nervous about therapy
luvlyjanny
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so, ive been referred to a psychologist/therapist to "help sort out my issues with food" and i think i am more than a bit nervous about this!! I am not sure what to expect or what is expected of me, and i think i am also worried that they might pick my brain and uncover something i dont really want to think about 
or worse force me to drastically change my eating habits!! i want to get better but at my own pace if you catch my drift. Anyway I was wondering if anybody can help me out by sharing their experience of their first visit to a therapist!!
or worse force me to drastically change my eating habits!! i want to get better but at my own pace if you catch my drift. Anyway I was wondering if anybody can help me out by sharing their experience of their first visit to a therapist!! 0
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They can't force you to do anything, or to talk about anything you're not ready to talk about. You'll get to set your own pace, because if you don't like the pace, you won't keep going. Don't worry - I was scared, too, but I really like my therapist! I hope you click with yours!0
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oh thanks!! that makes me feel better!! and i think you are right if they force me or try to move too fast i dont think i will keep going...fingers crossed i get a nice therapist
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They probably will eventually want to talk about stuff you're not comfortable about and you might well discover things about yourself that you don't like or didn't know. But otherwise how will you get better? don't worry, things move at the pace that you dictate, and while I would encourage you to be as open and honest as you are able to, know that your therapist will not push you beyond what you give them permission to do. Often I find it difficult to talk about certain things in therapy, so sometimes I will write a letter to my therapist, for example if I think she would find it useful to know something about me which I find too hard to talk about, or if I have had something difficult happen since my last session. Other people find drawing useful, or other kinds of expression - so if talking about things is hard try experimenting with other ways of expressing how you are feeling.
Also if you don't get on with your therapist, after a few sessions, you can always ask to switch. It is vital that you feel you can trust them and tell them stuff that maybe you wouldn't even admit to yourself or your closest friend. If you are nervous about this, ask about their confidentiality policy.
Good luck. I really hope it goes well! And it's great you're taking this step, I am very proud of you.0 -
well as long as i can do this at my own pace i will be alright i like your idea of writing letters when i feel i cant talk about things! i find it hard to express myself verbally when things bother me despite how talkative i am normally so that will be a great help. thanks so much for the care and support 0
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Remember you are the one paying them for their service. So it is up to you unless you are a risk to yourself than they can tell you what to do. I dont think you're though and if you are than you're in the right place. They wont judge you so dont worry about that..they just want to help.I am learning to trust all over as I had to switch my therapist since my old one wouldnt se me at this weight. Wasnt easy but I am trying. The ball is in your court! Hope it goes well!0
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