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Girl asks, "Do you swing?"

woou
woou Posts: 668 Member
edited November 9 in Social Groups
This happened a while ago, but I'm still baffled by it. I was leaving work from the mall one day, and this girl stops me. I thought she was going to ask for directions or whether any stores were still opened, etc... typical people going to mall questions. But she asks me, "Do you swing?" When I asked her what that meant, she just asked me whether I like girls. I do my deer in the headlight stance, because why didn't she just ask whether I was gay? At the time, I had no idea what "swing" meant except for the ones we grew up with on the playground. I at least knew she didn't mean that swing.

Anyway, I looked up "swing," and it's people who have sex with multiple people, right? Was she asking me for a one night stand?!! :embarassed: Do swingers typically do something like this? Just go up to random people in public places? I'm surprised anyone would actually come up to me to ask me that, because I have the nerdy, goody, Asian girl with glasses look, although at the same time, I can say I don't look very intimidating to come up to.

In my situation, would you have done the same and made a quick exit? :blushing: :sad: :laugh: What would you have done?

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  • Lisa__Michelle
    Lisa__Michelle Posts: 845 Member
    I have also heard people say "Do you swing both ways?"= Are you bisexual?. I have a feeling she meant "Do you swing towards guys" or something.
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    "Do you swing both ways?"= Are you bisexual?

    Oh, I have heard of that, too. I either need to carry a dictionary with me or get a data plan on my phone, so I can check urban dictionary for this stuff. :laugh:
  • futiledevices
    futiledevices Posts: 309 Member
    That's awfully strange. I'd probably just be like wtf and walk away.
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  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    she was hott, and maybe things wouldn't have been different if she had just asked me if i liked girls. i would've still left, lol. it was really too sudden and unexpected.
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  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    lmao...ironically, i've been asked this by 3 different couples...i must have an 'open minded' look about me...at first i was really shocked and slightly offended, but now i just laugh...the last couple that propositioned me was hot though..both girls were SO my type hahaha
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    lmao...ironically, i've been asked this by 3 different couples...i must have an 'open minded' look about me...at first i was really shocked and slightly offended, but now i just laugh...the last couple that propositioned me was hot though..both girls were SO my type hahaha

    Pics?? :tongue:
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    That is a little odd. To "swing" is usually a sexual practice of having sex with people somewhat casually, usually in the context of couples, couples + singles, couple+couple (as opposed to say, two singles going home from a bar for a one night stand). (As a side note, there are a lot of variations on consensual non-mongamy, including things like poly-amory, but that's off-topic I guess.) To "swing both ways" is an established expression (which is to say, one my parents would know) to indicate being bisexual.

    I am bisexual, and have been involved in swinging and other alternative communities. But that sort of random encounter would have made even me a little nervous--maybe I'm paranoid, but something about that is just too random, and too out of context. If she were hot, I might have been tempted though. The most openly open people/couples I know, might mention in a very casual conversation that they swing, but I can't imagine them walking up to a stranger in a car and asking a question like that with no prior interaction or context.

    Oh, and some of us like glasses.
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    That's awfully strange. I'd probably just be like wtf and walk away.

    I was too alarmed. I just said "um, I need to go" and walked away without looking back. :laugh:
    Then I would have said YES!! Lol

    :laugh: I'll get her number for you next time. :wink: But then again, we probably have different taste in women. What I consider hott may not be what you consider hott. :tongue: In all seriousness, wouldn't you be concerned about going home with a random stranger? STDs, wondering how they'd treat you in bed, being recorded, etc...? She didn't seem very threatening to me which is why I stopped to answer her question in the first place, but you never know.

    I watch too much Criminal Minds. :laugh:
    lmao...ironically, i've been asked this by 3 different couples...i must have an 'open minded' look about me...at first i was really shocked and slightly offended, but now i just laugh...

    what do you usually say to them, when they ask you?

    i've had people ask me online (which I just ignore) but never in person.
    Pics?? :tongue:

    +1 :laugh:
    The most openly open people/couples I know, might mention in a very casual conversation that they swing, but I can't imagine them walking up to a stranger in a car and asking a question like that with no prior interaction or context.

    Oh, and some of us like glasses.

    Someone told me that swingers usually know each other through some sort of connection. With this girl, I was walking towards where my mom usually picks me up from work. Imagine. "Hey mom. You can go home. I'm leaving with that girl. *points at hott girl*" :laugh: He also said that it might've been a prank. So I don't know.

    I don't think this girl knew me at all unless she saw me at my workplace, but I would usually recognize customers despite it being a huge department store. Also, she seem to be headed into the mall as I was heading out. So she definitely wasn't following me.
  • Smiler106
    Smiler106 Posts: 124 Member
    In all seriousness, wouldn't you be concerned about going home with a random stranger? STDs, wondering how they'd treat you in bed, being recorded, etc...? She didn't seem very threatening to me

    Ok I get your point about STDs, but... Whaaaat?? Where the hell do you live that you have to worry about this kind of crazy ****? That kind of stuff doesn't even cross my mind! Being recorded? WTF?
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    eh, people can be shady.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    That's awfully strange. I'd probably just be like wtf and walk away.

    I was too alarmed. I just said "um, I need to go" and walked away without looking back. :laugh:
    Then I would have said YES!! Lol

    :laugh: I'll get her number for you next time. :wink: But then again, we probably have different taste in women. What I consider hott may not be what you consider hott. :tongue: In all seriousness, wouldn't you be concerned about going home with a random stranger? STDs, wondering how they'd treat you in bed, being recorded, etc...? She didn't seem very threatening to me which is why I stopped to answer her question in the first place, but you never know.

    I watch too much Criminal Minds. :laugh:
    lmao...ironically, i've been asked this by 3 different couples...i must have an 'open minded' look about me...at first i was really shocked and slightly offended, but now i just laugh...

    what do you usually say to them, when they ask you?

    i've had people ask me online (which I just ignore) but never in person.
    Pics?? :tongue:

    +1 :laugh:
    The most openly open people/couples I know, might mention in a very casual conversation that they swing, but I can't imagine them walking up to a stranger in a car and asking a question like that with no prior interaction or context.

    Oh, and some of us like glasses.

    Someone told me that swingers usually know each other through some sort of connection. With this girl, I was walking towards where my mom usually picks me up from work. Imagine. "Hey mom. You can go home. I'm leaving with that girl. *points at hott girl*" :laugh: He also said that it might've been a prank. So I don't know.

    I don't think this girl knew me at all unless she saw me at my workplace, but I would usually recognize customers despite it being a huge department store. Also, she seem to be headed into the mhatall as I was heading out. So she definitely wasn't following me.

    Hahahaha I tell them no, i'm just not into that
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  • LemonSnap
    LemonSnap Posts: 186 Member
    Can't let this thread pass without a couple of wry references:

    Dogging: http://youtu.be/0smmM86OrS8

    Australia's most notorious 'swinger': http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/herman-rockefellers-secret-final-days/story-e6frf7jo-1225891251768
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    Hahahaha I tell them no, i'm just not into that

    Sounds good. It's firm and doesn't sound rude.

    Next time I'm just taking numbers, so I can ask the person what they meant later when I'm less surprised. :laugh:

    To all: live life and have fun. You're missing out on some adventures!

    :glasses:
    Can't let this thread pass without a couple of wry references:

    Dogging: http://youtu.be/0smmM86OrS8

    HAHAHAHAHAHA :laugh:
    Australia's most notorious 'swinger': http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/herman-rockefellers-secret-final-days/story-e6frf7jo-1225891251768

    ............ :ohwell: :noway: :sick:
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