Religion, Politics and Other Sensitive Topics
AllanMisner
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How important is it to you that you share the same religious, political or other sensitive topic ideas with the one you date/commit/marry?
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Religion for some is an absolute must,for me important and would be a thing to think about.
Politics is about compatibility and depends on how passionate one is about it.0 -
It depends on how extreme their views are! In general, I think like for like attract when it comes to religion and politics. I've never had an issue with it anyhow. I just dont think I'd get past the dating stage with someone who's core values are way out of my beliefs. Some of my views are non negotiable. So that would make us incompatible.
But yeah, it would depend on how far apart our core values stand.
That would be true for sexual compatibility too......0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
This is pretty much me too. Most my friends have strong religion or political views but I am middle of the road for both.
One of my close friends though the first thing she asks a guy is if he is republican or democrat becuase she will never date a democrate. It really is amazing that we are even friends since I skew on the side of democrats.0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
This is pretty much me too. Most my friends have strong religion or political views but I am middle of the road for both.
One of my close friends though the first thing she asks a guy is if he is republican or democrat becuase she will never date a democrate. It really is amazing that we are even friends since I skew on the side of democrats.
That seems stupid and iggnorant to me personally. To be or not to be friends because of ones political views. Although the seriousness of the issue doesnt weigh in comparison, its the exact same mentalitiy that fuels racism and religious wars.0 -
My views are rather unique, so I don't make sharing them essential for dating. If I refused to date someone who shared my important views, I'd probably never go on a date.
Some things, like waiting for sex, the man doesn't have to agree agree with me (but he'll just have to do).
Some things, like supporting my religious faith (not necessarily meaning we see 100% eye to eye on that, but that he's supportive and respectful of my lifestyle and ministry) will have to be a requirement for a full-blown relationship, but I don't make it a requirement for initial dating. There's a hundred other things we will probably break up over without having to drag religion through it.0 -
How important is it to you that you share the same religious, political or other sensitive topic ideas with the one you date/commit/marry?
Political, I don't care. Simply because I'm not a big fan of it.
Religious, I'm not religious. I have no problem with those who are, but I don't totally get into it all of it. I don't mind if the girl is.
Others - the only other thing is kids. I'm not sure where I stand with kids right now in my life. With the right girl, maybe. But I try to make this known from the beginning.0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
Hmm, damn, you're just like me. That's a good thing.0 -
It really depends on how extreme our views are. I like being able to have in depth discussions about those topics, so I wouldn't want someone who agreed with me 100%, but I also don't want to be fighting about those issues either.0
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For me, they're very important and to be honest probably has something to do with the fact that I'm still single.
Religion is important to me because I have a strong faith. While I would never force it on someone, I think for us to really "click," he'd have to share my beliefs in some manner. And there's always the fact that my dad is a minister, haha.
Politics are pretty important to me too. It used to be that a guy's political belief's only mattered to me because I knew that they would matter to my family. Now as I'm getting older, I follow politics much closer than I used to. I'd like a guy that is at least somewhat in line with me.
Gotta say though, it's been difficult for me to find a guy who is religious, even a little.0 -
I'm good with anything so long as they aren't preachy or so extreme they are likely to get arrested and me investigated.0
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For me, they're very important and to be honest probably has something to do with the fact that I'm still single.
Religion is important to me because I have a strong faith. While I would never force it on someone, I think for us to really "click," he'd have to share my beliefs in some manner. And there's always the fact that my dad is a minister, haha.
Politics are pretty important to me too. It used to be that a guy's political belief's only mattered to me because I knew that they would matter to my family. Now as I'm getting older, I follow politics much closer than I used to. I'd like a guy that is at least somewhat in line with me.
Gotta say though, it's been difficult for me to find a guy who is religious, even a little.
At least for where I am from, there would be little chance on me bumping into someone even remotely religious whilst out on a weekend or in my daily goings. I suppose it has to do with the circles you get around in.
There was this one girl I was soooo keen on at one stage and she was JW and a couple of years younger than me. She liked me but said she couldnt date me because of her religious views and her parents etc... I disliked jesus on this date lol.0 -
Gotta say though, it's been difficult for me to find a guy who is religious, even a little.
Tru dat. When I first became single, I was only gonna date a religious guy. Couldn't find one in my age bracket. That's why I stopped making it a requirement for initial dating. But it's a requirement for long term.
The right one for me will eventually be open to the faith.0 -
I prefer the guy to be a different religion from me - preferably atheist or agnostic.
It'd be nice to have someone that shared political views but in reality my stance is hard to come across. I figure since I can respect and admire people despite their political differences I can do the same in a relationship - especially since I've been kind on the government for a while now. As long as we can have passionate discussions that we don't take personally it'll be fine.0 -
Honestly it doesn't have any bearing to me at all - unless you are a very different religion like Wiccan or something. I love a good debate.0
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For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
Hmm, damn, you're just like me. That's a good thing.
This is me as well. I would add that "morals" are probably what is important to me to have in common with my my boyfriend. As for the rest, I enjoy a good discussion wit different points of view...as long as it's a discussion, not an argument where someone has to be wrong.0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
this is pretty much me also, though the difference being I do believe in God, but has never been a problem to date someone different. As for politics, bleh!!!
Key is that I am middle of the road, on most issues, so he would have to be also, or accept that I am.....0 -
For me personally I dont care much for either religion or politics, so long as the person isnt trying to change my ideals on these, I dont really mind. Unless they are extremists in some form.
I personally dont believe in a god as such, so I havent really found that to be a problem as such as people whom do believe in god, generally dont go for people like me.
And if someone talks to me about politics I shall more than likely fall asleep. However I have opinions and will debate about them on sensitive issues but I think this is good to challenge each other at times in this regard.
I'm on the same boat with you on this. I do like interesting conversations about pretty much any topic, as long as the other person isn't trying to shovel their believes down my throat as the only right ones. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but in my opinion extremist are taking it too far
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I have a strong faith in God and I never really thought it would make a difference whether or not my boyfriend shared that faith. UNTIL .. lol .. I found someone who has that same faith. I love love love it. I love that he talks openly about his faith and that he has such a STRONG faith in the Lord. I don't know that I could go back now to someone who doesn't share that faith.
Politics .. meh.
Football .. OH YES. There must be a shared hatred for particular teams. I could NEVER EVER EVER date a Ravens, Bengals or Browns fan. Period. End of discussion. We wouldn't even get to a first date, because yes, that is one of the questions I ask straight away.0 -
More important to me: He has to be willing to at least tolerate animals. I'm not asking he be crazy enthusiastic like me, just know that they will always be a part of my life. I'm going to work with animals as a career so all the training and stuff will be my dig. You just enjoy the results.0
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Gotta say though, it's been difficult for me to find a guy who is religious, even a little.
Tru dat. When I first became single, I was only gonna date a religious guy. Couldn't find one in my age bracket. That's why I stopped making it a requirement for initial dating. But it's a requirement for long term.
The right one for me will eventually be open to the faith.
Ditto.0 -
There are core values that make me ME and I'd like to think that my SO and I share these values because if I were to have children one day with him, these would come in play when raising them.
(who the hell is THIS?!?! Now I'm talking about raising babies)0 -
Religious: Vitally important.
Political: Not so much
I will not be with a woman who does not believe that Jesus is way, the truth and the life. That's a sensitive topic, I understand, but that's MY choice.
I really should read what I type prior to posting...ARGH!!!!0 -
I can't stand people that love to talk politics. That's because usually they are an extremist and they believe that they are right and everyone else is wrong. I've found it to be nearly impossible to have rational political conversations with these people, and at the same time I find it difficult to keep my mouth shut when they start going on and on about how their "beliefs" are right and everything else is wrong.
Religion isn't as bad. Most people I know respect other peoples beliefs, and I am very non-religious but I try to keep an open mind. I even went to church on X-mas eve, it wasn't bad, actually a little entertaining. But in the long run I think it would just cause problems if my hypothetical future wife wanted to take the hypothetical future kids to church all the time because I know I'm sure as hell not going. Plus I also believe my kids should have a right to choose for themselves, I just see it being an issue.0 -
With Religion, it depends on how open minded and accepting of others beliefs they are. I'm an atheist. I'm very comfortable in churches and spent a lot of my youth singing in them. I could date someone who was religious. One of my closest friends (who I did consider dating at one point) is devoutly religious and we have more in common in terms of our view of people/life/ethics than I have with most of my fellow atheists. I have nothing in common with people who are very driven by materialistic concerns/preoccupations. I have also have a lot in common with Buddhists who practice it as a way of life/philosophy, rather than religious worship. There is a fascinating (to me :laugh: ) cross-over between buddhism and psychotherapy, they absolutely have their finger on the pulse of what constitues the most positive qualities in the human spirit and how to nurture them/grow as people. On the other hand, less accepting, more prescriptive/judgemental religious views would be a problem for me in terms of compatibility.
Politics affects me more as I grew up in a highly politicised environment and so feel quite stronglythat it's a moral issue. Ideally I'd like someone to share my general outlook but if they were non-political that would be fine too. I like people who are interested in the world, who have a view. I don't think I could date someone with strong opposing political views. I'd find it hard to accept that they saw the same injustice in the world that I do but viewed it differently and actively supported political movements that enabled it to continue.0
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