February 20
Mrs_Hoffer
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Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
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Can I motivate my significant other to work out?
“What should I do when my partner or spouse is unmotivated? I’m exercising more and making changes to my nutrition, but they’re having none of it. How do I get them on the same page?”
Yeah, this can be tough, because our significant other’s habits have a HUGE impact on us.
When our priorities don’t line up, this can create a lot of friction in the relationship.
But should we address it?
Can we actually make someone else change?3 -
Sunday
Exercise 60
Tracking complete
Calories under
3 pass days remaining5 -
Happy birthday to you today @makattack220 🥳 Hope you are enjoying a wonderful trip and special time with your family.
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Topic. I would say just as no one can push you to lose weight you should not expect a so to be pushed unwillingly. I think leading by example is the best that can be done. At some point your lifestyles may diverge totally. Sad but true.6 -
Exercise: no
Tracking: yes
Calories: no
Coming in to the last week of February I am going to try to be better at hitting the targets each day. I joined halfway through the month and my only real goal has been to check in every day to get into the habit, which has been achieved so far. In march I want to commit fully to the challenge, and while I don't expect it to be a perfect run I think it will be easier if I start getting a bit stricter now already.8 -
20/02/2022
Exercise – yes
Tracked – yes
Calories – yes
Wet and windy again today, so a very short bike ride down to the shops and back, but I have also done cardio and planking exercises.
Todays’ question – a very tricky situation.
I was married for over 20 years to someone who was a smoker and a drinker (not quite alcoholic but became quite a heavy drinker). He was always promising to change – “when the baby’s born”, “when this stress at work reduces” “when I start the new job” etc etc. Nothing ever changed. Until after I left him. The children told me he stopped smoking and reduced the drinking after I left. So, was it something to do with our relationship? Or did my quitting bring home to him what he was doing?
Now, I’m in a relationship (we don’t actually live together) with someone who doesn’t smoke, is a very minimal drinker, but he has some odd ideas about health and nutrition. I supply information from time to time and I cook healthy meals for us when we eat at home, but I try to turn a blind eye to his food choices when we’re out. He’s a 72 year old adult who has lived on his own for about 30 years (since he split up with his wife) so he has managed to keep himself alive and fairly healthy. He is on statins for cholesterol and ignores my advice about dietary changes but he’s a sentient adult able to make his own decisions so I have given up giving advice.
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Yes x3
You can't change people, only support them.
I'm lucky that my husband and I have both been on a permanent self improvement drive since before we've been together so he gets it and I don't need to poke him.
I will say don't put yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. I often see in here it similar spaces people saying "I want to cook healthily but my husband gets mad if I do." And it makes me feel so mad for them. My husband knows where the shop is if he doesn't like what I'm cooking. He knows how to get himself dinner. He's would never dream of telling me what to cook. Stand up for yourselves guys7 -
Sunday Feb 20
Exercise: Yes walking
Tracked all: Yes
Calories under: Yes
(0 pass days used)3 -
✅ Exercise: 82 mins
✅ Calories: under goal
✅ Tracked
Remaining pass days: 3️⃣
I don’t try to change my SO. It would be a waste of effort. However, I do plant subtle ideas, which often bear fruit.
Fortunately, when I started on this journey, he was fitter, and healthier than I was, so was very supportive of what I was trying to achieve.
He makes his own choices. I wouldn’t want it any other way.3 -
✅ Exercise: 40 minutes walking, 40 minutes swimming
✅ Calories
✅ Tracked
0 pass days used ( )
I worked out for many years before my husband ever used our family gym membership. Now he is the one sometimes pushing me to get out and go with him when I would prefer to stay in and walk at home. I dont think it is necessary to do anything about their lack of desire to exercise, but at times their desire to do things with you will give them a little nudge.
However, I think it is fair that at times when you feel vulnerable, that you can insist that the other person not eat food in front of you that is not on your plan if there are other alternatives. They can eat whatever they want when you are not together, but they can at least distance the food that is not intended for you at home. Also, one of the advantages of being the primary cook is you can decide whats for dinner.
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2/3 pass days. Tracked logged exercised and enjoyed my Carmel chocolate waffle cookie ice cream I ate the whole thing now I am 🥶!
I have stopped trying so hard to get hubby motivated. I have decided that I will put that energy into me to become a healthier person. I can’t want it more then he does, he is an active person but has some habits I wish would go away. When he is ready to change he will, I know when I had my moment it changed me forever.3 -
February 20. 2 pass days used
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes, 30 minute HASFit arm workout
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes
A couple of comments regarding the topic. My husband doesn’t do a formal workout. He has always said he gets enough activity. This is my journey and if he wants to join me he can. He does eat my cooking so I know his diet is okay. 😁. I let him add the extra butter if he wants.4 -
@makattack220 - Happy Birthday!! Hope you had a great day!
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes, 40 minutes Peloton bike and 15 minutes stretching.
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes2 -
Happy Birthday @makattack220
I think people do what they want to do. The old saying is "you can bring a horse to water but you can't make him drink". It is easier if your partner supports you in your journey. I'm lucky in that mine does. He will help me by encouraging me to exercise, or not give in to junk food, fill the tires up on my bike, skim the pool etc. If I cook a low calorie food that I want to save just for me, he will honour it. He doesn't cook very often and when he does it's not generally low calorie. A lot of times he cooks for himself and I cook for myself. We do not sit down and eat a formal supper together. Generally I eat dinner before him because I have acid reflux and am an insomniac. Therefore I like to eat about 3 hours before bed and a lot of times I'm in bed early in order to get a decent number of hours of sleep (broken up). He eats later than I do and goes to bed later.
I logged all but did go over and didn't exercise. I ate within maintenance calories though.4 -
X ✔✔ No real exercise today as we were riding in the car most of the day again. We're in Edenton NC for hubby's bday. I made him a chocolate Ding Dong cake and I wasn't even the slight bit tempted to eat any!! Sorry I haven't been online much, but it's difficult for me to get into the community with just my phone.5
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Yes x3. Really active and productive day ending with yoga. I’m thankful I’ve had very minor symptoms so far. Some sniffles and a bit of sneezing.
My hubby has back and fatigue issues that hinder his activity level, but he likes to walk and bike. He does almost all the cooking but he’s incredibly picky and typically sticks to simple meat, veggies and a starch meals. It’s easy to make good choices based on the options and I’m thankful he’s supportive. He could make better food choices and I remind him of it, especially when I know it’ll lead to digestive issues (which he’s got problems with) but he makes his own choices (and deals with the consequences!)4 -
Feb 20
Exercise: yes
Tracked: Yes
Calories: Yes
(0 pass days used)5 -
Feb 20 (I WILL make Champion List! 🏆)
Exercise: 🐱👤 4th decent exergame day in a row
Logged all: 🐱👤 6th day in a row
In Range: 🐱👤 4th day in a row
(🐱👤 = 3yes day; 🙈 = pass day )
🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤
🐱👤🙈🐱👤🙈🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤
🙈🙈🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤🐱👤
Pass days used: over 33 -
pass day3
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2/20
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? 👍🏻
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? 👍🏻
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? 👍🏻
[Documenting consistency (if there is a P=instead of number its a Pass Day)
UAC: 1-2-3-4-5-8-7-8-9-10-11-12-13-14-15-16-P-18-19-20
February goals
1 Miracle Morning ~ S.A.V.E.R.S
2 Wake up EARLY for meditation
3 Yoga (5/6 times weekly)
4. Minimum sweets (work them in my calorie goal)
5. 30 day squat challenge 6. No late night snacking
7. Daily journal logging
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Sunday February 20
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✔︎ 20+ mins exercise
✘ Within calorie budget (planned pass day)
✘ Log everything (planned pass day)
Consistency Tracking (🔥=3 ✔︎'s, 🏴☠️=pass):
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🔥-🔥-🔥-🔥-🔥- 🏴☠️-
Passes used = 2 / 3
Other habits I’m tracking this month:
✔︎ Morning meditation
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✘ Drink >64oz water (planned pass day)
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Planned pass day today and enjoyed every minute. Thank you for the birthday wishes @jamcnewman @Bill70sStrong @Jana_2020 @TerriRichardson112 💗💗💗💗 you made my day! It was such a pleasure to be mindful about my meals without logging for a day. Admittedly, it felt strange - but for me that feels like a win, too. Looking forward to getting back my “routine” but savoring every last second of my time with family on this little weekend getaway. 🥰5 -
2/20/2022
Exercise? Not really.
Tracking? Yes.
Calories? No.4 -
Exercise - yes, 20 min. Dancing
Tracking - yes
Calories - no
Passes: all used3 -
Happy belated birthday @makattack220 .. glad you're enjoying yourself!!1
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Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? 61 minutes Peloton, 5 minutes stretching
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes
Pass days used - 3/3
I bought a gravel bike today which I never would have done with my husband's encouragement.
Both he and I started 2021 in the high 200's, with no exercise at all to speak of in our lives. I started on here first and he followed me about 2 months later. He is the primary cook so all I asked was that he help me with counting calories which he was open to (versus us cooking separate meals).
Once I started losing it was motivating to him to start. We have both lost a considerable amount of weight and completely changed our lives for the better- together. I am thankful for this every day but the motivation for each of us to do it came from within - while our determination helps and inspires the other, we each have had to want it for ourselves to get here.8 -
Feb 20
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Leading by example worked.
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20/02/2022
Thank you to all who responded to the topic. I agree that it is impossible to force another person to have a more active life or to eat healthier. And “Leading by example” maybe works better. It was nice to know that many of you have a supportive SO, while others are strong enough to be on their own. I was a happy one to have the husband who always supported and motivated me. When about 7 yeas ago I asked what he thought if I would start running, the next moment we were already in the car on the way to the sport shop to buy running gear for me. Without him I would probably still thinking should I or should I not. Today is 4month as I am trying to find the way to live without him. And I am not very good in this.
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes?
• DAY 20 of EPIC I | DUMBBELL HIIT NO JUMPING 34 min
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? No
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? No
Pass days: All used10 -
Feb 20
Exercise: 15 minutes MommaStrong and at least 5 minutes of walking around at the ski lodge helping my daughter ski with friends. I did not manage to sneak away for a hike this time as I had hoped.
Tracking: Planned the day with an estimation for chili and calories over
Calories: Followed the plan, pretty much - but like I said, the plan was over calories. But it actually I think helped to have a plan. Unexpectedly they had set up a "waffle cabin" outside selling belgian waffles (for the holiday weekend I guess?) and the smell was wafting over the place all day but I managed to resist - probably because I knew I already had an indulgent plan.
I've never wanted to get my wife to lose weight. She has actually gained a fair bit of weight during the pandemic and occasionally she has asked me for advice since I am successfully losing. But my advice (MFP) she doesn't want to follow. Which is fine. She is beautiful as she is.
In terms of activity, she does go on hikes regularly and do stretching. Sometimes we find time to go for a walk or a hike together and that is fun. More often we support each other in taking separate time for that. With the autoimmune issues I've had lately, I would say that she is the one in better shape.
In terms of food, since the pandemic the 4 members of our family mostly eat our own different meals. My wife cooks and shops for everyone - it's a lot of work for her. We eat a lot of leftovers so it's sort of a rotating system of making a meal 2-3 people will eat while someone else eats leftovers. She cooks me the things I ask her to cook and buys me what I ask her to buy. I ask her to "hide" the treats she buys for her and the kids. I often go looking for them, but at least they're not on the counter tempting me.5 -
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