Is there anyone else waiting...
melg126
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to date until they are closer to their goal weight like me? I have been on POF for a couple of months and although I have met some great guys... I don't feel that spark. It's not them... it's me... and this time it really is me. LOL I've hidden my profile. I want to be comfortable with my weight first... and honestly I don't mind being single for now.
I'm happy with my life overall except this damn weight.
Does anyone else feel this way?
I'm happy with my life overall except this damn weight.
Does anyone else feel this way?
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I am I am! lol.
But mostly it is because I think that boys don't date fat girls. lol. Which is true for the most part .. sometimes I think I made myself fat after my divorce so I wouldn't have to deal with men anymore. However .. now that 2 1/2 years have passed .. I don't think that was the best choice. ha.0 -
I sort of am. lol
I just unhid myself AGAIN. I swear if men knew how often I hide, unhide, hide.. they'd think I was crazy.
I just want to know I'm 100% me and comfortable with ME in every way, especially physically. The way I feel about myself physically affects how I feel about myself in other areas. I'm pretty happy with myself right now so I can only imagine how I'll feel when I reach goal!! :bigsmile:0 -
Good point... majority wants slimmer women... but not all... LOL
I've never been through a divorce so I'm sure however you felt at the time was justified.0 -
I sort of am. lol
I just unhid myself AGAIN. I swear if men knew how often I hide, unhide, hide.. they'd think I was crazy.
I just want to know I'm 100% me and comfortable with ME in every way, especially physically. The way I feel about myself physically affects how I feel about myself in other areas. I'm pretty happy with myself right now so I can only imagine how I'll feel when I reach goal!! :bigsmile:
You are so funny I swear... haha if anything I'm sure they love you for that.0 -
Yeah one minute they see me then i disappear! lol
The guy I just started dating right now, I was hidden when we started talking again since they still get messages from me even if profile is hidden.0 -
You're just a flake... :laugh:Yeah one minute they see me then i disappear! lol0 -
You're just a flake... :laugh:Yeah one minute they see me then i disappear! lol
When I say "they" I mean guys in general on POF. I show up under search sometimes, sometimes I don't.
For the lucky boys that I do talk to/ go out with, I am never flakey! I hate flakey people.
Now I'm explaining myself..
Out of the 5 guys I've gone out with from POF, I remain friends with 3 of them and offered to be just friends with another one (which apparently he didn't want to because I never heard from him again). I see 1 of them at least once a week!
The newest guy, we shall see where it goes. So there, not flakey. :laugh:0 -
You're just a flake... :laugh:Yeah one minute they see me then i disappear! lol
I can understand being flakey if you're not "that into someone". haha0 -
I definitely was, but now I *think* I'm ready. Unfortunately, I'm still not down to the size I wanted to be when I started dating, but I fear that the longer I wait, the harder it will be!0
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I did. With the exception of seeing my ex-boyfriend from time to time, I spent most of 2011 working on me and I didn't want the distractions of dating. I wanted all of my time to be for me, me, ME!
That 'selfish' time investments paid off as I'm much happier and healthier this year than I was last year this time...by a THOUSANDFOLD!0 -
"[/quote] For the lucky boys that I do talk to/ go out with [/quote]"
this! 0 -
That 'selfish' time investments paid off as I'm much happier and healthier this year than I was last year this time...by a THOUSANDFOLD!
You look happy too! 0 -
I swing both ways with this. One month I'll think I'm more confident and more attractive if I lose more weight. And another month I will think: if you cant accept me the way I am, I dont want you!! :laugh: Its a mood thing! :bigsmile:0
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I am waiting but I won't turn a woman down if one asks. Just means bonus for me and her. For me, a girl likes me at my worst. For her, a hot bf once I get to my goal lol.0
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I guess I'm on the fence with this issue also. Ha But I'm glad I'm not alone! :happy:0
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I am waiting. At different times it has been for different reasons.
At first it was to reach some magical number on the scale then boys will like me.
Then it was, who cares what weight I am, I am deserving of love and attention now!
I'm somewhere in between now, unfortunately. But I think it's also important to think of priorities. I want to focus on myself and my own health and not dating, and I'm happy doing that until there is some event or something that I actually need a boyfriend for lol.
I'm focused more on building up my confidence and self-esteem, not just losing weight. It doesn't matter what weight you are if you don't have those two essentials or everyone will walk all over you.
(I do have a small bit of anxiety about it though, like all this waiting I'm going to miss someone. Especially at 26 and never in a relationship (I think it's normal/fine to be single if you've been in serious relationships before) I'm wondering what my problem is.0 -
I waited until I reached my goal weight. When I did I started making other excuses, and wanted to wait until I toned up or felt good naked. I just decided to start dating. There is always going to be excuses and we shouldn't have to wait to be perfect because that is never going to happen.0
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Personally, I don't think you should have to wait. If a person likes you for who you are at your present, they shouldn't feel any differently in the future.0
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