Maybe I'm just pulling this idea out of nowhere, and maybe it doesn't apply to you, but perhaps you still feel fat even though you've lost weight already, and so you're always thinking that guys don't like you because of that. That mentality can really bring you down, and I know because that happens to me. If a guy doesn't seem into me, I will automatically blame it on my weight, even though that probably is false. Sometimes, guys won't like you, sometimes, they'll walk past you, sometimes they'll like your friend. It's hard to deal with, but that happens to me a lot. Think about when you like a guy yourself - first he has to have something that attracts you to him, and then you have to actually like what he says, and then someone has to be brave and ask for a phone number. It's a lot of work, and you might not get through all those steps with everyone, and it's not necessarily because of your weight that it doesn't work. It just might not work for whatever reason.

I think you are really pretty and congrats on the weight loss!

To be honest, I don't think your weight has anything to do with it. I think if you are positive and confident in yourself there is nothing that should keep a guy from finding you attractive. If a guy truly likes you then he will find you attractive both on the inside and out. It may sound like BS, but I think it is definitely true. You just haven't found the right person, like Helovesme87 said.

I'm 5'9 and have 25lbs to go myself.. I understand where you're coming from.

I was rejected by a guy I was reallllly into several months ago (he friend zoned me after dating for a bit) and immediately my 1st thought was it was because of my weight or the 25lbs more to go.
But in reality, if that's why he decided I wasn't for him, then I don't want him. I have an awesome personality, kickin' curves (even with 25lbs to go) and I make the idiot crack up. If that's not enough, well screw him, he just wasn't the one for me.

A guy that's worth our time will see us for who we are, not how much we weigh. True, I want to look my best and feel 100% confident with my body but if a guy is going by the scale, well see you later because I'm more than that number.

Confidence is key.. not only does it make you more attractive but you'll weed through these situations a lot better. Rejection stung for me but he's not the only guy out there.....

I'm not really looking for something serious right now and even then, dating is difficult. It can get overwhelming. I'm glad I waited until I was more confident in myself because if not this dating world would have chewed me up and spit me out!

That's why you need to keep some before/after pictures, to remind you of all the efforts you've made - and realise that you're worth something, and certainly can stick to a plan. :laugh:
This change is a positive one nonetheless.

Try to build your confidence gradually perhaps by investing in new "fitting" clothes? Simple stuff like that for me was so massive.
Look at yourself in the mirror and try to love and respect yourself? Try sexy poses for fun?

When you improve the perception you have of yourself, the perception others have of you will improve massively.

Don't wait for someone to tell you that "you are beautiful", just rub your beauty in their face until they see it! :laugh:

If I've said it once, I've said it a 1000 times. Beauty comes from confidence. Do things that make you happy and confident and the men will notice.

Another aside, you may be friendzoned by the men in your life. Go out and meet new people. That should help.

And again, being more confident and secure in myself have helped me be able to say "Next!" when a guy doesn't work out or when I'm not feeling it.

I used to be a girl that would meet a guy and if I liked *some* things about him, I'd settle. Then I'd wait until he became what I needed/ wanted. Yeah, not a bright idea.

Now that I'm more confident, I see those red flags and just walk the other way. If they're not what I want, I'm confident in myself to say "I want more than this" and move on. It's truly empowering!!

Don't get down on yourself. :flowerforyou:

you may be friendzoned by the men in your life. Go out and meet new people. That should help.

Good advice

you'll do just fine when you come across the right guy ... but dating is over rated I can't remember the last one I've been on. :sad: :brokenheart:

you'll do just fine when you come across the right guy ... but dating is over rated I can't remember the last one I've been on. :sad: :brokenheart:

I agree that dating is overrated...

I agree about the confidence thing, although it's not something that comes overnight. I have lost about 70 lbs now and to tell you the truth, I get about the same amount of attention now as I did back then. It's about how you feel about how you look and what you put out there to other people that makes you more or less attractive or attainable.