you are right and they are wrong. When you start weight/strength training, your muscles may get "pumped" i.e. a one-time increase in size, due to them retaining more water and glycogen. This is frequently mistaken for "oh wow I'm a genetic freak and I gain muscle really easily I'm going to look like the incredible hulk if I carry on like this!". Bulkiness, however, comes from excess fat. You may see a slight increase in size under the fat from strength training, but as you progressively lose the fat you'll get smaller again, and as you lose the fat and reveal strong muscles, you'll look fit and lean, not bulky.

You should definitely start strength training now... you need to look after your lean mass as you lose fat. If you don't, you'll lose lean mass along with the fat, and it's a lot harder to get it back again. As you're in your 40s, there's more risk of that, and it's very important for your bone health as well, because loss of lean mass = loss of bone density. So by doing strength training, you're helping to maintain both bone density and lean muscle, which people tend to lose as they age. If you just diet without strength training, then you risk losing lean mass and bone density, which means when you get to goal weight you won't look as good as you'd have done if you'd done strength training all along, and it's hard to get that back again if you only start strength training later on... plus any loss of lean mass or bone density is bad news health wise. So definitely keep on with the strength training, ignore your friends trying to tell you otherwise, and measure your food portions carefully to ensure you're in a deficit (not too big a deficit) so you can lose the fat, while looking after your muscle.

If you're 43 then you need to start some form of strength training, like, yesterday. Because use it or lose it.

And most people have no idea what they're talking about when it comes to strength training because they hear things they read someplace, and much of that is mostly hearsay based on half truths and old wive's tales.

You'll be fine. Keep on lifting!

Heck I'm 53 with about 10 - 20 more pounds to lose. I started lifting last year. Best decision I ever made.

I recommend you read New Rules of Lifting for Women. I don't follow their workout plan but it's such an educational read about heavy lifting for women, they explain all the "science" behind strength training and why all women should be doing it.

After you're done reading the book you should "innocently" bring up the subject again with your friends and just give them a lesson on it :bigsmile:

I am super interested as well. I have like 50 lb to lose, and I am torn between wan to do cardio for losing weight vs lifting, which I actually like. Many women around here started lifitng heavy AFTER they were close to goal fa level. There is very little example of the ladies with a lot to lose and lifitng heavy.

I am super interested as well. I have like 50 lb to lose, and I am torn between wan to do cardio for losing weight vs lifting, which I actually like. Many women around here started lifitng heavy AFTER they were close to goal fa level. There is very little example of the ladies with a lot to lose and lifitng heavy.

I think there are a lot of people here who have a lot to lose, myself for example. My goal is to lose around 40lbs but that was before, now I want to get in to a size 6 jeans and will be happy with my weight when I get there. I'm overweight and only started SL two weeks ago but I already feel stronger and pants feel a little bit looser. I have no doubts straight training will take me to where I want to be.

By the way, I ditched the scale this time around. I know I get super down when I don't lose nearly as much as I was hoping to lose and that really gets to me so I don't know my starting weight but one thing is for sure: I feel great!

I am super interested as well. I have like 50 lb to lose, and I am torn between wan to do cardio for losing weight vs lifting, which I actually like. Many women around here started lifitng heavy AFTER they were close to goal fa level. There is very little example of the ladies with a lot to lose and lifitng heavy.

You may want to check out some of the ladies that have posted in this thread. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1214103-mad-march-workout-check-in-thread
Many have lost 40 lbs or more. Lifting has helped me lose 24 lbs (I started lifting last year at age 53).

I am in the same boat - into strength training and learn from this group! Just started a month back. I currently train on weight machines and am scared of the barbell! Reading and learning about this and hope to get into lifting!

Not sure how tall you are, but I have the benefit of being 5'8". And honestly, after being on this site for so long, everyone carries their weight differently. I'll never look like anyone else at their weight. And I've accepted that. It's still annoying though when someone looks fantastic, but they're at my weight (granted, they're usually taller and younger than me).

I am 5'7" or maybe 5'7.5" so very close in height. I carry my weight kind of weirdly , mainly in upper arm and lower body. my thighs circumference almost as big as my waistline.