Hi there,

Welcome to our club LOL. There is a lot of information out there about PCOS.. I have had it for most of my life, but dx'd with it after I had my first child. When dealing with TTC and issues that are causing infertilitly it is best to be honest with your spouse so they can help you through it. There is a lot of help out there too.. Talk to your doc about getting you started on metformin. It will help the weight loss and get your cycles normal.

GL

There are some diet and lifestyle changes you're going to need to make, beyond just what a "normal" person would do to lose weight, and it'll be a great help if your fiance is on board with helping you to make those changes and stick to them. I can't promise that he will understand at all what's going on with you but he will at least understand that you are struggling and need whatever support he can give.

From an ethical perspective, while I think that you will definitely get to have kids at some point, it's only fair to let him know that it make take more time, and more money than if you did not have PCOS. It would be one thing if you didn't know, and found out after you were married (happens all the time), but you do know, and it's only fair that if YOU know, then HE knows too. I think that you'd want all relevant information about him before you married him, so it works both ways. He will probably respond how my hubby (then-boyfriend) did: "ok, that's fine, whatever you need from me to help you out. We'll do whatever it takes"

There are lots of good threads already that discuss PCOS and how it differs from "normal", and what it actually means, how it affects diet, weight loss, and TTC. Check out the P.C.O.Sis group too because it's a bit more active and has more general information about PCOS.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/3070-p-c-o-sis

Hope you don't mind, I checked out your profile... FWIW, I started at just under your starting weight, and am now at just over your goal weight, so you can definitely do it! BUT, I haven't been able to lose any more weight since I came off the pill, so with PCOS, we definitely need help with it. You obviously wouldn't want to go on the pill, but definitely (as others said) talk to your Dr about getting on metformin, because that should help.

Aw that must make TTC a little bit tricky!

Good luck with everything!