Broke, but wanna date...
neverstray
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Ahhhhhh....many fun things to do....more fun(at least I feel its more fun when $$ is not involved)...many cities offer sites showcasing the fun free things to do.0
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Ahhhhhh....many fun things to do....more fun(at least I feel its more fun when $$ is not involved)...many cities offer sites showcasing the fun free things to do.
Thanks. Maybe it's in my head, but I feel like there's an expectation.0 -
cheap dates can be the best if they are planned right.
some ideas are things like a walking tour of an interesting part of town. you could act as tour guide and maybe stop along the way at a few local spots. when i lived in nyc i had a great first date tour around chinatown, got to see some tenements, learned a lot of new things, had great conversation with a nice guy and the only thing he ended up spending was for some delicious dumplings and bubble tea.
another idea is to pick a nice day, plan a picnic and bring some games along like battleship or bocce ball.
i think what guys dont quite get sometimes is that it's not necessarily the amount of $$ spent that impresses us on the first few dates, it's the time, effort and planning that went into it. spending $20 on a well thought out fun date will go a lot further in terms of making u feel special then a last minute $200 date.0 -
cheap dates can be the best if they are planned right.
some ideas are things like a walking tour of an interesting part of town. you could act as tour guide and maybe stop along the way at a few local spots. when i lived in nyc i had a great first date tour around chinatown, got to see some tenements, learned a lot of new things, had great conversation with a nice guy and the only thing he ended up spending was for some delicious dumplings and bubble tea.
another idea is to pick a nice day, plan a picnic and bring some games along like battleship or bocce ball.
i think what guys dont quite get sometimes is that it's not necessarily the amount of $$ spent that impresses us on the first few dates, it's the time, effort and planning that went into it. spending $20 on a well thought out fun date will go a lot further in terms of making u feel special then a last minute $200 date.
Cool. Thanks.
After a divorce, a failed business, lost my house, and a bunch of other loser *kitten*, I don't really feel super confident in not being able to spend money. I always bring the age thing into it, but I feel like, at my age, I should be rocking it right now. But, I'm not due to the aforementioned BS.
Anyway, I'll try to think out of the box and do some new things and see how that goes. I agree that it doesn't have to cost a lot. The right person will get it. And, it's more just about us than about what we're actually doing.0 -
You made a decision and have almost completely rebuilt your body. You can do the same in any other part of your life. Make the decision, start slow (just like you did with your walking) and build up.
As for the dating, get creative. Find girls that like to hike, picnic, or heck, float the river. All low cost, high quality time. If they have a problem with the current money thing, then maybe they weren't the one for you. Show her you're willing to put thought into it and you should be favored over most guys.
Above all, enjoy! Girls don't respond well to moping.0 -
The best dates I have ever been on involved little to no money. I was new to chicago (while working on BA) and my date took me on a great tour of the city...the best thing I remember is the bean.
If the guy likes me for me, we have a connection and things in common, then money really doesn't matter.0 -
Ok. No moping. Lol.0
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this wek the guy im seeing is gonna come over to my apartment and we're gonna make dinner together and then watch a couple of movies, then this weekend we are gonna go hiking. It doesnt matter what you do...all it matters is spending time with that person0
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you know... you should have more confidence in what an awesome guy you are! A woman will appreciate you as the date, not where you go or how much money you spend. Have a bbq at home, make a dinner together, go for a run or walk and have dessert... you are who she's interested in! if she's not into you, she's not worth it.0
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Thanks everyone. I feel better.
I probably need to get rid of my Lexus. I think that throws off the wrong vibe. LOL.0 -
Thanks everyone. I feel better.
I probably need to get rid of my Lexus. I think that throws off the wrong vibe. LOL.
not necessarily. just point out thet you downgraded from a driver and a maybach0 -
tbh I think that dating does involve some money. But I dont think it needs to cost a fortune.
Be up front about your situation from the start and you'll either get the woman that says "money doesnt matter to me" or you'll get the one that says "I want to do stuff". I think both types exist. And, you know, at our age, we've been there and done it, got rich, got broke and started again......so dont be down on the age thing. I know plenty of people our age in this situation in this economy. At least you tried and you're surviving :flowerforyou:
And yes, no moping!! You can still come across as excited about going for a walk, holding her hand, exchanging laughs and kisses.....oh, and pick a flower for her!! Women love all that :bigsmile:
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
you know, if you were here or I were there, I'd go out with you...
as a teacher, money is not everything! lol!!! we just crave adult conversation and activities! especially, we, who teach pre-k - 8th grades!!! 0 -
you know, if you were here or I were there, I'd go out with you... as a teacher, money is not everything! lol!!! we just crave adult conversation and activities! especially, we, who teach pre-k - 8th grades!!!
It might be worth a plane ticket over there. LOL.0 -
you know, if you were here or I were there, I'd go out with you... as a teacher, money is not everything! lol!!! we just crave adult conversation and activities! especially, we, who teach pre-k - 8th grades!!!
It might be worth a plane ticket over there. LOL.
com'on over! :glasses: Summer's are awesome here!
my daughter will be working and my son's enrolled in summer school everyday till noon. you have my number... 0 -
You are too incredibly cute to be all mopy! Cheap dates, just going for a walk or a picnic on the beach or walk through town window shopping can be a lot of fun. It is what you make of it!!0
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tbh I think that dating does involve some money. But I dont think it needs to cost a fortune.
Be up front about your situation from the start and you'll either get the woman that says "money doesnt matter to me" or you'll get the one that says "I want to do stuff". I think both types exist. And, you know, at our age, we've been there and done it, got rich, got broke and started again......so dont be down on the age thing. I know plenty of people our age in this situation in this economy. At least you tried and you're surviving :flowerforyou:
And yes, no moping!! You can still come across as excited about going for a walk, holding her hand, exchanging laughs and kisses.....oh, and pick a flower for her!! Women love all that :bigsmile:
Good luck :flowerforyou:
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Dating broke can be challenging, but as others said, you can always do free stuff. But I've been in a relationship where money was an issue and it didn't work out for me. I mean, I have a job but I have bills. She didn't have a job nor bills, so she couldn't understand the value of a dollar I don't think. Anyways.. It can work. I would just do you and go on dates when you can.
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