And it probably won't change a whole lot either. I take care of mine like they were still little ones. I still talk about them to others, brag a little. They are part of you your creation, magic......................pure untainted life, untainted unconditional love when they look at you. Babies have the most beautiful eyes. I miss babies and toddlers that was the best time for me. I'll trade teen experiences for baby experiences for one week if you want, ha ha ha. I would rather change diapers in the middle of the night than worry about my daughter out on a prom date, lol. Take lots of pics, cuz ya can't get those times back.

Daddy

Eventually my friends accepted me the way I am of course they quit trying to set me up with someone because I asked them to stop. I'm still the same Tim I was before just not married and they don't feel threatened by me because they know I'm not that type of person. I'm friends with couples not just the guys in the relationship if that makes sense. But as for a personal life, no I don't. Its really not a problem for me the only thing I'm missing is intimacy with another. I do miss it, someone to be with that wants to be with you and do things with and likes you just the way you are. Sorry nuff said starting to get down about it....Have a great day.

I have found a group at church that does things when my x has the kids. My married friends found my new singleness awkward too. This group is great for me. They do active stuff, service, and book studies. They are divorced, separated, married, etc. Just a nice group. When the kids are with me, we school, clean, play. It gets easier to do things when they get older. BUT, Zillow, I'm with you - I'd trade teenage days for the little ones any day! The physical work is much easier than the emotional. Jay, how about a church or MOPS group?

nope I don't have a life....when I'm with my kids, I'm with my kids, when I'm not with my kids, I'm working...since being divorced, my married friends find me awkward to hang out with since I don't have a spouse anymore and I share custody with my ex....it's frustrating.

Gosh that's tough... I moved and that helped me a lot because I connected with a group of people that were just my friends, but of course that may not be an option for you. But one thing you could do is try to connect with people you didn't know when you were married. Other moms are good because they understand when you have to hang up on them because your lo just threw up. One thing that has helped me a lot was to organize a supper group with a couple of families with kids the same age. We meet once a week, but if that's too much you could do once a moth or something. Here are the rules: whoever hosts does all the cooking and all the cleaning, nobody brings anything, and nobody helps with the kid-tastrophe at the end, they just leave. We have 4 families in our group, and I can't tell you how relieved I am to just be able to show up, eat, and go when I am not hosting, it totally makes my week.

Hang in there, the awkwardness will also lessen with time.

P.S. I also hire a babysitter once a week and go play in our community orchestra, that's my _ME_ time.

We (my son and I) are social butterflies. It gets better when they are older (he is 8). I go out and have girl time on weekends he is with his dad and then I get together with friends/family and all the kids on weekends he is home, even if it's just hanging out grilling. When they become involved in sports you meet people to socialize with also. We are big into church activities, lots of friendship opportunities there. I've been unable to fit 'dating' into my life - but I definitely have a 'life'

But like I said, you may have to wait until they are a little older and definitely take advantage of your 'child free weekends' to have some grown up time!

I just joined this group, im a 24yr single mum..
I don't really have a life either.. lol, I agree with what your all saying, when im with my son im with him, when im not then it's not really me time because im busy with work, or housework or something..

I miss regular adult conversations
I have also lost alot of friends since having my son, just drifting apart.. we try catch up still but i'm only 24 so when we do catch up they are telling me about drinking, holidays, roadtrips, boys etc lol and im like..yup.. Jake got a stomach bug and I re-watched prison break.. hmm.. not really anything in common with them now lol.

Until my son was old enough to stay home by himself, I didn't really have a social life. I wouldn't leave him with a babysitter unless it was family I trusted and I don't have that many living near me..

Now that he's 15, I'm gone all the time, even if it's just a few streets away visiting friends and playing Buzz Trivia and having a drink. I get to the farmer's market on Saturdays, hang out with friends in the evenings either going to movies, a pub for a beer, a sporting evening, bowling, going for walks, shopping, house parties, dinner parties, mini road trips. etc..

I have friends that used to do babysitting swaps - they'd each take turns babysitting the other's children to give each other a break once a week or every other week. Gave them a day or an evening to themselves to relax and have a breather. It was a nice set up they had going..

Nope, I have no life. I have three children. The older two do go to their dads on the weekends but my youngest who is 2 stays with me (different father, doesnt want to see her.) So I spend all my time with children. Oddly enough Im ok with that though.

I've been a single mom basically all of my daughter's life - her dad and I split when she was about 3 months (never married him, thankfully, since he'd been cheating on me for awhile). For quite awhile I felt like I was either at work or being a mom... I felt like I'd lost me. To regain myself I had to find something that I had an interest in....that something ended up being ghosts. I joined a group of paranormal investigators and spent a couple nights a month roaming around old buildings and cemeteries looking for the critters. I did that for about 4 years, met some awesome people all over the country.

When I was with my daughter I have tried to introduce her to different cultures and ideas. We've gone on vacations, cruises, to museums, Renaissance Festivals, parks, walking on trails, watching the stars, and working on memories that will last a lifetime. I helped coach her peewee baseball team, watched while she did gymnastics and volleyball, and cheered her on while she swam her heart out in the water.

It hasn't been until recently that I've actually been able to find true friends again. There are a couple of gals at work who've become my besties eventhough our worlds are very different. One of them doesn't have kids so she has the hardest time understanding the "mom" thing, but she'll get there. LOL!!

Like most of the other replies.... Yes, I have a life.... my daughter - my pride and joy, my heart.