Plenty of nerd girls around imho. Even in my 3rd world country when I get dragged to a club to embrace my crippling social anxiety and attempt to drown it in alcohol I seem to always meet and chat with nerd girls while never with male ones.

Might be fault of the clubs i'm going to, that seem to favour long haired heavy metal dudes that defenitely do not get my starwars/firefly/drwho/blade runner/batman/spaced/insert major nerdism inducing thing/ reference.

Tired as heck of being single, but what I can date is boring and interesting dudes sit at home I guess =(

/rant end.

I think I lost my weight for health and self love, since I was firmly in relationships when i weighted 120kg and when 65,

I find it hella funny I am single now , when I look my best in decade (last relationship broke due to forced long distance and lack of communication, my weight had no impact in possitive or negative sense),

It's like the Fate is telling me "now you look good enough so you can get more *kitten* than toilet seat , but I will send you your way only boring dudes that you cant bond with intelectually, cos I know you got the silly "need to have atleast a crush to bed" notion.

ENJOY THE DRY SPELL, muhahaha etc.

Ok, the rant wasnt ended.

Start from lovin yahself and take care of yourself because your body is wonderfull machine that needs to be respected and cherished, not to get em *****es. Thats bad prioritising and no matter how good you will look, if you hate yourself inside most females will detect it and stear clear. What you will get will be chicks that will attempt to smother you.

Grossly generalising now, I am.

Love yourself, rest follows

Wait did somone actually say, "Enjoy the DRY SPELL??"

I am kind of tired of being single. Especially when today marks 31 years of being single. Granted never have been in a relationship so I could be tired and hating being single because I just don't know any better.

Sorry what did you say after "go down"?

online dating is a soul-crusher. Hate it. I do it, but I hate it.

I agree! I have banned all online dating sites from now on! It was terrible.....

Saddly I have been on match.com for about 3 weeks now and I signed up for a 3 month trial. I know that just like weight loss this is a slow process and it takes time but I will be cancelling my account. I am taking the advice of a few friends here and I am just going to start doing more social activities via "meetup" along with joining a racquetball league and bowling league in the summer. This will pull me out of my comfort zone as well as introduce me to "new" people. The online dating just isn't for me.

My friends are constantly telling me that "I am young", "Got lots of time to find someone", "Be patient!" and it angers me. I am 23 and never been in a relationship. Do I mind that? Not all the time. I have days where I am completely happy and content with where my life is. But I also have days where I wish I had someone to come home to, someone to wake me up with that "Good morning beautiful" text, and someone to hold hands with. I am myself convinced that I will be single for life, this way if I am single for life, I knew it haha and if someone special comes my way, then I will consider myself extremely blessed! I have tried the online thing but I just don't meet anyone I click with. I find people online are hard to have conversations with at times. Bottom line: what happens, happens. I have to accept whatever life grants me.

<--- nerdy Girl. Though define your nerd type. Because I'm a Star Trek nerd, and a science nerd, and a trivia nerd. Not so much a gamer nerd (though Mario has my heart) or a comic book nerd.

I'm getting healthy for my own health. I used to be able to run an 8 minute mile, and I want that back. My relationship with someone who wasn't as active and giving up active time to spend time with them made me more sedentary than I realized. That combined with the fact that because I was under fed when I got married his family would feed me when they saw me and I gained over a hundred pounds. Time to get healthy again.

That said. I have been attracted to a wide range of guys. The thing they most have in common is an ability to make me laugh. Sometimes I approach them, sometimes they approach me. But that trait has to be there.

If you're doing the online dating thing. I recommend full sentences, more than one sentence at a time responses and messages. Ask questions. Treat it like a real conversation you would have with some one.

Well. I'm a nerdy guy. I think being in better shape would help finding a partner, though I agree that confidence is an integral part of it. I have had decent success asking girls out even when not in shape, but I think it helps open doors. We want to have attractive partners, its biological programming.
And yeah, nerdy girls are tough to find.