I hate to be the bearer of bad news here, but this is our reality. If you allow it to hinder your focus, you will not be successful. So suck it up and get to work :bigsmile:

You will see results if you stay focused. This IS and SHOULD be only about YOU... not about your 5'3 friend who is doing it with you. Although it is great to have someone to talk about the daily lifestyle change with, in the end, you aren't doing this for her.

Stick with it and you will see the results. Good luck! :happy:

It is true that it takes more weight loss to show up on those of us who are tall, but on the flip side, it takes a lot less weight GAIN for it to show on the shorties. It's one of those things where there are pros and cons to both.

The good thing, though, is that the closer you get to your goal, the more noticeable each pound you shed will be (not compared to shorties, just in general).

I totally understand. I am working out with a friend who is 5'2. I am 5'11. When I lost weight several years ago, no one noticed until I lost like 25 pounds. She's lost 6 pounds now, and people are already noticing....

I can understand your frustrations. We as tall women should definitely not be comparing ourselves to the average woman/short chicks, because our builds are way different. There are both pluses and negatives to losing weight at 5'11" (my height). I do think genetics play a big part.. how and where your body stores fat. I tend to lose all my weight on my upper torso.. I once was curvy/had an *kitten*, and now I'm getting used to being a small-chested woman and having practically no butt. However, I love how incredibly lean my upper body looks. I look like I lost a lot more than the 65 or so lbs I have.. people have told me they thought I was around 140, which is my UGW and still about 20 lbs away! The bad part of looking so slender up top are old friends/family freaking about me getting "too skinny," which gets really annoying. All they see is my very prominent collarbone sticking out, not all the fat and hanging skin off my hips! I wish people would stop comparing me to the "average" woman, who is still a hell of a lot smaller than me! The other down side is being of a larger build I have learned that the whole "I dropped 5 sizes - I'm a size 0 now!" is largely a myth/media mass marketing bull****. At my highest known weight *ever* I was 274 lbs and about a size 20/22 pants. I'm now over 100 lbs less than that, and can't fit any lower than a 10, which to the typical housewife whose body image is dictated by the mass media, is "plus size" and not slender/healthy. Let's face it.. the US media, and, for the most part, the world, doesn't take "us" into account - tall women - just as much as they ignore plus size women, women of color, mixed race and the disabled! Any one who is an "other" is never going to be factored in to these one-size-fits-all guidelines of health and beauty. It's just too much work for Joe(lynn?) Schmoe to wrap his head around.

I agree that it's frustrating! For the holidays- I went home with a 15# loss... and no one noticed (ok- 1 person!). There were several comments about how good my jeans looked on me- but it was ME not the jeans (I did not correct)!!! Now- I'm focused on when I see my family in July. How much weight can I be down- then?!?!

I'm trying to use my frustration with my family as motivation for my workouts. It works surprisingly well

I completely understand your frustration. I'm down over 12 pounds now and while *I* can see a very slight difference in the mirror, I know that the rest of the world is clueless about it. My sister is 5'6" and lost 40 pounds, which brought her from a size 14/16 to an 8. The 90 that I set out to lose will only drop me three sizes overall. UGH! It really is frustrating to put in the effort and not have anyone notice, but it will be worth it in the end!!!!

As a side note -- I'm not telling anyone except my husband and one friend that I have prediabetes or that I'm working on losing weight. I don't want people to be looking at my body to see if I've changed. I just want them to notice on their own! It's probably silly, but I'm really curious to see how much weight I have to lose before people start commenting on it.

I'm in the same boat! At 6' it takes a long time before anyone will notice. I've lost a total of 20 now, and it will probably be another 20 before I can get a smaller size of jeans out of my closet. Just our fate. Hang in there and love being tall!

If you're 8" taller then you shouldn't compare weight loss - if you actually convert your weight loss into a % (of your total body weight) then yours is the more impressive achievement and remember the more overweight you are then (usually) the quicker the weight will come off initially but it will even out as you both get closer to goal.

I agree with the other comments that you should support your friend (and ask for her support in return) and focus on your own goals. Good Luck

I know what you mean about the clothing sizes not changing. I've lost 17 lbs so far and it's just my clothes comfortable again. I see other women with a 15 lb. weight loss and they drop 2 sizes. I still take encouragement with the little progressions. My belt is buckling two holes over now! My jeans are staying up without tugging all the time. It feels good!

Loving this group!

I'm 6ft and was at my heaviest when I joined MFP 248lbs and a UK Size 18, I lost 19lbs, put most of it back on and lost 21lbs again. I've got 40 odd lbs to go to get to a healthy weight and be the weight I was when I was at University but I know that I will only really drop a couple of dress sizes because of my height, it's frustrating but I know more than anything I will feel happier looking at photos of myself at that weight so dress size is really just a number!