Have You Bothered?
AllanMisner
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For those who don't want to stay single, have you bothered to ask someone out?
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Does online count?0
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No. :laugh:
I should probably, because it's getting really embarrassing now... :ohwell:0 -
I don't know how... I'm too shy to be the first so I'll just stick to waiting for that guy... I only been in one relationship so all of this is very new to me.0
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No, but it seems to me that every time the woman does the asking it never turns out well. This is just my perception from past personal and friend's experiences though. I'm not trying to be anti-feminist, but my guess is it's all basic biology - if the man is interested he'll ask, if not, he won't. Am I wrong?0
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Nope, but I'm not sure if I want a relationship. Some days sure, most of the time I'm comfortable solo. The likelyhood of me approaching someone random in the street and asking them out is very very slim. When the time comes, I'll probably get to know someone on the interwebs first. Less awkward
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to the OP..........do you?0
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As a 'mature' and older woman (a cougar, perhaps? lol), I am not comfortable asking men out........I'm pretty "old school" about that, and believe the man should approach the women
......and, to be perfectly honest, I like being single!!!
..........but sometimes, there's that little part of me that would like to have a special someone to do things with, to share fun times with, to partner with..................it's not something I NEED to fulfill my life, but I think ya'll know what I mean.0 -
I've tried it the old-fashioned way, trying to meet someone out and about, at a local bar, etc, but have 0% success. I'm sure even though in my head I'm looking, I'm really giving "stay away" signals because I'm uncomfortable with myself and automatically assume no one is into me. The worst is that when I'm out and someone wants to dance with me I assume it's because it's funny to dance with the fat girl.
I've found it's relatively easy to catch a fish via POF online. The two dates I've had were when I reached out to the guy first and then they asked me out after talking online for awhile.0 -
I probably would if I ever ran across someone I actually want to ask out. Thats my issue I have little to no interest in most the people I am around on a day to day basis and don't usually go to the bars and even online most the guys I really didn't want to even meet. Maybe I am picky but really the guys around here do nothing for me.0
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to the OP..........do you?
Yes, I have.
But I know how they'll usually turn out. 50% chance she'll say yes. 50% chance she'll ever want a second date. 10% chance she'll still be interested after I take a business trip. 50% chance I will. 0.50 x 0.50 x 0.10 x 0.50 = 1.5% stick rate (third date).0 -
I would never ask a guy out.
It's not even that I don't believe in asking men out, it's that I'm much to shy to ever get the courage to ask a guy out. If he said no, I'd be humiliated.0 -
I told my crush that I liked him for over 10 years and we hung out a couple of times, but I really don't think he's interested well at least his actions don't suggest that. I don't know if I'll ask someone out again.0
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I don't have the courage to ask some complete stranger out.. I'd need to get to know them better before I can feel comfortable for something like that.0
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Yep, since the new year I have asked two girls out and neither was a yes. For the one, the girl told me I was friend zoned and for the other, the girl said she had a boyfriend.
C'est la vie.0 -
Do winks on Match count? Or a dropping by to say hello email?0
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Yep. What's the worst that could happen? They say no? Not that big of a deal, better to know for sure than wonder "what if". Take a chance people.
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I have to, otherwise I wouldn't have dates.0
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As a 'mature' and older woman (a cougar, perhaps? lol), I am not comfortable asking men out........I'm pretty "old school" about that, and believe the man should approach the women
......and, to be perfectly honest, I like being single!!!
..........but sometimes, there's that little part of me that would like to have a special someone to do things with, to share fun times with, to partner with..................it's not something I NEED to fulfill my life, but I think ya'll know what I mean.
What she said ^^^0 -
Yep, since the new year I have asked two girls out and neither was a yes. For the one, the girl told me I was friend zoned and for the other, the girl said she had a boyfriend.
C'est la vie.
You are adorable. I would have said yes.
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Yep, since the new year I have asked two girls out and neither was a yes. For the one, the girl told me I was friend zoned and for the other, the girl said she had a boyfriend.
C'est la vie.
You are adorable. I would have said yes.
Why thank you lol. It is their loss.0 -
I'm not comfortable asking guys out on a "date." I do ask guys to help me out/give me a ride/fix something in the house, but not on a "date." I'm a bit old fashioned in that sense.0
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That's funny... Perhaps I should ask girls to come to my place and do some cooking and/or cleaning! :laugh:I'm not comfortable asking guys out on a "date." I do ask guys to help me out/give me a ride/fix something in the house, but not on a "date." I'm a bit old fashioned in that sense.0 -
That's funny... Perhaps I should ask girls to come to my place and do some cooking and/or cleaning! :laugh:I'm not comfortable asking guys out on a "date." I do ask guys to help me out/give me a ride/fix something in the house, but not on a "date." I'm a bit old fashioned in that sense.
I have tried that before, they either asked for money or got offended lol.0 -
That's funny... Perhaps I should ask girls to come to my place and do some cooking and/or cleaning! :laugh:I'm not comfortable asking guys out on a "date." I do ask guys to help me out/give me a ride/fix something in the house, but not on a "date." I'm a bit old fashioned in that sense.
I have tried that before, they either asked for money or got offended lol.
LOL! I get asked to cook and do laundry all the time. I just laugh at them.0 -
I did recently :grumble: He said he couldn't make it.... Oh well lol no biggie0
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Sure. As someone else said, the worst he can say is no. I'm more hesitant when it comes to someone I know well. That could get awkward if feelings aren't returned.0
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Yep I ask guys out what is the worst that could happen they say No! If they do so what dust your shoulders off and move on.0
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I don't.
I should, but I don't.
In fact, I have this stupid thing, where I give guys I'm not interested in the wrong signals... I'm really comfortable and fun around guys I'm not interested in.. and turn into a complete freak when I like a guy - I'll AVOIDE guys I like! I know, like wtf is that about?? lol I try to avoide eye contact... yeah, it's a mess lol. *sigh*
I'm doomed...
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I don't.
I should, but I don't.
In fact, I have this stupid thing, where I give guys I'm not interested in the wrong signals... I'm really comfortable and fun around guys I'm not interested in.. and turn into a complete freak when I like a guy - I'll AVOIDE guys I like! I know, like wtf is that about?? lol I try to avoide eye contact... yeah, it's a mess lol. *sigh*
I'm doomed...
This is how I am. Around guy friends I'm funny, etc. and around guys I like I turn into a hot mess who's heart is beating so fast and can't talk.0 -
to the OP..........do you?
Yes, I have.
But I know how they'll usually turn out. 50% chance she'll say yes. 50% chance she'll ever want a second date. 10% chance she'll still be interested after I take a business trip. 50% chance I will. 0.50 x 0.50 x 0.10 x 0.50 = 1.5% stick rate (third date).
You need to date girls used to the hustle and bustle and those used to business trips.....might have to move North for that, but then you don't have your Southern Belles with the "cute" accent..........0
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