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this is where i usually give up and quit :(
ladybuglvr
Posts: 13 Member
Okay so i just started mfp. Just need some validation and encouragement from someone whos been where i am. My problem is that i always get all excited and motivated at first and by week 2 im fizzling out. Its so hard to get past that first hump! I am addicted to food and i am a stay at home mom who has been struggling with ppd after baby #2. So it has not been easy since i eat whenever stressed or really emotional. (with 2 small children thats pretty much every day!)
Right now im struggling with having sick kids constantly, Not sleeping enough (due to restless teething baby) and not having much help since my hubby works long hours/days. Feeling so isolated and discouraged like i might never get to where i want to be.
I dont want to quit and i hate that i am so impatient!
I guess i just need to know that im not alone with all this and that even though it feels impossible, it isn't. Someone pls tell me i will survive this stage of motherhood!
Right now im struggling with having sick kids constantly, Not sleeping enough (due to restless teething baby) and not having much help since my hubby works long hours/days. Feeling so isolated and discouraged like i might never get to where i want to be.
I dont want to quit and i hate that i am so impatient!
I guess i just need to know that im not alone with all this and that even though it feels impossible, it isn't. Someone pls tell me i will survive this stage of motherhood!
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ladybuglvr - I can really relate to a lot of what you wrote!!!
- I too am a "fiery" starter - I get all excited about "changing my life", buy the "insert doodad here", and try to reinvent myself...and after a couple of weeks, I'm right back to the same old pattern...
- depression is something that I have struggled with as well
- food is a total comfort for me...especially chocolate...
- my baby (who used to sleep quite well) is now back to his 1 month patterns now that he is teething...
- my husband is a teacher, so he is gone all day, comes home and continues with work (marking, planning) and works at least one full day on the weekend, so I often feel like a single parent
I think the one big difference is that you have two kids to worry about - for me, this is my first.
Well, all I can do is share my experience with MFP and motherhood...
- I started in September...it is now November and I have lost 17 lbs...I have stuck to this longer than anything I have tried in the past!
- i have found that taking things SLOW has worked for me. I didn't start off trying to change my whole life. At first, I just tracked what I was doing without changing a thing! Then, I have slowly made changes...drink more water...add more veggies...go for some walks...reduce sugar...etc.
- When I am feeling down, I come here and "get it off my chest" - everyone is so supportive , whether you have that "I'm so sad" binge or not...they encourage you and get you refocused!
- I allow myself a little chocolate EVERY day. I save it for the end, as a reward for doing well all day. I try to keep it within my calorie allotment - so far so good (most days)
- I have hired a local teen to play with my son once a week for a couple of hours so that I can do housework...so that the rest of the time I can focus more on my son and my health. I try to get OUT - playgroup, a walk, walmart...anything but stay home all day and let my mood control me...
You have made a huge step joining MFP - I hope you find that it offers what you need to experience success!!!! Welcome to "the pack" - there are a bunch of great moms here who understand exactly how you feel and are happy to help you stay the course!!0 -
*hugs* I feel you. i'm sick now and my daughter (3 mo) has been fighting a cold, and been a bit fussy, so I've had trouble myself. But whenever I look at myself in the mirror I ask myself f that's how I always want to look. And that gets me to do it. I've only been doing the 30DS every day because my body is so sore from it, but after Thanksgiving, I will be coupling it with the c25k. It's tough, but the calories won't burn themselves!0
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thanks gals for the support! great advice and much appreciated
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I feel your pain too. Although I am not a stay-at-home mom like you are, I know how busy it would be. If you live somewhere warm, try taking your kids out for walks in the stroller. There is a park about a half a mine from where I live and I ususally will walk there and back with them on the weekends.
Losing the weight after baby #2 has been really depressing for me. It only took me 4 months to lose the weight after baby #1 - with baby I still have 6 pounds to go...and then another 6. I hate that I had to buy an entriely new wardrobe. It's sickening and expensive. I am just like you about the starting up and going good for two weeks and then quitting. I hate it. I would join the MFP, do really well for two weeks and then lose all motivation to log on (I find it time consuming). ugh.0 -
It is hard.
After my first child, I found I lost my preggo weight really fast, without exercising!
Then my second one came, and no such luck. I have lost about 6 pounds in about 6ish weeks. However slow my weight loss is, my body changes are a lot better. Doing workouts regularly, I have noticed my body shape and size is much better than when I weighed loss.
The inches lost and muscles gained are improving my body better than just regular weight loss.
All it takes is patience. Most of the time,I end up exercising at like 2 in the morning due to my busy schedule. It helps that my man is supportive, willing to watch the kids when I want to exercise. Most of my workouts are done at home.
I am doing Slim in 6 and ChaLEAN. I tried to do 30DS and didnt last. I realized that my strength is not yet at that level. So I am working towards that goal. It just means you make smaller goals and always keep working.0 -
Hey, I am exactly like you!
I have 3 kids, and i always start off with good intentions and then after a week or so it all falls apart! Usually cos i end up so exhausted from trying to do everything!!
I suffered from really bad PND after my second baby and i have a touch of it now after my third! (no more babies)
I guess some of it for me is that i don't feel like a person, i cant just be me, possibly because i don't have the time to be. I am a mum and a housewife and thats it. It does get you down when you have no self worth.
Its a horrible cycle as you want to change and be a better person, but can't get a minute to sort your head out to even attempt it!
Sorry for rambling, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone
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Hey, I am exactly like you!
I have 3 kids, and i always start off with good intentions and then after a week or so it all falls apart! Usually cos i end up so exhausted from trying to do everything!!
I suffered from really bad PND after my second baby and i have a touch of it now after my third! (no more babies)
I guess some of it for me is that i don't feel like a person, i cant just be me, possibly because i don't have the time to be. I am a mum and a housewife and thats it. It does get you down when you have no self worth.
Its a horrible cycle as you want to change and be a better person, but can't get a minute to sort your head out to even attempt it!
Sorry for rambling, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone
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Thanks for being so honest about this...So many mums feel this way, but when it first hits, it is unexpected. Aren't we supposed to be overjoyed? Shouldn't being with my baby be enough? Talking about it, and knowing that many of us have these feelings, is the first step to feeling better about it.0 -
Agree with everyone. This is not easy at all.
The isolation in being a stay at home mom definitely adds to the struggle for me with feeling dark and down, as does the winter weather. I find it particularly hard to stay on task when daylight seems to be so short-lived. I just want to sleep!
It is nice to have this group and have a connection with others who have the same struggles.0 -
Yes, it's nice to know others are in the same situation
However that in itself doesn't usually help you get out of it lol Hopefully once the weather gets better and our babies get older things will improve
I know i would feel better if i actually got out and did more for myself but its difficult to find the motivation. Plus there is always too much housework to be doing so rather than leave the house in a mess i just do that instead lol
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