LisaKNichols wrote: »

New to the group today! I'm just starting my weight loss and healthy life journey. I've tried so many times and I'm hoping that using this group as my goal setting environment will make me more accountable. Is there a calendar everyone uses to keep track of workouts or is it up to each individual?
For the month of November, my goal is to log all food, starting this evening. I'm going to leave my iPad in the kitchen so it's nearby and convenient, making it easier to log food, snacks and watermi have to remind myself that I need to take small steps and not try to change everything at once. 🎯

KacyCarpe wrote: »

donna25trinity wrote: »

Aghhhh pass day!!!!! Pretty dissapointed with myself! Someone tried to fob work off to me but I had sooooo much urgent tasks to do so I said no! They got cross, I felt guilty then caved and said ill do it, she then refused to let me do it and ignored me the rest of the afternoon.I was left feeling annoyed, angry, dissapointed ang guilty for saying no so turned to food for comfort. I also had to stay back at work till 9pm so again used food to sooth feeling overwhelmed and annoyed that I had to work so late!

Donna, have you ever read the book Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski? They talk at length about people who undermine our efforts to take care of ourselves, making us feel guilty—just as you've described in your coworker. They also discuss the importance of dealing with both the STRESS and the STRESSOR. They are not the same and they are dealt with in different ways. You might want to give the book a read if you are feeling at all burned out or if you have to deal with a lot of stress/stressors. I found it to be one of the most empowering books I've ever read. I think the authors did a podcast, too, which I can dig up if you're interested.

donna25trinity wrote: »

10th

MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »

@donna25trinity
Life can be tough for “extra understanding” folks like this. I wish I had tackled situations like this more directly rather than “playing nice.” I know it increased my stress, blood pressure, unhappiness, etc. I wish I had realized the impact it was having on me. I put up with it because I LOVED my students & LOVED teaching them.

Having read about your work issues over time (and seeing on your goal list …looking for other employment), have you been able to get any leads for a position that would bring you more peace? 💕💕

I know you can do this - likely in the new calendar year!

💖
Maddie

@MadisonMolly2017 thanks mads!!! I am much happier at work these days thankfully, new boss and new work so much happier, first time in a really long time!..Only a small issue is I do wish my work allowed me to do more days working from home, hence why I was keen to find another job that offered that option. So yes i will need to work towards making that a goal...Separate to that I think I'm realising that my playing nice and inability to say no is causing ppl to treat me as a door mat, which then means I am recreating this situation over and over again through out my life.. so as u mentioned saying no and being more direct from the get go continues to be my area of focus.... as always thanks for your advice!

MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »

donna25trinity wrote: »

10th

MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »

@donna25trinity
Life can be tough for “extra understanding” folks like this. I wish I had tackled situations like this more directly rather than “playing nice.” I know it increased my stress, blood pressure, unhappiness, etc. I wish I had realized the impact it was having on me. I put up with it because I LOVED my students & LOVED teaching them.

Having read about your work issues over time (and seeing on your goal list …looking for other employment), have you been able to get any leads for a position that would bring you more peace? 💕💕

I know you can do this - likely in the new calendar year!

💖
Maddie

@MadisonMolly2017 thanks mads!!! I am much happier at work these days thankfully, new boss and new work so much happier, first time in a really long time!..Only a small issue is I do wish my work allowed me to do more days working from home, hence why I was keen to find another job that offered that option. So yes i will need to work towards making that a goal...Separate to that I think I'm realising that my playing nice and inability to say no is causing ppl to treat me as a door mat, which then means I am recreating this situation over and over again through out my life.. so as u mentioned saying no and being more direct from the get go continues to be my area of focus.... as always thanks for your advice!

@donna25trinity
I am SO glad to hear this! Bravo!
I am truly in awe of all that you do with so much on your plate. You inspire me daily!

77tes wrote: »

Wow! You all have such great plan. @MadisonMolly2017 , I love your tracker!

This November I’ll stick with my 30 minutes per week of cardio, yoga, and strength. I’ll also journal every day - I’m using he Day One app for my journal.

This week I got behind a bit on my journaling because I had errands to run early almost every morning but I was able to catch up.

Week 2
November 6-12 🏃‍♀️ 307, 🧘‍♀️55, 💪46, 120 💃, 📓 got journaling finished late a couple days, but still got it done.

KacyCarpe wrote: »

Almost halfway through November and going strong.

This will be my second week of doing the 5-day Tiny Habits challenge. In addition to my November goal of doing incline push-ups after I wash my hands, I am doing the Maui habit and the evening gratitude habit. I have been a beast with all three. Just before the evening one, I added a minute of meditation. I up it by a few seconds every few nights, so now I'm at 1.5 minutes. I know that sounds pretty ridiculous to anyone who meditates regularly, but truly the bar is so low that I don't need any motivation, and now I have a 10-day streak in the meditation app.

I am finally (touch wood) over my 4-week cold, so I've been able to get more exercise. This past weekend, I did my first 5K Parkrun (well, Parkwalk) and got back in the pool. Feeling optimistic about hitting the fall 5% challenge goal to lose 5%; two pounds and two weeks to go!

donna25trinity wrote: »

13_15th Nov
Goals/ habits for November
*Hve increased calories this month to allow for honest tracking💖
* Dont cheat, track evey blt including w/e and pass days💖
Do prepping for food in the morning to avoid grazing/picking 💖
* Make friends with guilt, dnt ppl please, say no 💖
* Leave work on time and hve things to look forward to after work, these activities also ensure i am being present with bub! 💖
* Find out what hubby is cooking the night b4 and pretrack food wen I get to work in the morning! 💖
* Weekly self care activities such as massage, bath or get hair done. 💖