First is he supportive of this lifestyle change for you and understanding he needs to help by supporting you? Second does he need to have lifestyle changes for himself or is he fine? Remember if he is not ready for any changes he might be having issues with the new changes in the house. And you just need to say while here I would ask you support me by not having food that temps me or does not support my new lifestyle for a while. That does not mean while we are apart you cannot indulge in stuff you like for lunch or out for dinner with clients etc. Just communicate with each other that is the best advice I can give you. My husband still occasionally asks me if I want something I have told him time and time again I cannot have. They just do not think the way we do at times, and that is okay as really we got ourselves into this we need to get ourselves out of it. Just support, support, support is what we need from them, not a commitment to a different lifestyle if they are not ready for it. My husband orders what he wants when we go out to eat now and I will either ask is it okay I just share yours? Or I will get my own and package up what I do not eat and save for him or for another day for lunch etc. But we communicate that is what is MOST important!!! And remind him why you are doing this to be healthier and live a much more active lifestyle with him.

My husband has enjoyed all the new recipes I cook now. Quinoa kale patties are the current favorite. zucchini tots, summer squash pizza crust, posole, noodless lasagna soup, farinata. potroast with sweet potatoes, carrots and parsnips. chili and manwhich are still on the regular menu along with lasagna made with eggplant planks instead of noodles. i just make quinoa instead of rice, sweet potato instead of white. My husband and daughter still eat whole wheat pasta and whole wheat tortillas and bread. we all love light bologna and cheese. i mean our menu is actually larger than it was. i just eat the meat and veg and they eat meat , veg and a whole grain starch. we never ate processed food anyway so it really hasn't been a big deal. get out the crockpot and make him some nice healthy versions of his regular food. you wont be too tired after surgery to dump a roast in the crockpot. My husband also loves that at ALL TIMES there is yogurt, cheese, protein bars, jerky, pre cooked bacon, slim jims, Beanitos cheese puffs, yogurt dip, dark chocolate chips, light bologna, vienna sausage and skinny cow ice cream bars in the fridge or pantry. i ask him every week what meat he wants me to cook for him. roast chicken, pork tenderloin,potroast etc. Try this and see if it doesnt soothe his fears

my husband's life hasn't changed much, as far as food goes…I still cook the same stuff I always did. Before my surgery I thought he was a bit weird, too. I think he was actually internalizing his nervousness about the whole process and the unknown. Maybe that's what's going on with your husband? Mine is definitely enjoying having his wife's old body back lol (minus the stretch marks that 5 kids brought along).

Hi all,
I want to say that my husband has been really supportive, mostly because as the weight comes off I am a little more flexible ( :blushing: grown up talk here) so he loves that. He has also embraced the turkey meatloaf, turkey burger patties, turkey sausage, vs ground beef/chuck. He still loves his sweets and junk food which are still a struggle for me, but I do not restrict him from those. I just eat frozen oikos greek yogart when I want ice cream, chocolate covered almond and Adkins bars and treats for my sweets fix. Food wise he doesn't complain about what I cook and when he is home early he will call and ask what I want him to cook. He encourages me to continue to work out and if I want to sleep late he will say, in his drill sargent voice" the gym is call you. He even encourages my afternoon walks, He doesn't go with me yet but we did just get new bikes so hopefully soon we will take bike rides together. His personality hasn't changed, again he is happy about the flexibility. He loves me either way, big or smaller but has really grown fund of the smaller. Good luck

My husband was a little worried about the surgery in general as my surgery date approached. He was and is completely supportive, but surgery is still scary, and he definitely carried some anxiety about it until it was all over. Perhaps that may be some of his odd behavior? Good luck with everything though!