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jakeya16
jakeya16 Posts: 40
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Today my younger brother (13yrs) told me that he sometimes wonders what it would be like to be s girl and that he wishes he could dress and be like me without getting in trouble. I told him that there is no reason that he should get in trouble for being himself! My question is should I talk to our parents about this so that he won't have to feel like he can't be who he truly is or should I keep quiet and let him talk to them. Please be honest because I live my brother and I want him to be happy no matter what????????

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  • kedickey13
    kedickey13 Posts: 16 Member
    1st- if you don't read afterellen, please do, they go over stuff like this lots and they might have covered it already. Here is an article from 2010, some info might not apply but some might help you come up with an answer, u know? http://www.afterellen.com/styled-out-cross-dressing-cant-happen-in-schools/04/2010/

    Ok 2nd- It sounds like your little brother wants to cross dress/ play dress up as you (his older sister who he looks up to and loves).
    Does that sound right? You probably need to talk with him and see if this is just him wanting to be more like you or if possibly he considers him self in the wrong body, or clothes. I think it would be good for you to understand what he is really trying to get at before mentioning it to your parents. Not that him dressing in clothing that is standard for women is wrong...IM ALL FOR ANDROGYNY and what not.

    I think because he entrusted you with this information you should dig a little deeper into his wants and feelings before you bring your parents into the fold. However, if he does tell you that he would like to cross dress on a daily basis it would be best if (just like if you were coming out) he tells them what he would like and you stand by his side ready to help him if your parents become upset or worse. I am sure he is curious about many things in his life and you are right he should be able to express himself fully...he just might need to do it with the security of you around.
    Just my $.02...hope it helps.
  • thewhitedragonfly
    thewhitedragonfly Posts: 33
    I don't think you should. However, if he decides to make long-term changes, you should support him, whether he "comes out" or not. :smile:
  • ThePinkPanda
    ThePinkPanda Posts: 208 Member
    I would not out him, especially without his consent. he trusted you enough to confide in you and it would be a disastrous breach of trust to bring it up to anyone else, especially parents. I doubt he'd trust you with other aspects of his life afterward. like others have said, talk to him first; it could just be a passing whim or a desire to emulate you. Even if it isn't and he truly feels this way, it's not your place to tell someone else unless he was planning to hurt himself over it. that's just my opinion.

    if you truly want to be helpful to him, support him and maybe point him in the direction of lgbt services in your area. a quick internet search should yield some good links and resources.

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