If you're far behind I don't even want to think about where I am! For where to start, my fiance and I started with a date, but that had more to do with the fact that he is very aware that I am a person who has a strong recognition of symbology and the spiritual aspect of said symbols. So we set a date for December 22nd, the Winter Solstice. It later had to be changed because neither of my parents could get that day off since it was so close to Christmas. It was changed to March 20th, the Spring Equinox.

When we first began dating and shared our thoughts about what the perfect wedding would be and though they were different in some respects, were very similar in that neither wanted a traditional wedding and did not want it to be in a church or really a religious ceremony at all. We wanted it to be small, intimate with only the people that meant the most to us involved. I had a more formed idea, but we discussed what sort of compromises we would make and what the ceremony would look like. We didn't get a particular location, but we determined a kind of location. We didn't determine our exact list, but we came up with a good idea of who would be invited. We didn't have the clothes picked out or flowers or whatever other things we could come up with, but we had an idea of what we could agree on.

From there, when we have worked on it (which with both of us being procrastinators means not much until recently) it has been starting from those compromises and just expanding from there. I have leaned heavily on my friend who has married off many, many friends and has an idea of what to do. I have leaned heavily on our friends that have already gotten married and gone through the whole process. I have leaned on my friends who have talents or hobbies that can help me to figure out what to do. I have a photographer (several actually), a hair dresser, and several engineering friends who are helping us to do various things or will help us come the day of the wedding.

Essentially, don't expect it all to come together all at once, but start with what you know you and your fiance want and work from there, reaching out to friends and family as they offer help or you need it. I know the thought of planning and figuring everything out overwhelms me, and most others to be honest. But, it's not that bad if you just take one piece at a time and don't try to do all of it every time you work on something for the wedding.

Good luck!

I'd recommend www.theknot.com -- the site can be a bit overwhelming, and it might have a lot of stuff that doesn't apply to you, but the big plus of the website is that if you register (it's free!), you get a big wedding checklist. I swear it has EVERYTHING on it. Tells you when you should do stuff and what not. The checklist also has A LOT of stuff that doesn't apply to me, but you can remove it from the checklist and only leave stuff that applies to you! If anything, it gives you a sort of framework and starting place.

I don't think you are far behind. Start with picking a date you would like it around and make a rough guest list so that you make sure to pick a venue large enough to hold as many guests as you could have attend. Then find a venue that works around the date you want and the number of guests you may have coming. That is the first few things I did. Good luck in planning and have fun!