I don't feel that surgery changes your feelings or thoughts about food. My feeling is that you have to change those things yourself. Surgery changes your habits, but that's because physically, you have to change your habits. I try not to say things to myself like, "I will never have a cupcake again". I have had plenty of the things like that, and frankly, those things didn't really serve me well in the past. Instead I think about what I WILL have - better health, more energy, and I am getting my life back. To me the tradeoff is just fine.

My attitude about food has changed dramaticly. It used to be when stressed or even just angry, I would eat whatever and however much I wanted. After all, why bother dieting was my attitude when upset. Now it's the opposit. If stressed or angry now I just don't care to eat. I still get the bad attitude of "why bother" but just in the reverse.

I worried about feeling deprived and I found that I don't. For one thing, this whole journey was my choice, my decision. I choose not to eat certain things, no one is depriving me. And for another, I don't completely deprive myself. I occasionally work a treat into my food plan for the day because even skinny people have the ocasional cupcake, you know. Also, the foods I could not control myself with I stopped eating before the surgery and I haven't introduced them back into my life. I don't want to find I still can't control myself.

As for cravings, I really don't have cravings per se. I do occasionally think something sounds good, but it's not really a "Oh My goodness! I have to have ...".

I think everyone is different, but attitude is everything. If you can look at this as a choice you made, you won't feel deprived or left out at all.

I was sleeved in July. Like the folks in your support group, I am very happy with my decision. One reason I chose the sleeve over bypass is so I would still be able to eat just about any food, just less of it. I am still tempted by 'bad' foods and everyday I have to decide to eat well. It really helps me that I need to focus on protein first. By the time I eat that, I'm usually too full for a cookie or something I shouldn't have anyway.

Best of luck to you! You'll find lots of support here.

I have not given up any of the foods I used to eat. I just priortize them. As other users have said, you have to be choosy about what foods you eat since your capacity will be much less. I prioritize protien first, then move to starch and veggies. Hitting your protien goals will be hard to do post op. I struggle with my protien goal at 8 months post op. Once you can tolerate solid food, I suggest slowly testing what you can and cannot eat. Log everything and note the stuff that is really calorie dense, and carbs that are easy to eat. These foods are on the ones you need to watch. Carbs like crackers are easy to digest, and are tempting to graze on, but the calories add up quick.

I worried about feeling deprived and I found that I don't. For one thing, this whole journey was my choice, my decision. I choose not to eat certain things, no one is depriving me.

This is pretty much how I feel. I made the choice to have this surgery, and that includes the lifestyle changes that go along with it. I am only about 9 weeks out, and it doesn't even cross my mind if I can eat a piece of chocolate or have a drink. There might be certain things that I WILL have to give up, because they might not agree with me ever again, who knows. I know some people start having certain things in moderation fairly early on, but I will put it off as long as I can. I am going to give my body time to adjust to being new and different. I am not saying I will never eat a french fry again, but I am really focused and right now things like that just aren't on my radar.