Me seeing the bigger cloths while folding cloths got to me too.

My hubby even suggested I get rid of everything that I no longer fit in after I told him how I felt.

He said so I'll get used to seeing my new sizes.

Good idea?

FAB idea!! I refuse to wear anything that does not fit. I want to get used to seeing myself in fitted clothes so I can grow accustomed to my new bod. Plus, now that i can wear "normal" sizes, can shop anywhere-- and it is fun!

I go through the same thing - sometimes it's hard for me to believe what I see in the mirror. I will pick up a shirt and think, this will never fit, and it does, and it shocks me lol! Sometimes I still see myself as I was before, which is ridiculous. My friends are very good at talking me off the ledge when I get all weird about it - one friend calls it "having one of your crazy moments". If someone looks at me, I still think, "what, you've never seen a fat girl before?", because that was what I would think before. I have felt like an imposter at times, especially when I would go into regular size stores. Most of us are just plain conditioned to see ourselves a certain way because that's how we have seen ourselves for so long. I am making a conscious effort to really own my progress that I have worked so hard for. I always tell my therapist, "you are really earning your money with me" lol.

I second what Thaeda said about getting rid of old clothes. Wearing clothes that fit can make a big difference in how you see yourself. You have done a really fabulous job and you should be so proud of what you have accomplished!

Yep you need to have a clear out. It takes a while to get to know and accept that stranger in the mirror but you will. My best moment in my weight loss was when I weighed less than my oh. As he is nearly a foot taller than me it finally felt like the world was right!!
Jennie

Hi, I agree with everyone else, ditch the clothes that don't fit. Shed it like a skin.
I have read on here (in the USA) that there are lots of places that kind of do swaps for women losing weight, where you get to give your clothes to someone who was bigger than you are, who now fits into yours and you get to swap for others. I don't think there is anything like that here in Australia, you could do recycled until you get to your goal, so that you are not attaching yourself financially to every size you drop. (Unless of course you have the money, then by all means, shop for each new size !!)

There is an exercise in a Louise Hay book called Heal Your Life that may be very appropriate for you. It is about looking yourself in the mirror and telling that person you love them. You could extend that to being unclothed in front of a full length mirror and tell all your bits and therefore you that you love yourself. It can be a getting to know your changing body exercise too.

I also think it's very important to be nice to the fat you - I know people do inner child kind of visualisation exercises. Imagine the fat girl who was unhappy about herself (even if she didn't have to be or had so much to give anyway). And give her the love she needs.

These are both things that I found very difficult (I didn't do them for body related issues though I have those too). But it feels good to acknowledge yourself, and if it's really tough keep doing it. (I couldn't look myself in the eye - meaningfully-, let alone tell myself that I was okay or worthy of love).

On a lighter note (ha ha) I was with an ex at the time, but I had lost a large amount of weight and I remember saying to him I bet I could fit into your pants now, he laughed; but when I proved I could, he went on a diet right away (silly because he wore a size 32/34 pants anyway).

MistyHiker wrote: »

Me seeing the bigger cloths while folding cloths got to me too.

My hubby even suggested I get rid of everything that I no longer fit in after I told him how I felt.

He said so I'll get used to seeing my new sizes.

Good idea?

Yes! I have gone from a size 34/4X to an 18/XL so far and I got rid of all but one leather coat I am trying to sell. I don't want to have anything to go back into. It makes it more permanent for me.

I agree with Thaeda too. I fear regain and have to keep reminding myself that regaining is a choice. I don't have to out eat or out drink the plan, I can make these permenant changes.

It takes time for our minds to catch up with our bodies, so be patient with yourself. But also, move forward by getting rid of your "fat" clothes. You really will feel better.

Pat

I think one of the things I was most excited about was when I could start wearing my fiancés t-shirts. He has some XL and some L. I'm now into his Large t-shirts (women's XL) and it still excites me to wear one of his shirts around the house. I eagerly await the day when his Large shirts are too big for me!

I concur with what everyone else has said...get rid of those big clothes! There is no point in keeping them. I don't think we always realize how far we come until we get brave enough to try on that next size down.

I had garage sales to sell my too big clothes and made over $400 on clothes alone. I would buy clothes from thrift shops and discount stores like Ross, Marshalls, and Burlington. I didn't see the point to spending a ton of money on clothes that I anticipated being too big within a few weeks/months. I focused on getting staple items. You don't need a ton of pants. Just get a few that fit you really well and you can recycle them throughout the week. Then get some simple inexpensive shirts. People are less likely to realize on Friday that you wore the same thing on Monday if it is just solid colored items. Avoid patterned items if you aren't trying to replace your entire wardrobe.

I also realized that I could hold on to dresses a little bit longer than I could the pants and shirts. You can really tell when pants are too big, but with a dress that is too big you can add a belt to synch in the waist. I also focus on tops that can do double duty- that I can pair with some dress pants for work or wear with jeans on the weekends.