I'm so tired of being alone.
Laura_Suzie
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Seriously, I know I sound desperate. That's because I am. Is it too much to ask for ONE date? All I want is to go on a date for once in my life. I know, I know I should just go and ask guys out myself BUT I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career AND the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable. How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better? haha
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sorry to hear this is so hard for you.
is the main problem the fact that you dont meet guys? can you maybe go to some networking events or join a meetup group related to your interests?
also forget about the guy who's unattainable. come up with some idea on how to meet new people. having a plan out of a bad situation always helps me feel better about being in that situation. at least i know then i have a blueprint and some sort of course for action0 -
How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better?
- "I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career"
Well then stop focusing on your career so much and start putting yourself in situations where you meet guys.
On a side note, I've noticed a lot of people say "I focus on my career" to NOT say the more depressing "I've got no social interactions/I fail at dating" (makes me laugh that we humans are even lying to ourselves). As if burying your head in the sand would help.
- "the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable."
2 solutions: ask him out and see if your feeling is true, OR just find someone who is more attainable.
- "Make myself feel better"
Ask all the girls about this twirly thingy, they'll know better than I do.
Or go out, meet people, do cool stuff. What are the 3 things you would like to do the most? Well do them.
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Come to Australia :flowerforyou:0
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Yeah Australia :laugh:Come to Australia :flowerforyou:
The men are easy over there!0 -
Yeah Australia :laugh:Come to Australia :flowerforyou:
The men are easy over there!
Men are easy anywhere. :drinker:
But to the OP, go out and have fun doing whatever you enjoy doing and you'll meet people. The rest will fall in place.0 -
How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better?
- "I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career"
Well then stop focusing on your career so much and start putting yourself in situations where you meet guys.
On a side note, I've noticed a lot of people say "I focus on my career" to NOT say the more depressing "I've got no social interactions/I fail at dating" (makes me laugh that we humans are even lying to ourselves). As if burying your head in the sand would help.
- "the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable."
2 solutions: ask him out and see if your feeling is true, OR just find someone who is more attainable.
- "Make myself feel better"
Ask all the girls about this twirly thingy, they'll know better than I do.
Or go out, meet people, do cool stuff. What are the 3 things you would like to do the most? Well do them.
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^^^ this! Couldnt have said it any better myself........
:laugh: @ twirly to make yourself feel better! :laugh:0 -
You're 18. Every guy your age is basically a walking penis. Go ask one of them out.0
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You're 18. Every guy your age is basically a walking penis. Go ask one of them out.
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Your 18? Sorry this is going to come off wrong but what kind of career do you have to focus on? 18 you should be out having fun not focusing on a career.0 -
You're 18. Every guy your age is basically a walking penis. Go ask one of them out.
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Your 18? Sorry this is going to come off wrong but what kind of career do you have to focus on? 18 you should be out having fun not focusing on a career.
Yes this. If you want to meet guys easily, sign up for one of the free online dating sites.
Get a fake ID and go to bars.
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Yeah Australia :laugh:Come to Australia :flowerforyou:
The men are easy over there!
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Easy? Have you ever tried to pick one up... That shiz is hard:laugh:0 -
Yeah Australia :laugh:Come to Australia :flowerforyou:
The men are easy over there!
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Easy? Have you ever tried to pick one up... That shiz is hard:laugh:
It's hard cuz I'm not in Australia.. :laugh:0 -
Seriously, I know I sound desperate. That's because I am. Is it too much to ask for ONE date? All I want is to go on a date for once in my life. I know, I know I should just go and ask guys out myself BUT I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career AND the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable. How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better? haha
Have you even graduated high school yet? You're 18, that's not all too concerning yet.
Play a sport, go to gym classes, join groups of things that interest you, look hot at the supermarket. One of those things I just suggested should be enough to get you at least one date.0 -
I know you can't change how you feel necessarily, but I'm sure things will pick up in time. You are young and cute, the guys will be flocking in no time.0
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I know you can't change how you feel necessarily, but I'm sure things will pick up in time. You are young and cute, the guys will be flocking in no time.
This is so true. You are young and just because you haven't found someone now doesn't mean that you ever will. Not sure if you're in high school or college, but going to college and meeting new friends helps a lot with opening new doors.0 -
Thanks for the advice guys For those wondering what kind of "career" I have (and I'm not using it as an excuse, I literally do nothing else), I'm an actress who does musical theatre. It's not just a hobby for me, I been doing it for ten years and train 5 days a week. In a year, I'm auditioning for a very important musical theatre program that's hard to get into. I do meet guys in musical theatre, but all of them are gay and all the straight ones are taken. haha
This summer though I'll have some time for myself. I'll still be training (dance, voice, workshops, etc.) but it will be less frequent than usual since I won't be doing an actual production. So hopefully, I'll be able to use that time to get a social life.0 -
Thanks for the advice guys For those wondering what kind of "career" I have (and I'm not using it as an excuse, I literally do nothing else), I'm an actress who does musical theatre. It's not just a hobby for me, I been doing it for ten years and train 5 days a week. In a year, I'm auditioning for a very important musical theatre program that's hard to get into. I do meet guys in musical theatre, but all of them are gay and all the straight ones are taken. haha
This summer though I'll have some time for myself. I'll still be training (dance, voice, workshops, etc.) but it will be less frequent than usual since I won't be doing an actual production. So hopefully, I'll be able to use that time to get a social life.
Well this does make more sense then but you are still young. Try something like meetup.com if you don't want to do online dating. You could meet some other people in your type of situation where you have things in common after your auditioning process when things calm down for you. That would at least get you out and about.0 -
"I'm so tired of being alone" at 18???
I'm not being judgemental, I promise. But how are you tired of being alone at just 18??? You're not even 21!
GOOD FOR YOU FOR FOCUSING on your career! That's awesome and just what you should be doing at 18. Take it from someone who married at 22 and is now divorced at 32. You're doing great. Guys will always be there.
I am just concerned that you feel desperate at this age. That's not a good sign. Really reflect on yourself on why you feel this way.. desperation might eventually cause you to make not so wise decisions in dating.
Have fun right now, focus on your career and just enjoy having friends. You have plenty of time to find a guy.0 -
You're 18. Every guy your age is basically a walking penis. Go ask one of them out.
This is also true at 28, 38, and alrhought I'm not there yet, prob at 48:):) 0 -
"I'm so tired of being alone" at 18???
I'm not being judgemental, I promise. But how are you tired of being alone at just 18??? You're not even 21!
GOOD FOR YOU FOR FOCUSING on your career! That's awesome and just what you should be doing at 18. Take it from someone who married at 22 and is now divorced at 32. You're doing great. Guys will always be there.
I am just concerned that you feel desperate at this age. That's not a good sign. Really reflect on yourself on why you feel this way.. desperation might eventually cause you to make not so wise decisions in dating.
Have fun right now, focus on your career and just enjoy having friends. You have plenty of time to find a guy.
Totally agree with this ^^^^ Great advice.
And if you need to show yourself you are attractive and there is nothing wrong with you then this is also true:You're 18. Every guy your age is basically a walking penis. Go ask one of them out.
Join a group of any description, ask a guy out, get it out of your system and then get back to doing what you love. Enjoy your life, it's what is happening now that matters :flowerforyou:0 -
hmm, were on the same page, exept i was surprised when i read youre only 18. you are still young and have years ahead. Always find time for fun and relax hang out with people, dont stress yourself too much on your career.
I think im more desperate than you since im in my 30s and ive never been with anyone, as in NEVER (believe it or not) and like you, the guys i like are not into me (and are mostly gay) and those who are...well i just cant force myself to like them just coz i want to have a BF. I was at the point of thinking theres probably something really wrong with me and most of the time i blame it on my weight.
anyway...lets stay focused...Things will happen in God's time 0 -
A lot of people don't go on dates, especially teens. People go out in groups or "hang out". But I majored in theatre so I know the odds of eligible guys that aren't gay or too weird is slim. By being involved and social, you maximize opportunities to meet someone cool. Be yourself and smile at someone you like. You aren't desperate. There is time and you will have your opportunity for romance just don't get hung up on this fantastical date idea because that is rare.0
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Seriously, I know I sound desperate. That's because I am. Is it too much to ask for ONE date? All I want is to go on a date for once in my life. I know, I know I should just go and ask guys out myself BUT I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career AND the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable. How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better? haha
Story of my life..0 -
*ahem.
It's a damn shame you're straight...0 -
Seriously, I know I sound desperate. That's because I am. Is it too much to ask for ONE date? All I want is to go on a date for once in my life. I know, I know I should just go and ask guys out myself BUT I'm never in situations where I meet guys because I'm too busy focusing on my career AND the one guy I'm remotely interested in I feel is unattainable. How do I fix this or at least make myself feel better? haha
Story of my life..
sounds like australia is the place to go. :laugh:0 -
Sounds like you need some you time!! there are plenty of options for you to meet someone.. you need to find the balance bewteen career and love life for sure..0
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Anyone know where I can get cheap airline tickets to Austrailia? :drinker: :flowerforyou: :smooched:0
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