What's with the whole FB thing?
AnnaPixie
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So, I went out last night with a couple of my neighbours. 3 single girls in a new pub. A guy started talking to me at the bar. A very nice man, about my age, very attractive. Yeah, I like him! First time in ages I've met someone this way. We chat, we swap numbers, we chat more. Then as the night wore on he suggests coming back to my place. I said no. We then spoke about his divorce and how he's not looking for anything serious because he is stressed out with it all. I said fair enough, but I dont want to just have a F%%% Buddy! He then asked why and said everyone is doing it!! :laugh:
Well, he was right, because when I turned him down he went and chatted to my neighbour and I think she took him home!! :laugh:
Jeez!
So what do you all think about this FB world we live in? Is it just that people are fed up with relationships? Or do men just want sex in the beginning? Or is it just so much easier to have a no strings attached commitment? I dunno, but it seems to me that every guy I meet is only wanting one thing. Perhaps its my age??
Enlighten me my single friends. What's your experience/take on this:
Well, he was right, because when I turned him down he went and chatted to my neighbour and I think she took him home!! :laugh:
Jeez!
So what do you all think about this FB world we live in? Is it just that people are fed up with relationships? Or do men just want sex in the beginning? Or is it just so much easier to have a no strings attached commitment? I dunno, but it seems to me that every guy I meet is only wanting one thing. Perhaps its my age??
Enlighten me my single friends. What's your experience/take on this:
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LOL .. I thought it was facebook ..ha!
Men just want sex period. If he is going through a divorce .. he obviously isn't getting any and that is all he wants right now is sex.
Truthfully .. I would love a FB! ha! I don't want a relationship or the problems, the hassle, the time commitment .. blah. Marriage is hard and a pain in the *kitten* if you are in a bad one. Which he obviously was. If he is anything like me after a divorce, he doesn't want to have to deal with all the emotion that comes along with having a relationship at this point. A girl friend of mine is going through the same thing .. only she has a FB! lol. She loves it.
Relationships are alot of work and unless you are completely in love with someone .. it can be a pain in the *kitten* trying to find that someone. Sex is fun .. lol0 -
Ok here is my whole take on the FB situation....I currentlyhappen to have FB situation going on. For me it's alot easier than a relationship. I was in two major relationships that lasted 11 years between the 2. Basically my whole adult life. So right now I'm just taking it easy. FB have a tendanecy to be fun as long as you stay emotionally distant...... I have had several friends who started as FB and are now in relationships with the guy/girl in question....... Good luck and remember if your not comfortable with it Fu(k whatever anyone else wants :bigsmile:0
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I would not mind at this point having a FB but doubt I would ever approach someone at a bar about it.
Maybe that is why I don`t have one.
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I thought it was Facebook too.LOL .. I thought it was facebook ..ha!
Personally I haven't (nor couldn't) do the FB thing...call me boring if you will, but I can't have an ongoing physical relationship with someone that I'm not emotionally close with as well.0 -
Yeh .. I don't think I could ever just come out and ASK somone to be that .. lol0
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Yeh .. I don't think I could ever just come out and ASK somone to be that .. lol
Soooo how is the weather there?0 -
Yeh .. I don't think I could ever just come out and ASK somone to be that .. lol
Soooo how is the weather there?
smooth operator!!!!
I have no idea if everybody's doing it but I've said it a million times, I can't.
If a guy has ever treated me (I haven't been asked for that in my short dating experience) as if he were just trying to hook up, I've been very honest about that. So far the guys that I liked didn't lose interest in me after that conversation.
I can see why it's appealing.. you get off with a friend, no relationship complications but again... if you're my friend and I want to bang your brains out and vice versa.. then why not just GO FOR IT (it being a relationship)!?!?!
And I don't think it's an age thing. I have friends younger than me and older than me. Both men and THEY do the FWB thing. To each their own.0 -
Yeh .. I don't think I could ever just come out and ASK somone to be that .. lol
Soooo how is the weather there?
LOL! that is smoooooth! Since you asked ..lol .. it is 40 degrees today and VERY windy.0 -
I've had a FB before....once because i was being forced to live with my parents and he was a great escape and another time just because he was hot....but neither lasted very long and I wouldn't do it again.
To be honest it just isn't for me, sure it's a little bit fun but i get much more enjoyment out of being in a relationship.0 -
I so thought it vwas face book to but hey this is a even better topic . I had one once it worked out fine for a while but the catch was she was an ex from a 5 year relationship and well after a few months that didn't work out either lol. Its funny how some relationships can turn into those kind of things and its not good or bad just depends on the two people.
Now I'm just focusing on myself and bettering me. I do have a few friends that I joke around with and they say I could get it so I might have to play that card one day but for now all i need is good friends and family to get me by.0 -
LOL .. I thought it was facebook ..ha!
Ooooops!! Sorry about that. Didn't even cross my mind that FB was Facebook as well as F***Buddy!! :laugh:0 -
Men just want sex period. If he is going through a divorce .. he obviously isn't getting any and that is all he wants right now is sex.
Truthfully .. I would love a FB! ha! I don't want a relationship or the problems, the hassle, the time commitment .. blah. Marriage is hard and a pain in the *kitten* if you are in a bad one. Which he obviously was. If he is anything like me after a divorce, he doesn't want to have to deal with all the emotion that comes along with having a relationship at this point. A girl friend of mine is going through the same thing .. only she has a FB! lol. She loves it.
Relationships are alot of work and unless you are completely in love with someone .. it can be a pain in the *kitten* trying to find that someone. Sex is fun .. lol
Yeah, I get the divorce thing with him and understand that he doesnt want anything more than sex at this stage in his life. However, I just seem to be meeting these types of guys ALL the time!! All very bitter and disappointed in past relationships so not willing to get involved again. I'm thinking its the age, because single in your 40's usually means you've had the failed marraige/LTR and so you just want something sexual as that's not worth giving up. But I'm hearing that FBs or FWB are all the rage for all ages! Its almost 'trendy' to havve one, you know what I mean? Bit I imagine its deeper than that.
And dont get me wrong, I have had one!! So I'm not prudish about it or against it or anything. But you can't beat the intimcacy you get from a relationship, and thats why I dont want to go down that road again. yeah, sex is fun, but I want more than just 'fun'. I agree its better than a 'bad' relationship, but is not better than a 'good' relationship. Surely? :bigsmile:0 -
I have had several friends who started as FB and are now in relationships with the guy/girl in question....... Good luck and remember if your not comfortable with it Fu(k whatever anyone else wants :bigsmile:
That's interesting! I was thinking last night that I wonder if you get to know each other sexually, that eventually it leads to emotions. The FWB I had was 20 years younger than me, so there was never going to be a LTR, but we did get to like each other a lot and I think that's when it ended! (It was on and off for over 2 years!) But with someone my own age, there wouldnt be that obstacle. Hmmm! Food for thought :bigsmile:
And thanks, I dont ever bother with what other people think of me, this is purely how I feel about myself and what I want. At this stage in MY life I would just prefer to find someone more permanent. To do things with, other than F***!! :laugh: As nice as that is!! :blushing:0 -
I thought it was Facebook too.LOL .. I thought it was facebook ..ha!
Personally I haven't (nor couldn't) do the FB thing...call me boring if you will, but I can't have an ongoing physical relationship with someone that I'm not emotionally close with as well.
I dont blame you hun. But I do think it gets emotional after a while. Perhaps its just timing and availability that determines if its a FWB or a relationship?0 -
I would not mind at this point having a FB but doubt I would ever approach someone at a bar about it.
Maybe that is why I don`t have one.
TBH I appreciated his honesty!! He wasnt bold or brazen about it, he just said that he was going through a stressful time with the divorce, was working long hours, and didnt want/didnt have time for, another relationship. I said 'fair enough but its not what I'm looking for right now'. It was all pretty civil, until he moved in on my mate, and i went off him!! :laugh:0 -
I had one once it worked out fine for a while but the catch was she was an ex from a 5 year relationship and well after a few months that didn't work out either lol.
It must be hard to retain emotional distance with someone that you've been emotional with!!?? And yeah, I imagine the reason you've split up originally, is the reason the FWB thing didnt work out. I must admit, I've never had sex with an ex, but I can see it being tempting if you are both horny!! Better the devil you know..... :laugh:0 -
I said 'fair enough but its not what I'm looking for right now'. It was all pretty civil, until he moved in on my mate, and i went off him!! :laugh:
Good for you! lol!0 -
I have had several friends who started as FB and are now in relationships with the guy/girl in question....... Good luck and remember if your not comfortable with it Fu(k whatever anyone else wants :bigsmile:
That's interesting! I was thinking last night that I wonder if you get to know each other sexually, that eventually it leads to emotions. The FWB I had was 20 years younger than me, so there was never going to be a LTR, but we did get to like each other a lot and I think that's when it ended! (It was on and off for over 2 years!) But with someone my own age, there wouldnt be that obstacle. Hmmm! Food for thought :bigsmile:
Yes, it can. I'm sort of going through this now, and he's my age. :ohwell:0
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