Not enough women have this code. And it infuriates me.
By all means stop alienating yourself, people.

I couldn't be in a relationship with a man who didn't spend some time with his own friends too. I don't want to be with anyone that dependent on one person.

Most of my friends are involved in the same activities I am (mostly Southern Miss football). I do go to all the home games (any woman I date knows this straight away). I'll take a woman to the games (actually encourage it), but I am going to spend time with my friends and probably drink copious amounts of beer.

I will be honest and say that when I first started dating my ex husband, we definately isolated ourselves and became so engulfed in one another that it was unhealthy. At the time, it felt like heaven because "wow, he's soo into me". We were also 22 and 20 so we were pretty young. We were both codependent, it was sickening.

As time passed I started to grow antsy about this. I started hanging out with friends again. Meanwhile, he was isolated still. Some Saturday nights I'd go out with friends while he stayed home playing music.

I will NEVER make that mistake again. I now realize this kills me, first and foremost, my SO and the relationship... or just turns it into this entangled web that is not fun.

I will never push my friends aside for a man. I will balance my time out. I will purposely have ME nights still. I will also always always encourage my SO to have guys nights or what not. And if I see this in a man (he clings to me), I will simply run the other way.

I'm far too social of a person to isolate myself to be with one person, no matter how much I love him. It is hard to find a balance though, because generally I date guys who are similar in that aspect, which makes it tougher to find enough time to be alone together.

Really dont like clingy, co dependant relationships. So, there needs to be a balance along with trust and understanding :flowerforyou:

Plus my friends are very important to me, so I would always make time for them

Obviously the honeymoon period can be a bit full on, but that should subside after a bit :bigsmile:

I lost 1 of my best girlfriends to a guy. We used to hang out at least once a week until she met her current bf and moved in with him :-/ I've tried to set up a quick lunch or drinks after work but haven't seen her in about 10 months. I think it's a struggle but there has to be some give and take. Both people should keep in contact with their friends. If nothing else it'll help them from getting sick of each others company from an overdose of closeness!

I've never ditched a friend for a guy... if we have plans and a hot guy comes along I will not cancel my plans to be with him. But many single women I know will do this. It's a shame.

In my marriage, I allowed my ex to isolate me from my friends and it became a very unhealthy situation. I will never do that again. I firmly believe that when I'm in a relationship, continuing to care and feed my female friendships will prevent me from falling into another one of those unsafe situations.

In the past, of course, I've spent more time with my boyfriend as I get to know him, but that time came at the expense of my guy friends, not my female friends.

I'd want my boyfriend to go hang out and do guy stuff with his friends. I'm certainly going to go out with my girl friends and do my own stuff!