Child(actually young adult) suing parents for support
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A New Jersey teenager claiming that her mother and father tossed her out of their home and cut her off financially is suing them for immediate support, current private-school fees and future college tuition. The parents, meanwhile, say that daughter Rachel Canning, 18, moved out voluntarily after refusing to abide by their rules.
“We love our child and miss her. This is terrible. It’s killing me and my wife,” Rachel's father, Sean Canning, a town administrator and retired police officer, tells the Daily Record. “We have a child we want home. We’re not Draconian and now we’re getting hauled into court. She’s demanding that we pay her bills but she doesn’t want to live at home, and she’s saying, ‘I don’t want to live under your rules.’” The rules, he notes, include reconsidering her relationship with a boyfriend who may be a bad influence, being respectful, and abiding by her curfew. He and his wife, Elizabeth, who live in suburban Lincoln Park, about 25 miles outside of New York City, have kept their daughter’s car because they paid for it, says Canning, and he admits that they did stop paying Rachel's tuition at the private Morris Catholic High School. A hearing is scheduled to take place on Tuesday in the Morris County Superior Court.
For months, Rachel — an honor student, cheerleader, and lacrosse player — has been living with the family of her best friend and classmate, Jaime Inglesino, whose father, attorney John Inglesino, is bankrolling Rachel’s lawsuit. He’s also requesting in the lawsuit that the Cannings reimburse him for the legal fees, so far totaling $12,597, according to the paper.
So what do you think? My opinion, she is 18 and she chose to leave, welcome to the big bad world. I might have let her keep the car but other than that, good luck.
“We love our child and miss her. This is terrible. It’s killing me and my wife,” Rachel's father, Sean Canning, a town administrator and retired police officer, tells the Daily Record. “We have a child we want home. We’re not Draconian and now we’re getting hauled into court. She’s demanding that we pay her bills but she doesn’t want to live at home, and she’s saying, ‘I don’t want to live under your rules.’” The rules, he notes, include reconsidering her relationship with a boyfriend who may be a bad influence, being respectful, and abiding by her curfew. He and his wife, Elizabeth, who live in suburban Lincoln Park, about 25 miles outside of New York City, have kept their daughter’s car because they paid for it, says Canning, and he admits that they did stop paying Rachel's tuition at the private Morris Catholic High School. A hearing is scheduled to take place on Tuesday in the Morris County Superior Court.
For months, Rachel — an honor student, cheerleader, and lacrosse player — has been living with the family of her best friend and classmate, Jaime Inglesino, whose father, attorney John Inglesino, is bankrolling Rachel’s lawsuit. He’s also requesting in the lawsuit that the Cannings reimburse him for the legal fees, so far totaling $12,597, according to the paper.
So what do you think? My opinion, she is 18 and she chose to leave, welcome to the big bad world. I might have let her keep the car but other than that, good luck.
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First of all the "child" is not a child. She is an adult. I knew 18 year old military MEN and WOMEN that are serving there country. If she moved out, then that was her decision and she has every right to do so. But don't cry about not having any money. Do what the rest of us did when we decided to move out, GET A JOB! Parents should cover the bill for tuition if they put her there. But the car, I don't see gifting a car to an adult that has an entitlement issue.
Now the friend's parent. That guy is a butthead and sees dollar signs. It appears that he's not doing what is in the best interest of the woman but in his own pocket book's best interest. The judge should refuse to see this case and tell Rachel Canning to grow up. Don't attorneys have a code of ethics??0 -
I would only gift the car not insurance on the car, and I would only do that so she has a viable way to get and keep a job...........looks better to the court probably as well
Oh and I would totally try to countersue the guys dad to cover my court cost. 0 -
She could buy the car from me. Fair market value and we can start payments the month after giving her time to get a job and have the car to get back and forth. Write up a contract. Otherwise, this is what happens when you want to wear britches that are too big.
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My two oldest daughters moved out at 18. Got jobs and paid their own way. Neither one went directly to secondary school, but when the oldest went to college 8 years later, after being on her own, she paid for her own college, as I feel she should have.
My youngest went straight from school to college. She spent the first two years away and living near campus. We paid for her expenses. She is back home and finishing her last two years at a local college. We are still paying her expenses.
The scenarios are different for all three girls and they were handled differently.
Once you move out and are on your own, you are responsible for your own life.
I have opinions on this story, but I am not going to comment on it. Too many facts are unknown. I do know, however, that it would break my heart if I were in that parents' position, but I would go to court and fight it regardless.0 -
Family wants her back. She's claiming entitlement. What was the case where the kid killed four people and got slapped in the hand becuase of the new diease called "afluenza." Who knows if it applies here. It's also not helping that the people she is staying with, are telling her to move with this and are also suing the parent's for the $12k+ legal fees. Her parents say she was acting crazy rebelious. Wouldn't stick to cerfews, got in trouble in school constanly among other things. As much as I love my boys, I wouldn't enable a care free, selfish attitude if they're running amock. This young adult is in for a world of hurt. I hope the judge rolls his eyes and throws out the case.0
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The judge denied her requests for support.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/03/04/student-sues-parents-college-tuition/6024457/
So sad on many levels. I hope that I raise my five children better. But you never know the outcome of parenting. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, kids just don't turn out the way that you hoped.0 -
The judge denied her requests for support.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/03/04/student-sues-parents-college-tuition/6024457/
So sad on many levels. I hope that I raise my five children better. But you never know the outcome of parenting. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, kids just don't turn out the way that you hoped.
I'm partially in agreement with you. However, both the child and the parents have some culpability. In addition, our society feeds into this. Children feel entitlement. Parents are now faced with all these politically correct restrictions.
I remember when I was a child and was unhappy with my mom. I threatened to run away. She packed a bag for me and walked me out the front door. I was about 6. I stayed outside, until my father got home. He sided with my mom. I got my act together.
If that were to happen today, Child Protective Services would be involved.0 -
HA!! I told my kid the same thing! One time, about a year ago, my 13yo boy threatened to leave and stay over at the neighbor's house (also his BFF's house) probably because I give him too much work to do around the house. *rolling eyeballs* I said (paraphrasing), "Go ahead! See if they want you there long term!! I can bet you that they won't! And trust me, no one -- NO ONE -- will love you like your mother! Your father maybe, but definitely not the neighbors! They have their own kids to love!! You think that it's so bad over here! Go over there and see what work that she gives her kids! You won't be exempt! She'll put you to work just like I do!! What you do here is all part of molding you into a responsible adult! You want all the perks of being a teenager and none of the responsibilities! Guess what?! You think that it's tough here?!? Wait till you are out on your own and have to get a job to support yourself!"
He decided to stay.
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Yeah. Just saw that she was denied. But there's always that appeal process. Let's wait and see. The other parents suing to get the money reimbursed for the lawyer fees also got declined. What a circus this could turn out to be. As for my kids, my oldest told me once, my teacher said that I'm afraid of you, I can call the police. I said you can do that anytime that you want. And when they take you away and put you in a place where there are a lot of bad kids who will try to beat you up, you'll wish you never caled them. Never heard about that again. Let's see what the teenage years bring.0
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The judge denied her requests for support.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/03/04/student-sues-parents-college-tuition/6024457/
So sad on many levels. I hope that I raise my five children better. But you never know the outcome of parenting. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, kids just don't turn out the way that you hoped.
I'm partially in agreement with you. However, both the child and the parents have some culpability. In addition, our society feeds into this. Children feel entitlement. Parents are now faced with all these politically correct restrictions.
I remember when I was a child and was unhappy with my mom. I threatened to run away. She packed a bag for me and walked me out the front door. I was about 6. I stayed outside, until my father got home. He sided with my mom. I got my act together.
If that were to happen today, Child Protective Services would be involved.
As much as we like to see the past through rose-colored glasses, for discussion sake, I don't think much of that approach. Granted, today, many parents would respond by sitting the kid down for an in-depth discussion of "feelings", taking the child in for counseling, or buying him a new xbox to make him feel more loved. I guess I think there is a effective middle approach between overreacting to the temper tantrum of a 6 yr old and being the overbearing helicopter parent. We are roughly the same age, and I had similar "traditional" childhood experiences and I think they sucked dead bears. They didn't make me or anyone I have ever met a better person. Just loaded us up with a bunch of crap to deal with as adults. Not everything that has changed since the 1950s is bad. Compared to the emotionally distant and repressed parents, sociopathic clergy and nuns, bullying, hypocrisy, racism, and misogyny I saw growing up ( and I had a pretty "normal" childhood for that era), I'll take political correctness, even with its occasional excess.
Political correctness doesn't prevent a parent from setting high standards or maintaining a high level of discipline in their children.0 -
The judge denied her requests for support.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/03/04/student-sues-parents-college-tuition/6024457/
So sad on many levels. I hope that I raise my five children better. But you never know the outcome of parenting. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, kids just don't turn out the way that you hoped.
I'm partially in agreement with you. However, both the child and the parents have some culpability. In addition, our society feeds into this. Children feel entitlement. Parents are now faced with all these politically correct restrictions.
I remember when I was a child and was unhappy with my mom. I threatened to run away. She packed a bag for me and walked me out the front door. I was about 6. I stayed outside, until my father got home. He sided with my mom. I got my act together.
If that were to happen today, Child Protective Services would be involved.
As much as we like to see the past through rose-colored glasses, for discussion sake, I don't think much of that approach. Granted, today, many parents would respond by sitting the kid down for an in-depth discussion of "feelings", taking the child in for counseling, or buying him a new xbox to make him feel more loved. I guess I think there is a effective middle approach between overreacting to the temper tantrum of a 6 yr old and being the overbearing helicopter parent. We are roughly the same age, and I had similar "traditional" childhood experiences and I think they sucked dead bears. They didn't make me or anyone I have ever met a better person. Just loaded us up with a bunch of crap to deal with as adults. Not everything that has changed since the 1950s is bad. Compared to the emotionally distant and repressed parents, sociopathic clergy and nuns, bullying, hypocrisy, racism, and misogyny I saw growing up ( and I had a pretty "normal" childhood for that era), I'll take political correctness, even with its occasional excess.
Political correctness doesn't prevent a parent from setting high standards or maintaining a high level of discipline in their children.
We are obviously in disagreement, and your interpretation of my remarks that I believe everything that has changed since the 50's is bad is not the point I was trying to make. I did not experience emotionally distant and repressed parents, sociopathic clergy and nuns, bullying, hypocrisy, racism, and misogyny. My parents stood together when raising children. They had similar beliefs and goals for the family. My father taught us to treat everyone individually. With respect, unless, and until, that individual gave reason to do otherwise.
My wife and I are very similar in the raising of our children. My only point was that now spanking might be interpreted as child abuse. I agree that there are many times an outside agency should get involved in the affairs of some families, but there are far too many times that they should not.0 -
Sweet little Rachel Canning is now back home with her loving parents. 0
