Trying too hard
jadedone
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Apparently I am way more popular than usual this week with new men, no clue why.
So today I went to an event and my sister was having a friendly chat with a guy and I hopped in the conversation. She was not so subtly trying to hint to him to talk to me "my sister has so much in common with you!".
I chatted with him for a bit and it started to get pretty hilarious. The guy was trying SOOO hard to impress me. I am pretty low key/low maintenance. I have champagne tastes and a decent budget, so I pay for it myself. I am not looking for someone else to pay, just some company
So I usually don't even give hints about it until I get to know you better.
So during half of our conversation, this guy kept trying to talk about stuff to elevate his status. So I would be "impressed." Not really sure why he thought I'd be impressed (who knows what my sister said before I got there.
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I don't think I have ever had anyone try so hard in that way before. He had a much better chance before all the status dropping.
So guys, do you do this? Does it work?
So today I went to an event and my sister was having a friendly chat with a guy and I hopped in the conversation. She was not so subtly trying to hint to him to talk to me "my sister has so much in common with you!".
I chatted with him for a bit and it started to get pretty hilarious. The guy was trying SOOO hard to impress me. I am pretty low key/low maintenance. I have champagne tastes and a decent budget, so I pay for it myself. I am not looking for someone else to pay, just some company
So I usually don't even give hints about it until I get to know you better.So during half of our conversation, this guy kept trying to talk about stuff to elevate his status. So I would be "impressed." Not really sure why he thought I'd be impressed (who knows what my sister said before I got there.
)I don't think I have ever had anyone try so hard in that way before. He had a much better chance before all the status dropping.
So guys, do you do this? Does it work?
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I think most guys will try and impress a girl. Its an ego thing. Some will go over the top with it but I just put that down to insecurity. I wouldnt be too hard on him. Take it as a compliment that he really likes you. And if you like him, give him a chance. I think, as he feels more comfortable with you, his bragging will drop and he'll relax a bit more.... :bigsmile:
So, did you swap numbers??????
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I think most guys will try and impress a girl. Its an ego thing. Some will go over the top with it but I just put that down to insecurity. I wouldnt be too hard on him. Take it as a compliment that he really likes you. And if you like him, give him a chance. I think, as he feels more comfortable with you, his bragging will drop and he'll relax a bit more.... :bigsmile:
So, did you swap numbers??????
AGREEEEEED!0 -
Yep. All guys *have* to do this (demonstration of value).So guys, do you do this? Does it work?
If he had said he was a hobo, coming here for the food, he wouldn't have gone very far.
But no, he shouldn't be trying that hard - this indeed means he has confidence issue.
Your value should show through, you should not have to justify yourself (which achieves the opposite as shown here).0 -
Right before I cancelled my online profile last month I was talking with a guy that lived in Nashville (I'm in PIT).
Pretty early on he told me what he did (verified with a quick Google search) and that he made a lot of money and told me all of the places he had traveled to and all of the places he wanted to travel to.
A few conversations later he told me that he made "over a million" every year. I, of course, had NEVER asked...this was all volunteered.
He asked me if I would able to quit my job...guess he wanted to whisk me away to exotic locations all of the time without my having that commitment. I was already turned off by the fact that he volunteered his salary so early on, and the thought of basically giving up my life to be a kept person scared the shizz out of me.
Needless to say...we didn't talk much after that. Hopefully he'll take the advice that I gave him then; to NOT give financial information out when first starting to talk to women. He's either trying to impress or is the biggest derp on the planet.0 -
He asked me if I would able to quit my job...guess he wanted to whisk me away to exotic locations all of the time without my having that commitment. I was already turned off by the fact that he volunteered his salary so early on, and the thought of basically giving up my life to be a kept person scared the shizz out of me.
That's scary!! I mean, I usually insist on meeting a guy first, before he starts planning my life for me!! :laugh:0 -
That's scary!! I mean, I usually insist on meeting a guy first, before he starts planning my life for me!! :laugh:
Wow you have such high expectations
I mean sight unseen is so much better!0 -
That's scary!! I mean, I usually insist on meeting a guy first, before he starts planning my life for me!! :laugh:
Wow you have such high expectations
I mean sight unseen is so much better!
And yet, the advice colums I ready always have someone who says "I met this great guy online 3 months ago, and I moved to his state and now he dumped me." sigh.0 -
I recently had a few dates with someone who was great on paper - He is a firefighter, and a custom home builder on his days off. He's a great dad, and very driven. . .
But he made a point of referencing his Mercedes, and BMW, and how much he makes, and the fact that he just sold a 1.2 million dollar house in an affluent neighbourhood, etc. I'm not impressed by material goods, apparently. He was probably compensating for the fact that he was about five foot nothing. When you can feel his erection on your knee, you know he's a bit too short - But that aside - He was a pushy SOB.
Not going to see him again.0 -
When you can feel his erection on your knee,
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My mind just went haywire with knees and things!!! :noway:0 -
A few conversations later he told me that he made "over a million" every year.
He asked me if I would able to quit my job...guess he wanted to whisk me away to exotic locations all of the time without my having that commitment.
Any chance he's still single and that you can give me his number? :laugh: 0 -
A lot of women put on their profiles that they want a man who has a job. Music lyrics tout how women want men of means. It is hard as a man to know how and when to broach the topic of income and wealth with a woman.0
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A lot of women put on their profiles that they want a man who has a job. Music lyrics tout how women want men of means. It is hard as a man to know how and when to broach the topic of income and wealth with a woman.
Very true. I think you can talk a little about your job and what you like about it. I don't know many women out there requesting paystubs on the first date.
(This guy I met was at a tech conference after party. The odds are about 75% he would be a tech worker if he want to the party.)0 -
I think most guys will try and impress a girl. Its an ego thing. Some will go over the top with it but I just put that down to insecurity. I wouldnt be too hard on him. Take it as a compliment that he really likes you. And if you like him, give him a chance. I think, as he feels more comfortable with you, his bragging will drop and he'll relax a bit more.... :bigsmile:
So, did you swap numbers??????
Gave him my card. He was a little immature for me. :P Still into consuming lots of drinks. I am more like 2 drink max.0 -
I would prefer to SEE that he was the better option- not be told. I mean, he's still a stranger- what weight does his word have with me, yet? If you are the funnest, most awesome, stable guy in the room... dont tell me- prove it.0
