Congratulations - that can't have been easy. That is not an uncommon response for kids, because there is a lot of questions about what that means for them.

There is a great book for teens and tweens written by a member of COLAGE. It is called Let's get this straight. May be worth a look. The COLAGE site also can recommend other books and resources.

Good luck, and thank you for sharkng your journey with us.

My mom told me my dad was when I was 18. They were going through a divorce at the time. It took me a long time to accept. When you are a parent - your kids don't see you the same way they see other adults. Kids seem to always have the dream of the 'perfect' family where mommy and daddy are together, white picket fence, dog, whatever they have seen through their friends and t.v. and what they want and like. She needs some time to process. Does she understand what you told her? She could be scared that she is going to lose you. She could be confused about whether you still love her. There are probably some of what as an adult we would see as 'irrational' thoughts that she is sorting through too. Give her some time and keep talking to her. I can say that I would have preferred to know when I was much younger myself.