Check In July 3, 2014
KarenZen
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Good morning!
Another hot, sunny day here. If you need me, I'm in the lake!
First time in fifteen years we aren't having a blowout July 4th party for fifty people. Whew. I will miss the fun but NOT the work.
So what recipes are you remaking for the 4th? I'm going to try some sugar free and gluten free strawberry shortcake. Yum.
K in Maine
Another hot, sunny day here. If you need me, I'm in the lake!
First time in fifteen years we aren't having a blowout July 4th party for fifty people. Whew. I will miss the fun but NOT the work.
So what recipes are you remaking for the 4th? I'm going to try some sugar free and gluten free strawberry shortcake. Yum.
K in Maine
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Good morning!! Finally I feel like I can come up for air! Still many changes happening in the workplace, I know now I won't be changing jobs c'est la vie. I have a feeling it is going to be a very quiet 4th for us, just us and the dogs and maybe a cookout.
Tonight I have a meeting at the dog club and will finally be voted in as a member. This is great as we get discounts on classes and our finances are not good at all for the next few months so I am excited about that.
I really haven't been tracking at all, reacting to all the turmoil I think but I have been eating healthy if that makes sense. I just made a commitment to go to the gym and use the pool at least 3 times a week and that will help me more than anything else.
Special recipes for the 4th.. I don't have plans to but I am going to look some recipes up, our 4th may be quiet but it doesn't have to be less of a party with only two of us.0 -
Oh yeah.. and I am Julie in Illinois.0
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Julie!! You have a new picture! I see your puppy! Adorable!
Will y'all slap me if I tell you I am making this...
http://bit.ly/1pKiww6
They told me to to bring fruit and veggies so..... :bigsmile: Seriously, you gotta have SOME fun! I am bringing unspiked fruit and veggies too.
We are staying home for the first time in ages but still have a mini-bash planned with our two favorite couples and their kids. This is starting to become an every weekend thing with us. Not the bash, but the getting together. It's actually really nice. We are meeting in the morning to wear the kids out swimming and hopefully negate some of the calories we plan on ingesting later in the afternoon with the amounts of food and drinks they have planned.
As usual, I know me and I will nibble on the food and binge on the drinks. Hey. I am honest. HOWEVER, I am going to have a plan in place this time so I am not feeling it the next day and have an upset stomach for a week. I am going to make myself have a whole bottle of water inbetween drinks. I think this will improve my chances of overdoing it greatly AND increase my water at the same time. WIN-WIN. I just plan on having a great time and hopefully not overdoing it with 3 bottles of wine this time. :sick:
I have some pre-4th pics to share if you would like to see.... I was up until after 1AM finishing my Patriotic Wreath. I am trying to sell it locally to help pay for one of my friend's Dog surgery. I am not asking for money here but rather than typing out what happened, here is the story. http://www.gofundme.com/av50i8
The Wreath (It's HUGE)
My Little American girl dressed up for School today!
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PS, I am wearing a dress today in like... OMGODS, Forever!!. I feel weird. :huh:
However, it is12 sizes smaller then my biggest size.0 -
Your patriotic wreath is beautiful as is your daughter.0
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Morning everyone. Finally made it home and this morning got up and took a 45 minute brisk walk in the neighborhood. Beautiful morning. As for the 4th....him we are BBQing (with a propane grill coz of the fire restricitions here), maybe I will make some homemade Hummas. Love that stuff with cucumbers!!!! The weath is absolutely beautiful!!! Jealous of you Karen, I would love to spend the day IN the lake too!!
Everyone have a great day!!!
Nancy (currenlty in AZ for a couple weeks!)0 -
Happy almost 4th! Heather, the wreath you made is gorgeous!!! You are so talented!!!! Have you thought about selling them on Etsy? Very easy to set up a shop there, and then you" advertise" by word B-) of mouth.
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Happy almost 4th! Heather, the wreath you made is gorgeous!!! You are so talented!!!! Have you thought about selling them on Etsy? Very easy to set up a shop there, and then you" advertise" by word B-) of mouth.
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Hello duckies,
I am in a crappy space today, just because I'm not feeling well and not sleeping well. Best thing I can do is jack up the prednisone dose for a few days, eat very light, and get my swim time in. Instead, I want to lie on the couch and eat chips.
My house is still crazy with guests, and I'm looking forward to throwing them all out and tossing the food out too! I love the visits but am ready for a break. Hubs is on vacation too and wandering around looking forlorn. He didn't make a fun plan for his days off and doesn't quite know what to do now, especially since I am not a good eating partner any more.
Which actually is an interesting thought... as I've lost mobility from Still's and obesity and we've started aging, we've stopped doing a lot of our favorite activities and the fallback has been that we started eating as a favorite activity. As I lose weight after bariatric surgery, I'll be able to get back into the kayak and canoe and do some of those fun things again. So right now is a transition period.
Today is the day that the surgeons review my file for my sleeve! Woohoo! Keep your fingers crossed!
Karen in very humid Maine0 -
How exciting Karen! Not the over-extended visitors or forlorn hubby part, but the surgery getting closer and closer!
I can totally relate with the eating and hubby activity thing. That is pretty much all my husband liked to do when we first met. Going out to eat was our only outing. He is getting more and more pissy with me at work lately that I don't want to go with him to lunch or that I will go with him but not eat. I try to explain to him in the nicest, calmest way possible that I am trying to stick to my plan and that even a salad or whatever doesn't sound good, but he gets mad. He doesn't understand why I don't want to eat out everyday.
#1 COST!! It is so darn expensive. It is bad enough he is doing it, but when you tack on 2 meals, it is usually over $20, that is $400 a month just for lunch.
#2. I am usually NOT hungry. I know I am supposed to be working on eating lunch, but I try to pack some berries and cheese and yogurt and I eat that when I can and that gets me by. It is TOO hot to eat or even go out.
#3, He NEVER knows where he wants to go. He always leaves it up to me to decide although I am not the one eating and then once again, gets mad at me for not eating. So, what happens is we spend half our lunch driving around in the heat looking for a place to eat and wasting gas where he once again gets mad at me for not eating and I have to spend 30 more minutes defending myself.
I have tried talking to him about this when it isn't lunch time so he isn't hungry and grumpy and might understand better but it is in one ear and out the other because the next day, he is messaging me again through our instant messaging system at work.
Part of the problem is his job is very relaxed and mine right now is very busy. He is bored, I am overwhelmed. He wants to eat, I just want to hide. And yes, hide from him too. I do not recommend working with your spouse. LOL.
Last weekend when we went out to lunch with friends, I had to preface the lunch on the drive over there with asking him please to not embarrass me or get mad at me for not eating but I really was not hungry and I knew we were short on funds and did not see a point in ordering food if I wasn't hungry. He was fine that day. But, as soon as payday rolls around, it is pressure time again. It's like until we are down to $20 in the bank.. he just doesn't get it.
Life does NOT have to revolve around food, especially fast food or restaurant food. He is so addicted to it, 75% of the time anything I suggest making him at home he snarfs at. I am kind of at my wits end. I know i have talked about this before. Sorry, you bringing that up about the hubs and it happening again with him today just got me going again.
I know it is an addiction. I myself can get addicted to it. I was getting a high right along with him when he first started working here. I was looking forward to lunches, for that hour break where I could get away and stuff my face full of grease and fat. I craved it, so I get it! I also get his point I can order a salad, so honestly my excuses are lame sometimes but $10 for some lettuce and dressing that I don't even like.. no thanks. I can make better ones at home.
Thank you for the comments on the wreath. I can't seem to sell it.
No hits. Part of the problem is I learned how to make them from a girl that runs our community Facebook page. She saw someone was selling them and said hey, if you want to learn how to make these, come over and I will do a quick 10 min demonstration. So, I went over and saw how to do it and thought hey, I can do that. Well, everyone else in the community did too! Haha. So, I guess no one wants to buy it. I can't really sell it to people far away because it would cost a fortune to ship! It's huge.
Honestly, I just made it hoping that someone would buy it and I could give the money to my friends for their dog's surgery. I feel so bad for them. They are really good people and they pretty much spent all their bill and mortgage money to save their dog. We are just trying to get them by this month. Gonna have to come up with some more creative ideas..0 -
Oh ditto above. Remy you see in the photo almost bled to death when I got her spayed, which I used a voucher for. She spent a very expensive night in the emergency room in February and they saved her but the only thing we could do was take a high interest loan we are stuck with till September! It's truly horrible and we are doing all we can to get by and get through this, so I know exactly how they feel.
I know it's not helping one bit at the moment that extra pressure too and I certainly hate wishing my summer away like this so this is over and done with. We will NEVER do this again. EVER.0 -
Went out and played badminton today for the first time in years. Well I say played but lets use that term very loosely! Was a lot of fun but I was pretty red and sweaty. Still it is nice to have something to do with DH, have our son see us both being active, and have something fun to do together outside that also gets in some exercise. Next time I must take out a bigger bottle of water lol. I just hope I can persuade DH to do it on a regular basis, badminton for one is not possible!
No plans for July 4th being as I am a Brit in Canada. DH works tomorrow so DS and I will go to the park for a bit, maybe go to the paddling pool at grandmas if it is nice. Eat our sandwiches outside.
Natasha (Canada)0 -
Had a fairly slow day, went for a bike ride this afternoon but had to end it early as a got a flat and just didn't want to change the back tire in 84 degrees. The bike store is closed so i can't get things sorted till after the 4th. No plans for tomorrow, just work. Maybe take a walk down to my old middle school and watch the fireworks going on over at the fair grounds, or maybe not.
It's been a bit of lazy two weeks int he food and exercise end of things. But I had a nice long walk last night, the bike ride today and another walk this evening so things are picking back up. I forgot how good it can feel after exercising.
Now the need to go back out int he heat and install my new floor mats (got to enjoy the car while it's still in good shape till i do something to it).0 -
I totally hear you about food and hubby issues. I'd your husband overweight too? Is he trying to lose? V Mine says he is but he doesn't want to give up his junk food either. At least he knows I won't buy it for him or eat it with him.
I've been working on co-dependency and boundaries in therapy... so hard!!! I have terrible boundaries! My shrink tried to explain that I should pretend I'm wearing a magic cloak. It keeps me self-contained, allows me to exist separately from other people's needs and emotions. That way, I can still see/experience/respond to the needs and emotions of others, I just don't have to FEEL their feelings or take on their needs like they are my own.
This is a huge lesson to learn at 50. And definitely related to why I eat/stuff myself. I am so depleted by everyone else, that I try to fill myself back up with food. On days when I have good boundaries, I always eat less!
Heather, you might want to try making a list of the food boundaries your hubby is crossing and negotiate a solution. Even if that solution is that sometimes he is going to be a whinebag because you don't fetch his cheeseburgers, you get to ignore him. Maybe eventually he'll realize that bad behavior isn't going to win him any prizes. Must be so frustrating! I found myself in the same position today, all upset because of Jim's bad mood and disappointment. Finally I realized, hey, he's a grown man. If he wants to do something , he'll do it. I learned to tiptoe around moody men from my mom, and it is a FOOLISH habit that needs breaking!!!
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I am a terrible enabler. He is overweight but not too bad. He has lost 75lbs since meeting me and kept it off all these years. I hate to think what he was like before me. Ack. But yes. I give in to him because i am the ultimate peacekeeper. I learned that growing up in my family. Dont rock the boat, make everyone happy, try to get everyone to calm down and see all sides...thats me. I just cant stand people being upset at me. Like tight now i cant finish this because he is mad i gotta go put the kiddo to bed because he is incapable.0
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I hear you, honey. I'm biting my tongue right now... if I apologize and suck up, peace will be restored even though this silent anger is not my fault. Restoring peace is y middle name. But you know what, I' m going to let Jim stomp around and be a douche and just ignore him today. He's not really angry with me--he's angry because he messed up the budget and overspent and now has no money to spend on his vacation. Not my fault, not my problem, not my responsibility. Annoying as *kitten* though.0
