How do you cope with rude players?

estitom
estitom Posts: 205 Member
edited November 9 in Social Groups
You know what I'm talking about :s Unforunately, I'm very emotional, so rude interactions really get to me. Do you have any nice advice? I don't want to quit the games I like just because some people are a**holes.
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  • Asheea
    Asheea Posts: 211 Member
    Try to ignore them or put them on /ignore. I'm very much an introvert and love playing solo or with friends more than idjits. In WoW I wouldn't do LFG or LFR because it was full of idjits. Diablo I only play solo or with my husband. I never play open to public games. It's made my play life a lot more fun and less stressful.

    Good luck! *hugs*
  • JeffInJax
    JeffInJax Posts: 232 Member
    edited January 2015
    To be honest, every single game community out there is going to have a lot of horribly rude people. Competitive team based games like league of legends or DOTA even more so. You have to learn to brush it off or ignore it entirely. People generally don't seem to care about manners when there are no consequences.
  • TheCrawlingChaos
    TheCrawlingChaos Posts: 462 Member
    I don't play many games where I'm interacting with random people. I play a little COD but I always have everybody on mute. I also used to play Smite a lot. I'may not great with many characters so occasionally I'd get yelled at by one guy taking things waaaay to seriously. When that happens I usually just exponentially increase whatever I'm doing just to screw with the person. If they can't be constructive and help people worse than them by explaining what was done wrong then screw them.

    The game doesn't mean as much to me as it does to them apparently so that's how I get back at them. Childish I guess, but also hilarious when they get even more mad, and sometimes it gets them to quit and everyone else has a better time.
  • bostonwolf
    bostonwolf Posts: 3,038 Member
    Ignore/block them
  • Another tip is find/research servers where the admin is like minded and is not afraid to boot the troll.
  • x_Minerva_x
    x_Minerva_x Posts: 78 Member
    I usually just fight fire with fire. Don't let them ruin your gaming exp. Or you could just take the high road and /ignore the player :)
  • eggcluck
    eggcluck Posts: 36 Member
    Getting into a flame war is just pointless especially if the other side is stubborn and ignorant. These days I just ignore them but take delight if there rage is because they got but hurt. Some games are worse than others, I stay away from crap like DOTA2 where players will report you for whatever fake reason they can make up if they think the team lost because of you.

    In times gone by I used to tell them to stop or a DM/Admin would remove them, of course they would call BS and got worse so I removed them since I was the DM/Admin ^^ . But not anymore. Sometimes I wish I could still do that but its a thankless task with endless abuse from players and I do not have the free time to give to it anymore.
  • oxers
    oxers Posts: 259 Member
    Depends on what kind of game you're playing. Some genres are better known for horrible people than others. In MMOs, I tend to ignore it, flag it if they won't shut the hell up, and focus on playing with people I enjoy talking to. In MOBAs... to be honest, I don't play many of them because I hate the community attitudes so so so SO much. It sucks that this *kitten* curtails my favorite hobby, but there it is. If I can't enjoy myself, there's no point in playing.

    MOBAs are the only games I've ever had that problem with, though. I choose my FPS titles based first on the game and second on the community. There are some great options out there!
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    I generally /ignore them, and/or report them. Occasionally I might call them out on it, but usually not. SWTOR is my main game and it's primarily grown-ups, so there's not so much teenage posturing as in some other games I've played before and although you do get the odd a-hole, mostly the community feeling is really nice. Same with LOTRO. The Guild system in SWTOR seems to keep a check on rudeness and bad behaviour at top levels as Guilds don't like the bad rep of having an *kitten* in their guild and it's really hard to do endgame content if you're not in a Guild.
  • jessupbrady
    jessupbrady Posts: 508 Member
    Unfortunately, there is not a whole lot that can be done about it. If you consistently play at a specific time; then you might find a few individuals that you can form a group with.
    I'm usually in SWTOR and I still play solo as much as I can. When I've been in groups no one has really talked much. However, if you don't know what you are doing they are not likely to lend a hand; they just kick you from the group. I usually try to save group quests and if I find a group i can play well with I try and go through the other quests as well with them. Usually, most of the group will keep going until all of them are done.
  • MarziPanda95
    MarziPanda95 Posts: 1,326 Member
    I don't play multiplayer games for that exact reason. People scare me too much.
  • E_Goldfish
    E_Goldfish Posts: 21 Member
    I also usually /ignore in MMOs. This is a bit tougher when I play fighting games. In general, I ban myself from the headset so I either can't hear them, or just can't reply. The best response is to ignore and then win. :D
  • soldier4242
    soldier4242 Posts: 1,368 Member
    I love multiplayer games. I am not willing to give up on the highly rewarding experience of working together with a team of gamers to achieve a common goal. I rarely get to the point of actually /ignoring them. I do my best to change the community. My successes have been few and far between but I have had some successes.

    Some people just want some outlet to vent off the frustrations that have piled up in their real lives. Some people just act out when they know that they can speak without being seen. Some people are just *kitten*.
  • caddir
    caddir Posts: 150 Member
    I play Lotro mostly, and often follow world chat but if there are jerks on there I use /ignore. I'm usually on an RP server so the is little offensive stuff, though we did have some griefers and at first the DMs were very slow about reacting, last time they were quicker.

    It annoys me that there are some ppeople who want to ruin other people's fun. I think they are mainly teenage boys.
  • LisaFlag
    LisaFlag Posts: 22 Member
    In every game I've ever played, there's a mute/ignore button.
  • DaFibble
    DaFibble Posts: 152 Member
    I hate really nasty trolls. I just can't deal with them, not because of what they say but because their intention to hurt me or others just totally ruins a game for me. If I didn't love highly competitive games it wouldn't be an issue.

    What I tend towards nowadays is playing with people I know personally or have past good experiences with. If you're overtly friendly online its easy to build up a network of people who have a similar disposition to you. Then, if someone is being a jerk, players are more likely to pull together and kick, or simply ignore, some idiot who is trying to ruin everyone's fun.
  • kiragami
    kiragami Posts: 73 Member
    I block them but if you're stuck in a game just ignore them.
  • c0untingsheep
    c0untingsheep Posts: 159 Member
    Mute or block the person. I try not to feed their need for attention.
  • AtomicCupcake1
    AtomicCupcake1 Posts: 65 Member
    I'm the same Way, and I just got a clan of my friends together and we all played in party chat every night. So much fun!
  • ayamagali
    ayamagali Posts: 167 Member
    I don't get hurt by them, but I'll report if they're totally obnoxious and rude and clogging up the rest of what I should hear/read! GTAV can be brutal :s
  • TheArchyBunker
    TheArchyBunker Posts: 1,967 Member
    I play EVE Online. Rude is normally. Get on fleet comms and the FC is raging. Best thing is just remember they are an idiot and dont know *kitten* about *kitten* when it comes to you.
  • bethsapphire
    bethsapphire Posts: 7 Member
    I currently play League of Legends and there is a mute button for the players so you can just stop seeing whatever they type, although when they are on your team this isnt super helpful in regarding to play incase they say something useful to xD
  • jesseg1989
    jesseg1989 Posts: 49 Member
    I usually find the mute option and toggle it on.
  • cosmiqrecovery
    cosmiqrecovery Posts: 171 Member
    in destiny i never turn on my mic to strangers or join group voice chats. people there are pretty chilled out compared to other games i've played. just do your thing and mute them so they can scream into the void instead of your ear.
  • alikonda
    alikonda Posts: 2,358 Member
    I got pretty tired of the League of Legends community but have been really enjoying Heroes of the Storm. There's no global talk in-game, so there's very little smack talk and I have only VERY rarely encountered someone on my team being a jerk. Everything is a bit more laid-back, which is kinda nice.
  • thehexenbiest
    thehexenbiest Posts: 114 Member
    I'm the same. I struggle with social anxiety, even online, so I don't play many social games. Pretty much just WoW.

    How I deal with those players depends on in what way they're being rude. I had a person pretty much stalking me ingame just to keep telling me that my gear sucked, I should get this and that, yadda yadda, but not in a nice and helpful way. I play for the story and love questing, not a big fan of raids, dungeons, etc., so I don't collect gear. They wouldn't accept that, so I just ignored them.

    But another time, a group of higher level chars kept camping by a mob that needed to be killed for a quest and they'd kill it every time, so none of us low levels could finish our quests. Those are the situations where I have no problem being the party pooper and reporting them to a DM.
  • megzchica23
    megzchica23 Posts: 419 Member
    I have encountered a few rude people in Halo 5. One time these guys told me I was trash. So I just didn't shut up the whole match as was completely annoying. I talked super high pitched and was like, "Oh look at me I'm just a dumb girl couldn't possibly know how to play Halo..." Then I was the second best on our team. One of those guys only got like 1 kill. So I was like, "Whose trash now... suck it."
  • rowlandsw
    rowlandsw Posts: 1,166 Member
    I have social anxiety so i have my setting set so only friends and friends of friends can deal with me. Usually in game i just report them for being idiots. This is also why I can't do much in destiny as LFGs scare the hell out of me.
  • megzchica23
    megzchica23 Posts: 419 Member
    rowlandsw wrote: »
    I have social anxiety so i have my setting set so only friends and friends of friends can deal with me. Usually in game i just report them for being idiots. This is also why I can't do much in destiny as LFGs scare the hell out of me.

    That makes me sad. That is why I never find many gaming friends either. I had tons of friends on WoW ages ago because I never had to voice chat with them. My fiance has like 400 xbox friends. He will just play with people and make new friends all the time. So the only time I play with other people is with him. Otherwise I have to game alone. My stupid brother doesn't play xbox anymore :( and my sister has it but I can't get her to ever play with me.
  • thehexenbiest
    thehexenbiest Posts: 114 Member
    I had tons of friends on WoW ages ago because I never had to voice chat with them.

    Oh god, voice chat! *breathes into paperbag* When I was new to GTA Online, I joined this session with strangers and suddenly they started talking and I just dropped the gamepad and was like O.O Luckily they were some Spanish people and just talking amongst themselves, not expecting me to pitch in.

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