Warning I am a Male survior!!
dcarreno
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So the reason I placed that at the subject line because I don't want anyone reading it to effect their own recovery. I am a survior of rape. I was a young boy of about 6 on my way home from school. I took a shortcut home. This was not my usual path home. When I was behind my house a man pulled me into bushes and raped me. They call it molestation nowadays on the news. I was held down while he finished his buisness. After it was all over he told me he would kill me if I told anyone. To this day I don't know who it was because I just plainly cannot remember. Many years later I was in the Marine Corps and woke to someone grabbing my manhood. I pretended to sleep and rolled over and he left. Talk about your emotional wreck I had been for many years to come. One thing I had never done is trust God with this part of my life and heart. I have recently done just that. I have a long road ahead of me. MFP has helped me change my lifestyle. Through some counsel and patoral care I am on my way. I have to turn my head on news reports and don't know how much of your stories I can read. But you can be sure that I will be praying for you all in this group. And if any Men in this group want to be my friend I would be honored!
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Let me say first to you THANK YOU for serving our country. I have a great respect for our military and appreciate all that you guys do to protect us!
I'm so sorry that someone wasn't there to protect you when you were little. It sounds like you are making strides toward healing, and I'm so glad you don't blame God for what's happened to you. I don't blame God for my husband abusing our daughter; that was entirely my husband's choice. I'm glad you have found an outlet and good counsel to help you through this. Sometimes I think it's tougher for men to admit they have been abused. Everyone thinks men should be tough, but what they forget is that those MEN were CHILDREN when they were abused. They were young and innocent, and someone stole that innocence from them.
I'm so glad you've joined our group. I know that it's a hard thing to talk about, and I admire your courage in doing so!0 -
Like the first poster, I would also like to thank you for your service, first of all.
Also, it's good to have a man telling his story. So often, people think that men can't be raped and if they do, they shouldn't feel the emotions that go along with it. I disagree with that. I think it's good that you have shared your story with us, maybe even inspiring some of the other men on here to do the same.
I think the emotions that we all go through put a challenge on us when losing weight, as well. I know that some people "eat their feelings" and I would image that trend to be prevalent when somebody is a survivor of sexual abuse. And, once you gain a lot of weight from eating your feelings, when you start to lose the weight, sometimes the feelings come back (not so much the case with me, I tend to not eat when I'm sad, but I have heard this from others). It's good that we can all be here and support one another in our struggles without judgement.
That goes for anybody, of any race, religion, or gender. We all need support, and I'm glad to have you as part of our group.0 -
Thank you for serving our country and thank you for your courage in sharing your story. I hope you will find the support here you need and that others will be inspired to begin and/or continue their own journey of healing.0
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I'm a male survivor, too. You're not alone, friend. I know of a few other sites for male survivors, if you're interested. Let me know.
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