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julieworley376
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Morning darlings and I just caught Remy eating a flashlight.. rolls eyes. That dog will chew anything. Luckily she didn't chew the modem.. its working. For those who don't know Remy is my German Shepherd, she is just a year old and a bundle of untamed energy. We did obedience class last night and she was wonderful! Well.. the odd nip at my heels to herd me and she refused to look at me when we were weaving in and out of cones because she was too busy guiding ME. She would make a fantastic guide dog for the blind. On recall she ran to me when I called her and came to a perfect sit right in front of me every time. As I want to compete with her in obedience I was thrilled with her. NOTHING I could eat could compare with those moments with her to be honest.
So I guess that is my conversation starter for today. What moments could food never come close to comparing for you? Are there any? Could you expand on them so that food becomes less important and more the enjoyable fuel to get stuff done you want to do?
So I guess that is my conversation starter for today. What moments could food never come close to comparing for you? Are there any? Could you expand on them so that food becomes less important and more the enjoyable fuel to get stuff done you want to do?
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Good morning! Wonderful story, Julie, and wonderful question for the day!
When I think of a moment that fills me so much more than food, I always think of Skippy McGrape. That's the play name of my neighbor's son, the one we use when he, sock monkey, and I go adventuring. Jim and I don't have children, and our neighbors have been extraordinarily generous in letting us be Mom2 and Dad2 to Skippy. They also struggled for years to get pregnant and realize what a miracle their little boy is. For us, Still's Disease just stopped our plan in its tracks.
Anyway, when I'm with Skippy, at the pool, in the lake, painting in the studio, or just curled up on the couch watching Power Rangers, I am so full of joy and love that food means nothing.
The other activity for me, is writing. When I'm caught up in a story, food becomes unimportant.
School is out in a few weeks so I'll get more Skippy time. And writing... I just need to make it a priority over housecleaning and facebooking and watching crappy television! Which I think I will start today!0 -
Oh I just love it! I relate with both your stories so well! So many things are so much more fun then food for me! But absolutely I wouldn't trade my daughter's laugh, smiles, giggles and seeing the world through her eyes any day. That is the best part. Honestly, getting to enjoy everything as an adult through your child's eyes for the first time is just so much better then when you did it yourself. Like going to the zoo and seeing all the animals, seeing her swim and letting go and the realization on her face when she knows she us doing it on her own. The excitement she gets when she sees her Nana after months and even the heartbreak when she has to say goodbye. It is all so much more fulfilling then any bite you could ever take. Not to mention the hugs, the cuddles, the kisses.
The dog. Oh my God. My Odin dog is the only thing that truly wants me 100% of the time. He just wants to love me and be loved. Again, there is no feeling like it. Taking him for a car ride fills my heart with such joy. I can be going to get fast food for my husband and not even want one fry because I am so happy to see my Odin boy with his head hanging out the window and smiling ear to ear. And yes, they DO smile.
Here is Odin at the Whataburger hoping they give free samples...
Here is my baby girl having the time of her life on grandpa's boat wanting to go faster faster. She is a speed demon.
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For me it is a moment I have not experienced yet...but I know it will feel glorious!
Sitting on my husbands lap! It sounds simple...but I have been obese for most of my life. I've never had a boyfriend (including my husband) that I felt comfortable sitting on the lap of...it just always looks so romantic when I see other couples sitting that way.
As for doggies, I have two: A 15 year old mutt named Miss Daisy and a 2 year old Australian Shepherd named Mrs. Dalloway (we call her Dally for short) Julie, I totally understand the energy level and herding instincts that come with a shepherd!! My Dally has chewed up not one, but two, directive remotes in her youth. Now that she is two the chewing (although not gone completely) has subsided a bit. At least now she usually knows to stick with wrappers and paper products instead of things that will make mommy and daddy furious.
We also have four cats: Mister Dorian, Sir Basil, Doctor Watson, and Madame Bovary (Madelyn for short). As you can see we have a thing with literary character names going on...
Angie0 -
Good Morning!!
Great stories everyone! I think for me it is my girls, they are my joy, my love and my life. Hence the reason I am working to get this weight off once and for all. I want to live to see them graduate college, get married and have kids. I want to be the fun grandma who can do things with the grand kids one day, but right now I just want to be able to run and play with the kids and see the enjoyment up close rather than sitting on the sidelines. Also my husband, he's my number once supporter and I want to live to be old and grey with him, and if I didn't get rid of the weight I would be in an early grave I have no doubt.
So I will gladly give up my obsession/comfort food to spend the rest of my life happy & enjoying my family!!!0 -
Love these stories. I'm going to keep them in mind all day.
Angie, thank you so much for signing your post! I wonder if we can get everyone to sign with a name or nickname? It's tough to come up with one from some of the usernames.
Karen (in Maine)0 -
I can relate to so many of these. For me also, it involves my children...Right now my 5 year old (in my profile pic) is often just filled with moments of sheer joy. I can't help but just watch her skip along and smile... She is so carefree and happy...This is better than any food. I am trying to enjoy those small moments more instead of rushing through my day and missing them...
Dana (in Wisconsin)0 -
I feel like i should make up a child to join the conversation, oh how the parents would be happy that one of their children finely managed to give them a grandchild. But alas, no progeny.
This is slightly depressing, I am trying to think. These last two years I haven't had much, wich explains why my issues with food exploded out of control in that time. The times I can remember when I was so consumed with a passion for what I was doing that the high of food could never touch was when I was working on a piece of work for an exhibition. That was in college. Working on a project, prepping for an exhibition, would consume every bit of me, I felt alive. I felt like I was doing something of value that made me extremely happy. I can't say I have really had that working the past two years...
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I am in the same boat that RatPat13 is! No kids...but I do have a slew of cats....9 to be exact! Not sure I would give up food for those furballs...as cute as they can be at times! I think when I am wrapped up in doing a craft...I like to make jewelry or knit a bit, so I can forgo food while doing those things.
Nancy (home is Arizona....work in Saudi Arabia)0 -
I feel like i should make up a child to join the conversation, oh how the parents would be happy that one of their children finely managed to give them a grandchild. But alas, no progeny.
This is slightly depressing, I am trying to think. These last two years I haven't had much, wich explains why my issues with food exploded out of control in that time. The times I can remember when I was so consumed with a passion for what I was doing that the high of food could never touch was when I was working on a piece of work for an exhibition. That was in college. Working on a project, prepping for an exhibition, would consume every bit of me, I felt alive. I felt like I was doing something of value that made me extremely happy. I can't say I have really had that working the past two years...
I guess I know what I need to do!
Rat, what kind of project, what kind of exhibition? Curious minds want to know.0 -
Nancy, when I went through an eating disorder program a few years ago, they really encouraged us to develop artistic hobbies. It's SUCH good mind-body therapy. I've been putting together an art studio since then. Not really a "studio" per se, but in the winter I take over the dining room where I have shelves full of art and crafts stuff. In the summer, we set up a screenhouse on our big deck and put a table in there for me to art and craft on. At night, we plug in some fairy lights and it's a wonderful place to have friends over for a swim and a porch dinner. Keeps the mosquitoes off of us.
I LOVE working in clay. Before Still's disease, I used to throw pots on a wheel, but one of the joints this disease really ravages are my wrists, so I hardly throw any more, or if I do, it's very small amounts of clay. I also have trouble wedging the clay (you sort of "knead" it like bread dough, only you're pushing air out instead of in, which limits what I can do, so instead I buy my clay new (it's kind of pre-wedged) and roll it out for some hand building. Once I get my photobucket account set up, I'll post a picture of some of my clay whistles. LOVE to make these! I also started to fool around with watercolor painting and paper mache. Funny thing is, when I'm working on an art project, I lose track of time and don't think about food AT ALL. Hmmmmm... like Rat, I guess I know what I need to do!
Jim and I also love to play Rock Band together. We both play some guitar and other instruments and sing in "real life," but aren't good enough to actually play in a band, so the game version to us is awesome. We used to play all the time and have sort of dropped it, but I bet with a little nudge, he'd love to play again too.
I'm really rolling with this topic today. I've been thinking about not just want I love to do now and today and next week, but imaging all the things I'll be doing a year from now when I'm so much thinner and moving much more easily. I really needed this. I've been feeling so discouraged lately about slow progress, and, of all things, my legs! The other day, I put on a pair of gray pants (the're kind of stretchy, loose, palazzo type pants). I have another pair, same size, but in black, that I wear all the time and ordered the gray for a little variety. Well, when I put on the gray, I could see every ripple and dimple and bulge in my thighs, which floored me. I mean, I swim and swim and swim--how can I have dimply fat on my thighs??? Then I really looked in the mirror (which I usually don't), and not only have my legs gotten super cellulity this past year, but I have an extra inner thigh fat roll that I didn't have last year. I am soooooo discouraged. Oh, see that? Off I go into depressed over my fat land again. Well, I need to let this go because I am working on fixing it. It will just take some time. In the meantime, I can art, craft, sing, play with Skippy McGrape, and write novels to keep myself busy and away from food.
Day two of no carbs--just ate salad and chicken for lunch. nom nom nom.
Karen (in Maine)0 -
For me it is a moment I have not experienced yet...but I know it will feel glorious!
Sitting on my husbands lap! It sounds simple...but I have been obese for most of my life. I've never had a boyfriend (including my husband) that I felt comfortable sitting on the lap of...it just always looks so romantic when I see other couples sitting that way.
Angie
Oh, I can't WAIT for this moment too!!! And wearing his shirts.0 -
Well mine is definitely my son. I sit and listen to him play sometimes and really try to make a point of having at least one time a day where I just feel appreciation for him. When I was pregnant I had some heavy bleeding and thankfully didn't lose him but had a **** pregnancy puking all the time violently till they gave me meds. (Easy way to quit smoking and not put on loads of weight though!) So after going through all that I truly am thankful.
I really need to pick up my cross stitch more though, or get back to online gaming. I lose track of time with that for sure, but thing is then I forget to prep dinner sometimes so we just get take out, or I 'forget' to do my exercise so it gets pushed back. When I find a good game, both DH and I like, sometimes we get a little too into it!
I am having a blurgh day. Not bad, not great, not full of energy but not tired enough to nap and then feel better. Just blurgh. Plus my butt hurts where that nerve is, I had some issues with it a few months ago and now I have to really be careful that it doesn't flip out on me after exercise as that is real pain! Hmm was this too much sharing? lol
Natasha (Quebec but originally England).0 -
My girls. Especially when they are smiling and laughing. Now that I'm exercising, my 2-year-old joins me for the first 5 minutes or so. Then she just sits and watches me. I take a ton breaks and after one I was breathing especially hard. She started breathing hard too. I said, "Why are you breathing hard? You're not to anything." She said, "May May watching."
Apparently I'm so out of shape that just watching me is hard work.
I've started P90X back up. I don't remember it being this hard. I have to take a break after every move and I can't eat right before I start.
Also, do I have to eat my exercise calories back when I have this much extra weight? I've had trouble eating my 500 breastfeeding calories back. According to the online calculator I use, I can burn 700-1000 calories per day at my current weight using moderate effort depending on the work out. That's 2780-3080 calories per day. I can't eat all that unless I go back to junk.0 -
My girls. Especially when they are smiling and laughing. Now that I'm exercising, my 2-year-old joins me for the first 5 minutes or so. Then she just sits and watches me. I take a ton breaks and after one I was breathing especially hard. She started breathing hard too. I said, "Why are you breathing hard? You're not to anything." She said, "May May watching."
Apparently I'm so out of shape that just watching me is hard work.
I've started P90X back up. I don't remember it being this hard. I have to take a break after every move and I can't eat right before I start.
Also, do I have to eat my exercise calories back when I have this much extra weight? I've had trouble eating my 500 breastfeeding calories back. According to the online calculator I use, I can burn 700-1000 calories per day at my current weight using moderate effort depending on the work out. That's 2780-3080 calories per day. I can't eat all that unless I go back to junk.
I don't usually eat back my calories. I think MFP WAY overestimates the number of calories burned. If I find myself ravenous after a few days of big deficits, I'll up my protein for a few days.0 -
Also, do I have to eat my exercise calories back when I have this much extra weight? I've had trouble eating my 500 breastfeeding calories back. According to the online calculator I use, I can burn 700-1000 calories per day at my current weight using moderate effort depending on the work out. That's 2780-3080 calories per day. I can't eat all that unless I go back to junk.
If your using MFP's numbers then it is designed for you to eat back your exercise calories as the deficit already exists in your net calories. But as Karen says, if your using MFP's database to find and log exercises they have a tendency to be off, they are averages and usually you don't have to provide enough information for the calorie burn to be very accurate. I use my Fitbit to calculate my BRI and my exercise calorie burn so I am a little more trusting of my numbers but even then I only eat back a portion just encase. I'll only eat that portion if I am still hungry, though i do try to consume something after a long workout. The only problem with not eating back some of your calories burned above your BMR is you can create to large of a deficit and consuming fewer calories then your BMR needs. But if your eating to your goal or close enough and burning a moderate number of calories you should be fine.0 -
I feel like i should make up a child to join the conversation, oh how the parents would be happy that one of their children finely managed to give them a grandchild. But alas, no progeny.
This is slightly depressing, I am trying to think. These last two years I haven't had much, wich explains why my issues with food exploded out of control in that time. The times I can remember when I was so consumed with a passion for what I was doing that the high of food could never touch was when I was working on a piece of work for an exhibition. That was in college. Working on a project, prepping for an exhibition, would consume every bit of me, I felt alive. I felt like I was doing something of value that made me extremely happy. I can't say I have really had that working the past two years...
I guess I know what I need to do!
Rat, what kind of project, what kind of exhibition? Curious minds want to know.
I graduated with a degree in studio art and an emphasis in conceptual information art and my practice was largely interdisciplinary.0 -
I'm another one that has to say my kids and my husband. But more so my kids. My husband is Type 1 Diabetic, so we are starting to see the signs of his decline in health. I really think that is what was the final boost I needed. I can't lose him and then have my kids lose me too just because of something I can control. So I will do this. I have to do this. I will not let my kids down any more. It will take me awhile, but I will show them that they are way more important than any food out there!
Diana (in Maine)0 -
With you there Diana, my husband is also Type 1, he has peripheral diabetic neuropathy and he also has proliferative rhetinopathy. Twice in the last year I had to call 911 because I woke up next to him in a coma. Kudos to you for thinking of your family and working for them.. they do need you and so will he.
RatPat and Karen and all our creative people.. let's have threads to show off your creativity.. I would love to see photos, knitting, painting, sculpture, cross stitch.. whatever. I really don't have talent in anything but writing and dancing.0 -
Oh Julie I love the idea of having a thread to show off creativity! I'm so excited to see what all you folks do!
This question is difficult for me because while not all of my favorite things involve *eating* food, I get great satisfaction out of cooking, baking, and candy making. Even a lot of my social time is centered around food -- trying new restaurants, having dinner parties, meeting up for coffee or tea. Kind of eye opening to think about!
I do really enjoy taking walks around the city with Ben (my fiance) and my other friends, though. I think I'll try to set up more social things centered on exploring and walking around. It always seems easier to come up with things to talk about while walking, too. I love sharing new experiences with people, and it seems like there's always something new to see.0 -
Today has not been a very good day for me for reasons that I just can't pinpoint. It started off ok but went downhill very quickly. My food is way off the charts and I've gotten very few of my steps in today. It's just an off day. I'm even going to call it an early night which might not sound like a big deal but for me it's huge. I'm rarely in bed before 1 or 2 in the morning. Hoping to shake whatever this is, put on my big girl panties and jump back on the train tomorrow.
Dee (Missouri)0 -
Today has not been a very good day for me for reasons that I just can't pinpoint. It started off ok but went downhill very quickly. My food is way off the charts and I've gotten very few of my steps in today. It's just an off day. I'm even going to call it an early night which might not sound like a big deal but for me it's huge. I'm rarely in bed before 1 or 2 in the morning. Hoping to shake whatever this is, put on my big girl panties and jump back on the train tomorrow.
Dee (Missouri)
I have been there Dee....for the past week I have been down with a cold/laryngitis etc, but feeling better today...so I am picking myself up and moving back on track!!! Helps just reading about everyone else too! We can do this.....one step in front of the other and move forward!!! Hope you have a better day today (OK, better day...when you wake up)...these time zones really mess me up!!
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Oh Julie I love the idea of having a thread to show off creativity! I'm so excited to see what all you folks do!
This question is difficult for me because while not all of my favorite things involve *eating* food, I get great satisfaction out of cooking, baking, and candy making. Even a lot of my social time is centered around food -- trying new restaurants, having dinner parties, meeting up for coffee or tea. Kind of eye opening to think about!
I do really enjoy taking walks around the city with Ben (my fiance) and my other friends, though. I think I'll try to set up more social things centered on exploring and walking around. It always seems easier to come up with things to talk about while walking, too. I love sharing new experiences with people, and it seems like there's always something new to see.
I am a baker, too, Norah, and really miss it. My neighbors and friends do, too, LOL. At some point I'll try baking with almond and coconut flour and Stevia, but right now I just have to stay away from it too.0 -
Also, do I have to eat my exercise calories back when I have this much extra weight? I've had trouble eating my 500 breastfeeding calories back. According to the online calculator I use, I can burn 700-1000 calories per day at my current weight using moderate effort depending on the work out. That's 2780-3080 calories per day. I can't eat all that unless I go back to junk.
If your using MFP's numbers then it is designed for you to eat back your exercise calories as the deficit already exists in your net calories. But as Karen says, if your using MFP's database to find and log exercises they have a tendency to be off, they are averages and usually you don't have to provide enough information for the calorie burn to be very accurate. I use my Fitbit to calculate my BRI and my exercise calorie burn so I am a little more trusting of my numbers but even then I only eat back a portion just encase. I'll only eat that portion if I am still hungry, though i do try to consume something after a long workout. The only problem with not eating back some of your calories burned above your BMR is you can create to large of a deficit and consuming fewer calories then your BMR needs. But if your eating to your goal or close enough and burning a moderate number of calories you should be fine.
I think the problem with using MFP'S numbers l is that they use a standardized formula for a BMR . I'd definitely work with your doctor on a calorie goal for you based on age, medical conditions, medications, and dieting history, etc. For example, I'm 50, peri-Menopausal, have an IUD, am hypothyroid, take daily prednisone, weigh over 450 pounds, and have yoyo dieted for 40 years. Even though I burn at least 500 calories each day at the gym, my nutritionist has me stay between 1300 and 1500 calories per day to lose 3-4 pounds per week.0 -
Okay, my last post Today, I swear!!!
Do any of you know anything about Lipedema? I'm wondering if I have this. I mean, I'm pretty sure I have regular fat fat, but I think I have lipedema fat too. When I Google images of lipedema legs, the pictures all look like my legs, my mother's legs too. My mother's legs have always been disproportionately large; mine too. Even though I swim hard for hours, my legs don't get thinner; in fact, they just keep getting bigger.0 -
This is just not my day... It started out well and thats about it. I have achieved very little and had the energy to do very little else, and the craving voices are strong tonight, just like last night.0
