Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever get over this...

Katefab26
Katefab26 Posts: 865
edited November 2024 in Social Groups
http://www.bju.edu/student-life/2011-student-handbook.pdf

So, for those of you who have never heard of Bob Jones University (probably all of you), this is the first college I attended. They kicked me out. Jump to page 20 "Social Life".

If you think that's bad, check out the dress code :laugh:

Edit: The rules have actually eased up since I left. Sad right?

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  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    "Physical Contact
    On and off campus, physical contact between men and women students is not allowed."

    Well, for once being gay/lesbian might actually be an advantage! :laugh:

    Seriously though, would probably end up kicked out as well.
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    That is the funniest thing I've read in a long time! I think monks and nuns get more freedoms.
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865

    Well, for once being gay/lesbian might actually be an advantage! :laugh:

    Lol, I said that once! They put me in counseling and asked if I ever had sexual thoughts about other women. I thought about telling them that every woman does, but figured I was in enough trouble already :laugh:
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Why did you go there?
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    "Music has the power to dominate the mind and heart of the listener. Its style and content can lift the spirit and help draw a Christian closer to Jesus Christ, or it can appeal to the flesh or embed the world’s philosophy in his heart and mind and actually draw him away from unhindered communion with Christ. For this reason the believer, with the guidance of the Holy Spirit, must continually weigh the content, style and beat of music and exercise biblical discernment in making musical choices.
    BJU takes a conservative approach to music. While students are at the University, our goal is to teach them to appreciate music that is spiritually edifying and culturally valuable. For the BJU student this precludes most of the music of our popular culture including rock, rap, jazz and country, as well as religious music that borrows from these styles. It also precludes any music that uses a discernible rock beat regardless of the style..........."


    I wonder if they include Eminem in that!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member


    Seriously though, would probably end up kicked out as well.


    I dont think I'd last one day!!!! :laugh:

    OP - how long did you last??
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    Well, long story, but it seemed like a good idea at the time!! I managed to last four and a half years, but they finally kicked me out the semester I was supposed to graduate.

    Not to worry, though. They did me a favor. I ended up with a degree from an accredited university :smokin:

    I just thought of it because a friend and I were laughing about that place today. He actually got a degree there, but then had to go to UNCC to get a second bachelor's so he could actually go to a decent school for a master's in composition.

    Needless to say, we're all pretty messed up when it comes to dating. All my friends from there are either married and working on their third kid or perpetually single :noway:
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865

    I wonder if they include Eminem in that!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    That Marshall Mathers!!! He's evil personified :devil:
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    I've got some John Coltrane on right now, guess I am getting kicked out. The 18 year old version of me would have gotten kicked out in about an hour.

    There are people who are happy with the whole being married and working on the third kid thing. Perpetually single sucks.
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    We got in trouble for listening to Disney music.

    I suppose it's cool if people are happy with the third kid thing, but I can't even imagine having three kids at the age of 27. Most of the ones I know are only 24. Yikes!
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    We got in trouble for listening to Disney music.

    I suppose it's cool if people are happy with the third kid thing, but I can't even imagine having three kids at the age of 27. Most of the ones I know are only 24. Yikes!

    I can understand your mindset on that one. I can't even imagine my own life with kids. I have a 2nd cousin who is 3 months younger than I am and she has 2 kids. A regular first cousin who is less than a year older than I am has a kid. Someone from college who was a grade below me has 2 kids as well.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Crazy that that is a college and not a high school! It sounds stricter than BYU!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    This is kind of personal to me as well,from 1979-1988 attended a church that was pastored by a man who adhered to this philosophy.
    Dating was only acceptable if it was a person of a similar belief system.
    As it was out here in the middle of nothing that cut the dating possibilities down to literally single digits.

    My brother who went to a different college that was almost as strict became a pastor and after I had a disagreement over the way the church was treating some people and left sent me a letter "disowning me".
    What he said was I was not allowed in his home nor would he have anything to do with me.

    That allowed him to conveniently go on with his life while I inherited 2 parents who were unable to take complete care of themselves due to age (father was 59 when I was born) and infirmity (mom was legally blind since a child).

    I am very careful not to mock or disparage anyones religious beliefs and also am very sure of those I hold but needless to say I take a dim view of what I think can reasonably called extra Biblical doctrine.
    These doctrines and practices,while easy to laugh at and probably were started with good intentions can be destructive.

    Needless
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    This is kind of personal to me as well,from 1979-1988 attended a church that was pastored by a man who adhered to this philosophy.
    Dating was only acceptable if it was a person of a similar belief system.
    As it was out here in the middle of nothing that cut the dating possibilities down to literally single digits.

    My brother who went to a different college that was almost as strict became a pastor and after I had a disagreement over the way the church was treating some people and left sent me a letter "disowning me".
    What he said was I was not allowed in his home nor would he have anything to do with me.

    That allowed him to conveniently go on with his life while I inherited 2 parents who were unable to take complete care of themselves due to age (father was 59 when I was born) and infirmity (mom was legally blind since a child).

    I am very careful not to mock or disparage anyones religious beliefs and also am very sure of those I hold but needless to say I take a dim view of what I think can reasonably called extra Biblical doctrine.
    These doctrines and practices,while easy to laugh at and probably were started with good intentions can be destructive.

    Needless

    Carl, I'm so sorry if I came across too lighthearted about this subject. I completely agree with you. Trust me, at the time, getting kicked out my last semester was not a piece of cake. Add to that the fact that this school completely used me for my voice (not joking! I was a soloist in the opera, was the only student soloist in their Living Gallery presentation, and sang at several different "special" events for friends of the school, all in one semester while taking a more than full course load), and then when I had a complete meltdown from sheer exhaustion, spending several days in the infirmary unable to do anything more than cry and sleep, told me that I was one of the laziest people they'd ever met. The next semester they kicked me out, telling me that I was morally corrupt and banned me from campus and warned the students against communicating with me so that they could remain above my influence.

    Sounds like a cult, right? I've been in counseling off and on since then (this was about four years ago), and only now am I starting to realize that it wasn't my fault. I guess getting to point where I can genuinely laugh about the situation is a huge milestone for me. I'm so so so sorry about what you've been through. It hurt badly enough when it was my friends and people I thought I respected. I can't imagine my own family turning on me like that. From what I know of you, you're an amazing, sweet, unbelievably generous man, and I am proud to be one of your many mfp friends.

    Again, sorry if I offended.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Oh goodness no Kate,there was no offense at all and sorry if it sounded that way. :flowerforyou:
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    Oh good!! Phew, I just wanted to make sure...a lot of my friends are still sensitive about the stuff we went through, so I try hard not to offend anyone :heart:
  • maria1113
    maria1113 Posts: 508 Member
    That sounds scary to me :noway:
    I mean yeah, the world can be dangerous place, but shielding people away like that can't be healthy.

    But hey, I'm corrupted, what can I say :wink:
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