First Dates
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pa_jorg-your questions
A. a favorite place you go all the time - I have done this, and the dates have been neutral, which means no 2nd time. Nobody does a 2nd date based on just an average first date. It has to be an above average to exceptional experience.
B. a place you would only go on a first date (in other words you have a 'usual' spot you suggest for a first meeting) - In a previous city, I had this approach.
C. someplace you've never been before - This was something common I did when I was first got to Dallas and still do. I've only been here 7 months and Dallas is a huge area. Especially in the early months after getting here, I was going to new places all the time, for dates, non date social events and just spending time with friends. You've really got to trust online reviews and other publicity to make this work.0 -
pa_jorg-your questions
A. a favorite place you go all the time - I have done this, and the dates have been neutral, which means no 2nd time. Nobody does a 2nd date based on just an average first date. It has to be an above average to exceptional experience.
B. a place you would only go on a first date (in other words you have a 'usual' spot you suggest for a first meeting) - In a previous city, I had this approach.
C. someplace you've never been before - This was something common I did when I was first got to Dallas and still do. I've only been here 7 months and Dallas is a huge area. Especially in the early months after getting here, I was going to new places all the time, for dates, non date social events and just spending time with friends. You've really got to trust online reviews and other publicity to make this work.
@DM1983Z,
Thanks for more pros and cons. Do you have one preference though?0 -
Ok, so I have a question related to first dates...assuming you meet in a public place (restaurant, bar, coffee shop, etc.) do you like to go somewhere that is:
A. a favorite place you go all the time
B. a place you would only go on a first date (in other words you have a 'usual' spot you suggest for a first meeting)
C. someplace you've never been before
Any of them are ok with me... It's funny, I've had so many guys recommend one of my fave restaurants for our first date. I don't mind, even if the date is bad, because at least the food will be sooooooo good.
There was one guy I went out with 5-6 times that always picked some new out of the way place. I started to worry he was trying to date me without any of his friends seeing us. Eventually, after he introduced me to his friends but kept going out to eclectic places, I realized he just liked trying new things. I do too, so we had a great time together. Til I moved.0 -
No preference at all. I just do what makes the most amount of sense. I base my first dates on my interests and the woman's interests. I made a first phone call last night with a specific date idea in mind. Over the course of about a 35 minute conversation, I learned something new about her and that changed the plan. We're now going to be playing racquetball together on a first date because we both play it (she hasn't played it in yrs, and it has been about 8-9 months for me). That's a fun activity to do together.0
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Ok, so I have a question related to first dates...assuming you meet in a public place (restaurant, bar, coffee shop, etc.) do you like to go somewhere that is:
A. a favorite place you go all the time
B. a place you would only go on a first date (in other words you have a 'usual' spot you suggest for a first meeting)
C. someplace you've never been before
I have to admit, I would NOT want option A. If the date is crap, why would you want the memory of the person someplace you really like? And for security purposes, I also wouldn't want someone to know a place I might visit regularly. Maybe I'm being too rigid in my thinking though so I want to hear your thoughts.
I have a spot that is the usualy for first dates.......I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, and seems I meet people all from same general area ( think I need to move to that area
. Anyway, the place I suggest meeting is s restaurant/brewery and has great food and many "conversation starters". 0 -
No preference at all. I just do what makes the most amount of sense. I base my first dates on my interests and the woman's interests. I made a first phone call last night with a specific date idea in mind. Over the course of about a 35 minute conversation, I learned something new about her and that changed the plan. We're now going to be playing racquetball together on a first date because we both play it (she hasn't played it in yrs, and it has been about 8-9 months for me). That's a fun activity to do together.
I hope you'll keep us posted after your racquetball date!
And just to clarify, in general I really do like to try new places. My hangup is just the very first date. For whatever reason, the idea of going somewhere more neutral seems comfortable to me.0 -
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There was one guy I went out with 5-6 times that always picked some new out of the way place. I started to worry he was trying to date me without any of his friends seeing us. Eventually, after he introduced me to his friends but kept going out to eclectic places, I realized he just liked trying new things. I do too, so we had a great time together. Til I moved.
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Yes, you don't want to feel like you're being hidden in the beginning. But I do like the idea of trying new things. Too bad it didn't last :frown:0 -
I do like the idea of trying new things. Too bad it didn't last :frown:
It's ok...we had fun but our long-term goals were just too divergent. What's funny is, he ended up dating a divorcee who was a lot like me personality wise (just older) with the same age kid. Our mutual military friends who had moved thought for sure *I* was her from his email descriptions of their adventures.0 -
I do like the idea of trying new things. Too bad it didn't last :frown:
It's ok...we had fun but our long-term goals were just too divergent. What's funny is, he ended up dating a divorcee who was a lot like me personality wise (just older) with the same age kid. Our mutual military friends who had moved thought for sure *I* was her from his email descriptions of their adventures.
Funny, I guess he knew what he liked then!0
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