Online profile - pictures
MissingMinnesota
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Okay I don't want to hyjack the online ettiqute topic so I am making my one.
What type of pictures do you post on your profile and what kind of pictures are a turn off for you?
I have my main pictures as my current avi here, a full body shot while out doing something, a picture from the warrior dash, a picture dressed up and another picture at a baseball game. I make sure that I am in all my pictures and it shows activities I enjoy.
I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding. I don't need to see physical proof that you have items I would rather see pictures of you enjoying the use of them. Maybe it is just me but it is a turn off that the person doesn't want to be in the pictures with the items they enjoy.
What type of pictures do you post on your profile and what kind of pictures are a turn off for you?
I have my main pictures as my current avi here, a full body shot while out doing something, a picture from the warrior dash, a picture dressed up and another picture at a baseball game. I make sure that I am in all my pictures and it shows activities I enjoy.
I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding. I don't need to see physical proof that you have items I would rather see pictures of you enjoying the use of them. Maybe it is just me but it is a turn off that the person doesn't want to be in the pictures with the items they enjoy.
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Any time I have done anything on a dating site I have put up 1-3 current pics more or less like what I am using as an AV here.
When it comes to someone elses profile if it is nothing but cars,pets,children,vacation scenery,etc I am put off by it.0 -
Definitely the more pics the better. On mine I have me dressed up posing up the stairs with full body exposed, a close up of my face, a torso and up picture of me holding some beers, a picture of me after I got my new tattoo with no makeup on, umm... A picture of me on st Patty's day humping a sign, one picture of my dogs, and maybe one other... But I clearly show what I look like!0
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I have about 6 pics up.
A couple are body shots where I'm dressed up.
I have a couple of face shots.
And then recently I had added a funny drunk one that I thought was going to scare guys away (which is the one that Smiley said won him over
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Turn offs are:
Pics with women in them (what's the point??)
Self taken mirror pics
Self taken pics in the car (??)
Topless pics (um, okay you have muscles, cool!)
Pics I do like are of the guys doing something fun.. I like pics where they're posing but I love the ones where they're doing something active or fun.0 -
I have normal pictures on mine: full body pics of me in a fitting dress, one doing my boot camp workout, me hanging out with my friends (though I've cropped my friends out), my dog, just fun stuff. I make sure to have more than one full body pic.
I don't mind when guys post pictures with their kids, but I think ones of their trucks/cars/etc are silly. But the worst ones are the self-picture in the bathroom mirror. Oh, and ones they take themselves trying to look candid while in the drivers seat of their car. :huh:0 -
On a dating site, I just think context is important. Your potential dates are trying to learn things about you from your photos, so there needs to be a clearly discernible purpose. I even think it's a good idea to use them to reinforce whatever you've written about yourself. Say you like to travel. Put up some pictures of yourself in various places that you've been. That makes sense. Pictures of random places without you in them ... not so much.0
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I hate the self-taken mirror pics with a passion, especially when they are doing the duck face or if those are their only pictures. I mean what, you were getting ready and thought you looked so good that you felt the need to blow kisses at yourself and take pictures of it? Douche.
I have a picture of myself trying to put reindeer antlers on my dog, one riding up a chairlift on my snowboard, and a couple other random ones.0 -
See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.0 -
I personally try to have more pictures. I have a torso picture in black and white (it makes the super mario logo on my shirt look cooler), a picture of me just after I finished the river run looking horrendous, me eating sushi at a friend b-day party, me at the zoo feeding a bird on my shoulder /w sugar water, and a mosaic of my tattoos. I think all of those work well.
What turns me off in a girls picture... /w guys if you don't designate who they are (brother, cousin), duck face pictures, multiple people in the picture with you and not indicating which one you are (not a problem if you have a single picture of yourself, but I've seen girls who have all of their pictures with the same 2-3 people, and you never know who the hell it is), pictures of you blatantly tarting it up (seductive beach bikini photo shoots, professional boudoir photos, just be you, that's not you 100% of the time), and images of things that aren't you or your stuff (random images of sunsets, flowers, general junk), OH!!! and don't have more pics of your children than you, I understand that guys will ignore the profile for the most part (I actually read the whole thing), and if you say you have children in there they may not see it, but seriously, out of 8 pictures 6 of them should not be of your children even if you are in them. Just throw in one nice family photo so the dudes get the gist.
If you want to critique/see my pics, I'm on POF - Lookingformorejax.0 -
That makes sense. Pictures of random places without you in them ... not so much.
Oh I hate that too!0 -
I hate the self-taken mirror pics with a passion, especially when they are doing the duck face or if those are their only pictures. I mean what, you were getting ready and thought you looked so good that you felt the need to blow kisses at yourself and take pictures of it? Douche.
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See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.
Once again flamfloz is the bearer of truths0 -
See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.
Once again flamfloz is the bearer of truths
Doesn't seem to be all guys as guys here already commented they have more pictures.
Also I don't mind the mirror pictures if a guy can't get a full body shot any other way just don't cheese it up with a duck face or flexing.0 -
See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.
And this is where you tell a friend who's a female to bring her camera and snap away!!0 -
Yeah, you can obviously see I've got a female friend with a camera just by looking on Facebook these days... I get tons of embarrassing pics done.And this is where you tell a friend who's a female to bring her camera and snap away!!0 -
Well, damn. I fail at profile pics...LOL
My family has never been big on shooting pics so anytime we are actually out and about, no one is snapping shots. So yes, I have the full length mirror shot. :facepalm:0 -
Personally, my favorite pics of guys are mirror pics with their shirts off, flexing their chest while doing the duck face with a sexy lady standing beside him. Really turns me on.0
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there's a difference in etiquette really between a dating site a social site and a weightloss site. I guess it depends what you use (in this instance) MFP for - be it all 3 or just 1 heh.0
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I need new pictures of myself doing crap. Friends and I rarely take pictures, and I dont think there are more than 2 or 3 pictures of me since I dropped 60+ pounds.0
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Personally, my favorite pics of guys are mirror pics with their shirts off, flexing their chest while doing the duck face with a sexy lady standing beside him. Really turns me on.
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I honestly never thought body shots were desirable until I started reading this forum!!
Personally, I dont really care what a guy's body looks like. I go by the face and eyes. So therefore, I always assumed that face and eyes were what a guy wants to see, so I would post anything like my avi here.
I have no interest in seeing a guy on skis, fishing, on a motorbike, with his car or with other women. Long distance shots doing stuff or blurred shots are pretty useless too. And dogs?? Why?? :laugh:
All I need is a close up of face and eyes, preferably smiling :bigsmile:0 -
I don't have many recent pics of myself and the ones I do have are all self shot. I haven't done any fun activities in the past year and bringing a camera along to hang out with my friends and drink beer just feels awkward.
Any pictures I have of me doing things I enjoy are a misrepresentation of what I look like now, so I'm stuck between a rock and a fat guy.
Can someone explain why mirror/self shots are so bad? That thought never crossed my mind until I read it in this group, I figured a picture is a picture.0 -
See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.
I tend to agree with you here. I dont exactly get my camera out either!! Neither am I one to jump in a pic just for the hell of it. In fact, I can't even think of one body shot pic I've got.........hmmm! Most of the pics on my profile are self taken at arms length. And I take about 100 until I like one of them!!! :laugh: :blushing:0 -
I'm pretty sure about every picture I have posted was taken by a female. Usually sister, mom, or ex.Doesn't seem to be all guys as guys here already commented they have more pictures.0 -
Can someone explain why mirror/self shots are so bad? That thought never crossed my mind until I read it in this group, I figured a picture is a picture.
I've always interpreted it that it looks like you have no friends and therefore may be a difficult person to be around.
Though for me it's just from seeing so damn many of them, especially with the same unnatural poses.0 -
I don't have many recent pics of myself and the ones I do have are all self shot. I haven't done any fun activities in the past year and bringing a camera along to hang out with my friends and drink beer just feels awkward.
Any pictures I have of me doing things I enjoy are a misrepresentation of what I look like now, so I'm stuck between a rock and a fat guy.
Can someone explain why mirror/self shots are so bad? That thought never crossed my mind until I read it in this group, I figured a picture is a picture.
Read my above post, one mirror shot is okay, too many makes it look like you have no friends to take pictures of you or you just like yourself too much.0 -
Can someone explain why mirror/self shots are so bad? That thought never crossed my mind until I read it in this group, I figured a picture is a picture.
I've always interpreted it that it looks like you have no friends and therefore may be a difficult person to be around.
Exactly. I just came across a really cute guy but both photos are mirror photos so that is a no. For girls, it is not awkward to take a group photo but I'm guessing it sounds like it is for guys. I don't know what to tell ya but maybe try to get some photos at family events!
On my Match.com profile, I only have one photo since I don't pay for it. I just mostly creep on guys haha. But it is a photo of my face, and you can tell that I cropped it out from among my friends, so it does show that I have friends.
I generally post full length body photos, cropped out from photos of my friends.
Photos I hate:
- mirror photos
- photos of your vehicle (at least be in the photo)
Photos I love to see:
- with young children
- at a family event (family is important to me, so if I can tell you're posing with your mom and dad that is great!)
- goofy to an extent
- taken somewhere interesting (beach, cool art in background)
- different photos that show your hobbies (I'm looking at a profile right now that shows a guy golfing, at a wedding, and at some kind of party - it shows his interests)0 -
Can someone explain why mirror/self shots are so bad? That thought never crossed my mind until I read it in this group, I figured a picture is a picture.
I've always interpreted it that it looks like you have no friends and therefore may be a difficult person to be around.
Though for me it's just from seeing so damn many of them, especially with the same unnatural poses.
Yeah, I think you struck the cord there, they look totally unnatural/contrived. I did try and take one once, and I didnt even recognise myself!! :laugh:0 -
Turn offs are:
Pics with women in them (what's the point??)
Self taken mirror pics
Self taken pics in the car (??)
Topless pics (um, okay you have muscles, cool!)
Pics I do like are of the guys doing something fun.. I like pics where they're posing but I love the ones where they're doing something active or fun.
I am writing down this list.
I like your profile pic too. You look like you're ready to play soccer which shows you're active, and it's a full body photo so I can see what you look like. Perfect dating website photo IMHO0 -
People saying they don't take camera's with them when they go out. Your phone doesn't have one?0
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See, what you need to realise is that we guys:I tend to see guys that will only post 1 maybe 2 pictures of them selves and then a bunch of pictures of their cars/bikes/pets/kids etc. If I see this I automatically wonder why they guy isn't in the pictures and what is he hiding.
- hate pictures coz we are men,
- have no clue on how to look good on a picture (don't know which one is my best profile),
- have no friends to take pictures of us (we never bring a camera because we don't care),
- when someone is about to take a picture (miraculously) we don't say: "wait wait!" and start arranging our hair, or do our fake smile on the pic
So we don't have any pics, and the few we have are bad. This is the truth.
So you're doing it right, but we just can't we don't have the capability.
And this is where you tell a friend who's a female to bring her camera and snap away!!
^^^^^^^^^ THIS
if you can't get a female friend, ANY female friend, to help you take a photo, then you've got bigger problems then photos
unfortunately a lot of guys are clueless when it comes to photos or women, so that's why we have dating websites, probably all created by lonely men trying to find a easier way to find a woman0
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