back. I've read that really overweight women are ok to lose weight while pregnant...I'm planning to talk to my midwife about it once I'm actually preggers. Just wondering what your experiences have been like. I have big babies, and in the past have lost nearly 25lbs within the first 2 weeks of giving birth so I think I could be comfortable gaining around 25lbs.
Anyway- would love to join in your group here and gain some good perspective and support
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I think the healthiest way to look at it is the weight you gain is weight for the baby, and more then likely after delivery a lot of it will be gone.
This is a question that you really need to talk to your doctor about, and if it is stressing you out I would personally call the office and check with them prior to getting pregnant. All doctors/midwives will have a different opinion on it and what their preferences are.
From personal experience, I had an aunt who was allowed to maintain weight during her pregnancy. I think in the end she only gained a pound, and my cousin was a born term and healthy. But this was discussed at length with her doctor and closely monitored. If this is something that would like to consider I would personally set an appointment and discuss with your doctor prior to getting pregnant, unless you are one that goes in as soon as you find out you are pregnant. I always wait till week 10-11 so that is a lot of time that would pass that you might try to be dieting which may not be healthy for the baby.
For my own pregnancy this go round, I was eating at maintenance while we were trying to get pregnant. My exercise was walks during my noon hour which were only maybe 150-175 calorie loss, so I may or may not have eaten back my exercise calories. It just depended on the day. I am 9 weeks pregnant as of today, and at this time am still eating maintenance to the best of my ability. I have had severe morning sickness which I ended needing to take medication to get it under control. I had a huge weight loss over a 5 day time span and ended up incrediably dehydrated and needing IV fluids. From what I have read so far from babycenter.com in an article 'What eating for two really means', it stated that if you are a healthy weight that no additional calories were needed in the first trimester, 300 extra calories in the second trimester, and 450 extra calories in the third. This is why I am doing maintenance for my calorie counting and then plan to add calories as needed once I have confirmed this information with midwife on Wednesday.
http://www.babycenter.com/eating-for-two
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Just remember at term the weight of the baby, placenta, breast tissue, increased blood volume, and overall increased fluid leads to about 25-35lbs and since youve had big babies be comfortable around there if you can.0
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I gained 50 lbs with my first 2 pregnancies and closer to 30-35 with my third. I noticed the difference was that I only gained 3 lbs in the first trimester (i dont have morning sickness so there is no weigh loss during first trimester for me)
With my second pregnancy I was down 25 lbs after a week.
with my third I dont remember what I weighed but the moment she came out my stomach looked normal and i didnt look 4 months pregnant like most women (and my other 2 pregnancies)
I am pregnant now with my 4th, I dont know what my weight gain is right now but I'm afraid too. I started working with a nutritionist. I'm hoping that I can maintain my weight. The nutritionist said she doesnt want to see ANY weight loss, but is okay with no weight gain.
it took a lot for me to accept moving from 1400 calories to 1900. I am also afraid of being told to eat more later in the pregnancy. She also tld me that I dont have to eat back my exercise calories cause that was bothering me (on sunday i would have had to eat 2600 calories, and that is A LOT of food, or very little BAD food)
After talking to the nutritionist my mind set changed. I'm not dieting, i'm trying to eat as well as possible, im trying to pass up on the processed food, i'm trying to maximize my calories.
Its a daily battle but when you realize that for 9 months its not all about you it makes it a little easier. Plus realize even if you make a mistake it's not written in stone....11 months later you can fix the eating mistakes you are making now.0 -
I would just eat sensibly and not worry about how much anyone tells you to gain. This time around I am almost in the obese category even though I don't look it - I am six feet tall and 230 lbs. I just had a baby in Feb and I am pregnant again. The numbers most websites tell us to gain are arbitrary because everyone is different. I know women who have lost weight, who have stayed the same and who have gained like 70 pounds despite exercising and watching what they eat. If you're worried about gestational diabetes or anything like that, watch your carbs and just don't eat too much junk food. I pretty much do whatever I want and as long as my ultrasounds are good and everything else, I don't pay any mind to anyone else. That's just my two cents.0
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Thanks for the input ladies!
I took a long hike today and did a lot of thinking about this. I'll still talk to my midwife of course, but I'm thinking if I can use the next 2 weeks until I find out if I'm pregnant to really get back on track with MFP and exercise, then if I am pregnant I can adjust the settings to maybe just under maintenance and try to maintain for at least the first 12 weeks. Plenty of sources say gaining in the first 3m isn't needed. Then up my cals but still keep the weight gain minimal until 20 weeks, then up it some more. I think just tracking and exercising is going to give me such an edge from my past pregnancies. With my son, I was pretty sure I only wanted 2 kids so the entire 9 months I was eating whatever and telling myself, "I have the rest of my life to get this weight off, why not enjoy it?" But after all of the time and struggle it took to lost the weight I just can't bear to have to do it again. I'd like to keep my gain to 25lbs, maybe 30 - which after my baby is born would only give me 5-10lbs to lose.
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I was on bedrest & gained 34lbs eating junk food & only getting up to pee. I was lucky. I suggest eating healthy & exercising (if your midwife gives the ok) & all the weight gain will be in the belly. Once the baby pops out, it'll all be gone anyways (especially if you bf). good luck!0
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Maybe just try and get a good healthy eating plan sorted now and see what happens, you dont want to start beasting yourself in the gym for 4 weeks and then stop due to sickness and feel bad about it. Keep it realistic something you can keep up through out. I have found that really it's not about you it's about baby and they will dictate what you are and aren't eating. I'm recovering from atypical anorexia and my diet before pregnancy was in my eyes healthy, it wasn't as missing out a lot of food groups but in those 1st 3 months I went from living on salad and veg stir fry to only being able to eat bread cheese etc. My weight didn't go up now at 15 weeks I've gained 2.2kg and able to eat more veges without feeling sick but salad is still a no go. You don't NEED to gain a lot some do some don't but I think relaxing and not putting yourself under too much pressure is important too.
Don't eat donuts for 9 months but if you put on 35 lb don't beat yourself up about it, pregnancy is tough enough and ultimately with 3 kids to keep you busy the weight should come off quick enough.
Good luck x0
