Very Sad News

Hello to my VSG community of very supportive friends. :smile:
I haven't been reading or posting on the site since my mom passed away on Tuesday.:sad:
Although she was quite sick with declining health and a very diminished quality of life, it came as quite a shock for the family that things took a sudden turn on Tuesday evening.
Along with dementia, osteoarthritis, normal pressure hydrocephalus and a narrowing heart valve she had contracted an infection which we tried desperately to get proper treatment for last week. She was receiving some treatment for it but it was not aggressive enough.
Anyway, I won't go into further detail about the turn in the last 6 hours of her life but the family is very relieved that she is out of her suffering.
You have all been such a huge support to me since I joined the community when I started this journey last winter and I wanted to let all of you know where I have been all week and that although I'm track to eat the little I am, I don't think I'll be back regularly on the forum till after the funeral next week.
I am still keeping my consult appointment with the surgeon on Sept. 30 but even if I am offered a December surgery date which I am now expecting because my consult has been delayed, I will ask for a January surgery date, especially if it gives me a better chance of getting the head surgeon who operated on me before for a laproscopic incisional hernia repair unrelated to weight loss surgery.
I was gonna wait till after the funeral last week but while tracking tonight I thought I would check in and let you all know why you haven't seen me in the forum the last few days.

I only had 1 day where I ate off-track through this so far. I gave into some of my sisters take out pizza (her weekly order or takeout since she moved in with me). The other days have all been under.

I hope that everyone is doing well. Thank you all again for being a family so to speak.
I really feel a strong connection to this forum and the members in it. We know that life never stops happening but that we are here to encourage, support and respect one another.

Wishing everyone a good weekend. :flowerforyou:

Bye for now.

Replies

  • dsjsmom23
    dsjsmom23 Posts: 234 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss
  • phwright8
    phwright8 Posts: 4 Member
    My aloha and prayers to you and your 'ohana!!!
    Stay strong and do what's right for you. We will be here when you're ready.

    Malama pono,
    -Hau'oli
  • Aquafinaflo
    Aquafinaflo Posts: 18 Member
    I am so sorry to hear about your lost. I send my prayers to you and your family.
  • Thaeda
    Thaeda Posts: 834 Member
    So very sorry. :flowerforyou:
  • rpyle111
    rpyle111 Posts: 1,060 Member
    So sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with your family. We're here when you need us.
  • Very sorry!! Glad you checked in & have a plan for your long term goals!!! Now you have an extra special angel rooting you on from above!!! Take care!!
  • Living4me123
    Living4me123 Posts: 52 Member
    So sorry for your loss...thoughts and prayers for you and your family <3
  • kittenincalgary
    kittenincalgary Posts: 91 Member
    Im so sorry to hear about your loss
  • So sorry to hear about your Mum. My thoughts are with you.
  • weeziebeth
    weeziebeth Posts: 168 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter how long someone has been sick or the severity or how prepared we think we are, losing someone close is painful. I pray you, your sister, and your family can lean on one another and take strength from each other in the days ahead. Laugh, cry, share memories, rejoice, and mourn....love one another.

    Praying for you-for strength, peace, and hope.....E
  • Shoefly318
    Shoefly318 Posts: 69 Member
    So sorry for your loss
  • Ksh1055
    Ksh1055 Posts: 248 Member
    I'm oh so sorry for your loss and so glad you were able to take a few minutes to let us know what's going on. I can empathize with you and your post brought tears to my eyes. Hoping you get through this emotional time and have all the support you require. Consider this a huge hug from me. Also, condolences to your family.
  • Losing_Sarah
    Losing_Sarah Posts: 279 Member
    So sorry for your loss. (((Hugs)))
  • afk1
    afk1 Posts: 88 Member
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I remember feeling the same as I lost my Mom almost 4 yrs ago (9/26) I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. No matter how "prepared" we think we maybe, seems when it happens....there is no feeling of being prepared, God bless you all in this time.
  • garber6th
    garber6th Posts: 1,890 Member
    I am so very sorry for your loss. We are all here for you.
  • Cathiesunday
    Cathiesunday Posts: 19 Member
    My sympathy goes out to you.
  • homerismyhero
    homerismyhero Posts: 204 Member
    I am so sorry. Take care of yourself.
  • lucyw70
    lucyw70 Posts: 37 Member
    So sorry to hear about the passing of your mother. I lost my mom 7 years ago unexpectedly and I understand how the loss of a loved one can have a deep impact on you and your family. I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers during this tough time.
  • MistyHiker
    MistyHiker Posts: 175 Member
    Thought, hugs and prayers during your time of sorrow. Sorry for your loss.
  • Liongoddess
    Liongoddess Posts: 107 Member
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Pleats know that you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
  • So sorry. We'll all be here when your ready. xx
  • asia1967
    asia1967 Posts: 707 Member
    Take care of yourself, there is nothing worse then losing a loved one!
  • pawoodhull
    pawoodhull Posts: 1,759 Member
    So sorry for your loss! No matter how it happens, it's never something we can be totally prepared for. Be good to yourself during this time and remember all the good memories. Will be praying for you and your family.
  • elifusa
    elifusa Posts: 45 Member
    My deepest condolences to you my dear. I lost my Mom last year. It's really tough. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
  • relentless2121
    relentless2121 Posts: 431 Member
    Thanks to all of you for your sympathy and prayers. The funeral was yesterday and it was a beautiful and loving Celebration of Mom's Life. It was done with faith, love, grace and even two Don Williams songs. lol. That was her favorite singer and I know how meaningful and therapeutic his music was to her. The service closed with Chris Tomlin's version of Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone) and Paul Brandt's "How Great Though Art. The pastor read out a eulogy from me and my sister and my niece got up and read her own out loud (she is a rock). The reception was a great time for family and friends to celebrate her life and talk about favorite memories. God gave me the strength to contain my emotions. For some reason it kind of seems like it hasn't really hit me yet and that has me kind of concerned. I think I have just been in "survival mode" and "action mode" doing what needed to get done but I don't think the actual grieving her loss has really hit me yet. It has me very concerned with upcoming surgery, which I have decided to postpone till January. There is no way I'm going to be on a liquid fast for two or three weeks over the holidays and/or recovering from surgery as well as spending my first Christmas without my mom. That would just be too cruel.
    Also, my sister and I have have a lot of legal responsibilities to fulfill including cleaning out mom's apartment and house out where my hoarding mentally ill sister was still living in until recently.
    I am so very grateful though that my mom does not have to live on and suffer. We were praying for her to go quietly into the night and things happened very quickly. It truly was a blessing as her quality of life was diminished and so was her quality of life.
    I know she is watching over me up above with my dad.
    This support group is one of my most helpful tools and I plan to work my way back up to daily contact.
    Wishing everyone a great weekend.:smile::heart:
  • asia1967
    asia1967 Posts: 707 Member
    I am glad that the service was a good time for reflection on your mom's happier times and focusing on her qualities. Now she can rest peacefully and pain free.
    As for you, you have many things that you are dealing with. The realization of the loss of your mother will come when it is time. We all mourn in our own ways and times.
    You sound as thou you still have quite a few difficult tasks ahead of you still. Remember to be kind to yourself and to take all the time and rest that you will need.
    All the best, Tracy.
  • relentless2121
    relentless2121 Posts: 431 Member
    Thanks Tracy for all of your support during this difficult time. You are such a huge support not only in my VSG journey but just in my life as a whole. :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • bikrchk
    bikrchk Posts: 516 Member
    SO sorry. Hang in there.
  • rpyle111
    rpyle111 Posts: 1,060 Member
    Take your time and make sure to also take time for yourself. You are strong and capable and will get through this. We're here when you need a respite or support.

    Rob
  • authorwriter
    authorwriter Posts: 323 Member
    I just saw this. Please accept my deepest condolences.

    hugs.