We actually have the book Five Love Languages did a study on it at Church some time back. I found the book so insightful I bought the Five Love Languages for Children. Its not something we fight about as much as we have different experiences from the same event. It only really comes up when we have opportunity to share the story with others when relevant. And each time it is shared it brings up that feeling of something was stolen. I know I should not feel that way because so much protected that day also.

Journeywithyou wrote: »

We actually have the book Five Love Languages did a study on it at Church some time back. I found the book so insightful I bought the Five Love Languages for Children. Its not something we fight about as much as we have different experiences from the same event. It only really comes up when we have opportunity to share the story with others when relevant. And each time it is shared it brings up that feeling of something was stolen. I know I should not feel that way because so much protected that day also.

I'm glad to hear all of this ^^. I hope you can continue to work on getting your feelings on it to where you want them to be, but saying you shouldn't feel a certain way is insulting to your feelings. If you want to change them, that's on you - and you're well equipped to do so from the sounds of it. Getting over my miscarriage was one of the hardest things I've ever done, as well as accepting not having more kids, facing secondary infertility... It occurs to me, why are most of my mental issues woman/mommy related? That's crazy. Guess there's more time for thinking on this front, too. LOL

I get waxed regularly. It lasts a good month before I need to do it again.

ShrinkingBerry wrote: »

Thank you - My husband does not get why I am sad because of this. We have three beautiful children and likely we would not have any additional at this point with the struggles even getting pregnant. But I feel that was a choice he and I should have made and not one made for me by the doctors. I get the why but it does not change how I feel that something was taken from me.
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I definitely understand that. My husband never thought he was going to have kids so he feels lucky for the two we have. I, however, grew up as part of a large extended family and wanted lots of kids, three as the bare minimum, so I feel completely cheated by this syndrome. Unprotected sex for 8 years has not resulted in a single pregnancy. Now my kids are older (12 & 14) so even if I could fix it to get pregnant, it'd be like starting a whole new family and that's not what I wanted either.

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Same here. I wanted a big huge family too. Like a bakers dozen but id settle for half a dozen. I got one. I love her I do but I feel like Im missing something in myself, like a part of me is missing. I mother everything i come into contact with but it isnt the same. Id love to have adopted, I didnt even need them to be my biological children but because of my one childs disability that wasnt possible either. The miscarriage I had in september was a huge blow and now my one child will be 18 in 3 weeks.

Life just isnt fair sometimes.

So Just know there are many of us here who feel your pain and frustration and sympathize with you as much as we possibly can.

I tried a lot of things, most didn't help at all. I was having to pluck my chin daily and the ingrowns were a nightmare. A home electrolysis kit didn't work and was difficult to use. Then bought a Flash n Go laser. Best purchase ever. I got outside consults but found it very expensive and so embarrassing. A lot is gone and can do touchups whenever I need to. Results take longer for me, assuming due to the PCOS.

I had laser hair removal and it permanently got rid of the hair for me! Was the best thing ever, I contemplated it for awhile as I wasn't sure about the pain etc. I had tons of anxiety when I was about to have it - but it doesn't hurt. As the other girl mentioned, you do need a few treatments to rid it, I personally had 3 and that worked. But I hear the average is about 5-6.

Up until a couple of years ago i used to have a clump of thick hairs that would appear on my chin almost daily, plus various hairs on my cheeks and around the corner of my mouth and i would have to pluck daily. Also used an epilator stick type thing that you roll across your face, kinda like a spring almost. Those things worked, but the obsessive daily routine in a mirror was terrible, and the state i would get into if i couldn't quite pluck a hair properly, i'd dig them out leaving cuts on my face. Also drank spearmint tea, as i had read some where that this could help... I decided to buy a phillips lumea precision ( it did cost me about £400 but i bought it through a catalogue company over a year on interest free credit) I was so worried because in order to use it, i had to remove the hair first by shaving, and people always say whatever you do dont shave because it makes it worse, but i was desperate. It took a few months to really make a difference but the hair seemed to become finer and eventually stopped appearing, so i stopped using and after about 6 months hair started to return but it is still resonably fine, so i have started reusing and its virtually gone again, well worth every penny for me. I also take metformin prolonged release ( as i suffered terribly on the other type) Been on and off metformin for at least 10yrs ( slow release for about 3yrs) during the 10 yrs i have managed to lose 8st so far, couldnt lose any weight prior to metformin. Ive still got about 6st to go so im far from weight managed. If you have the funds available its well worth the money, I swear by mine. Good Luck everyone xoxo

If I shave won't it grow back thicker? Also I have the PCOS acne so if I wax will i brake out more? I don't want to spend the money on laser scared it won't work like some have said it grows back.

KnitOrMiss wrote: »

It is so wonderful to hear some of the successes you ladies have found. I was listening to a web show yesterday, and it was going on about how internet research and groups like this are the best way for people to gather information and apply it in their lives until the medical profession catches up with reality! "The Power of Crowd Thinking" or something like that was the name of the book referenced (or one of them). I found the who idea fascinating!

That is interesting! I have definitely gained a lot to add to whatever I learn from my drs/nurses.

I mostly pluck the hairs that pop up. I want to try the magic shave powder for my legs though. My leg hair is black and coarse and grows back so fast, yet my skin is very sensitive so I'm prone to really itchy, irritated skin (that can last for several days) and razor burn. I live in a hot, humid climate; it would be amazing to be able to just wear shorts every day without thinking about whether my skin can tolerate being shaved again so soon.