Thinking about him again... :(
UsedToBeHusky
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So how do I get over this crush?!?!? Seriously... it's been over a year since this guy paid me any real attention at all. I don't want to think about him. I don't want to care. But I can't seem to make these feelings go away. How have you gotten over that one person that you couldn't have?
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Exercise
Acknowledge your progress!
Go shopping
Hang out with your best friends or others that always cheer you up.
Go out on a date.
Just a few...0 -
Do you entertain dreams that it can somehow still be?0
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Do you entertain dreams that it can somehow still be?
Try not to. But... yes... ::hangs head in shame::0 -
ask him out. if he says no, you'll be hurt but at least you'll have absolution. absolution is a must, it prevents the what if scenario from trolling around in your head.0
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Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to stay busy with other people and other things, that has been my saving grace more than once. Try getting out of the house and not seeing that person. No texts or calls, nothing!! Sucks at first but it can make the biggest differece.0
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ask him out. if he says no, you'll be hurt but at least you'll have absolution. absolution is a must, it prevents the what if scenario from trolling around in your head.
Been there done that. Three times now... we are in the getting over it phase.0 -
Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to stay busy with other people and other things, that has been my saving grace more than once. Try getting out of the house and not seeing that person. No texts or calls, nothing!! Sucks at first but it can make the biggest differece.
Been doing that too... haven't really spoken to him in over a year.0 -
Do you entertain dreams that it can somehow still be?
Try not to. But... yes... ::hangs head in shame::
I wish it didn`t sound so cold but sadly until you stop doing this you will not get past him.
I say past instead of over because I think they are different things.0 -
Do you entertain dreams that it can somehow still be?
Try not to. But... yes... ::hangs head in shame::
I wish it didn`t sound so cold but sadly until you stop doing this you will not get past him.
I say past instead of over because I think they are different things.
You're right... I've got to stop these thoughts when they pop into my head. For the most part, I already have, but I saw him a couple of months ago. I tried to approach him again. His response was lacking... now I keep thinking he might surprise me... but I know deep down that I don't believe it. But for some reason, that thought just creeps back into my head. :frown:
I don't understand why this is so hard for me.0 -
1) Find someone else on which you can focus your attention,
2) Get ignored for 1 year,
3) Post on MFP,
4) Get silly advice,
5) Go back to 1.
OUTCOME: Die alone. There is a slight chance that, in some very rare cases, the loop gets broken.
...My pleasure, it was free advice.
Seriously though, if I could offer you the following trade:
I give you 1 wish that *any* guy in the world you choose will fall in love with you instantly, except this man who will *forever* be off limits.
Would you take it?
If you replied yes, then get your *kitten* out there and at least try to find that other man you want.
If you replied no, then you're stupid. :laugh:0 -
1) Find someone else on which you can focus your attention,
2) Get ignored for 1 year,
3) Post on MFP,
4) Get silly advice,
5) Go back to 1.
OUTCOME: Die alone. There is a slight chance that, in some very rare cases, the loop gets broken.
...My pleasure, it was free advice.
Seriously though, if I could offer you the following trade:
I give you 1 wish that *any* guy in the world you choose will fall in love with you instantly, except this man who will *forever* be off limits.
Would you take it?
If you replied yes, then get your *kitten* out there and at least try to find that other man you want.
If you replied no, then you're stupid. :laugh:
Yes, so helpful. LOL! I don't know what I want... I try to tell myself that given my run of luck in the relationship department that I am better off anyway... but that doesn't stay with me long.0 -
Honestly .. the only thing that stopped me from thinking about my exhusband was, time and then after a while I got so sick of myself constantly thinking about him that I started to pay attention to my thoughts and every time I thought about him, I would remember something bad he did and then make the choice to think about something else. Anything else. After a while, my brain got used to not thinking about him.
You can't allow yourself to think about him. You can control your thoughts.0 -
I don't understand why this is so hard for me.
Because he's amazing. Because when he used to smile at you just so your whole body melted. Because you guys had such great potential. Because if he'd just pull his head out and realize how awesome you two would be together you'd make all other couples jealous.
You’ve got to let the fantasy go and stop dreaming about how great it would be. It’s tough, but you can do it! When the feelings/fantasies come back into your mind you’ll have to tell yourself he’s NOT perfect for you (he’s obviously not smart enough to figure out how awesome you are, lol). He’s a great guy, perfect for someone else, and the guy who is perfect for you will soon come along.
{{{{{hugs to you }}}}}0 -
I don't understand why this is so hard for me.
Because he's amazing. Because when he used to smile at you just so your whole body melted. Because you guys had such great potential. Because if he'd just pull his head out and realize how awesome you two would be together you'd make all other couples jealous.
You’ve got to let the fantasy go and stop dreaming about how great it would be. It’s tough, but you can do it! When the feelings/fantasies come back into your mind you’ll have to tell yourself he’s NOT perfect for you (he’s obviously not smart enough to figure out how awesome you are, lol). He’s a great guy, perfect for someone else, and the guy who is perfect for you will soon come along.
{{{{{hugs to you }}}}}
This was extremely helpful, but made me a little sad. Thanks. :flowerforyou:0 -
best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one.
its a tale as old as time.
just like how white btches love firemen.0 -
Is that true? JJ go create a new thread please!just like how white btches love firemen.0 -
true as a heartattack.0
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Because he's amazing. Because when he used to smile at you just so your whole body melted. Because you guys had such great potential. Because if he'd just pull his head out and realize how awesome you two would be together you'd make all other couples jealous.
You’ve got to let the fantasy go and stop dreaming about how great it would be. It’s tough, but you can do it! When the feelings/fantasies come back into your mind you’ll have to tell yourself he’s NOT perfect for you (he’s obviously not smart enough to figure out how awesome you are, lol). He’s a great guy, perfect for someone else, and the guy who is perfect for you will soon come along.
I know this wasn't aimed at me, but I really needed to read that.
No matter how "good" we were together, alone... his public persona was something completely different and, honestly, quite rude and obnoxious. It doesn't matter WHY he left, and he won't provide a straight answer over bull****. Yes, he's smart, but not smart enough to realize what he has pushed away... so it's time to move on.
As much as I would like to get "under" someone else to get OVER him... I would be lying to myself. Time to get in my own place, and refocus on myself, my fitness, my sanity. Then, just maybe, I'll be in the right frame of mind to find a replacement. I am awesome, I know I am... I'm just not projecting that right now. *Sets her "go" face and takes off*0 -
I don't understand why this is so hard for me.
Because he's amazing. Because when he used to smile at you just so your whole body melted. Because you guys had such great potential. Because if he'd just pull his head out and realize how awesome you two would be together you'd make all other couples jealous.
You’ve got to let the fantasy go and stop dreaming about how great it would be. It’s tough, but you can do it! When the feelings/fantasies come back into your mind you’ll have to tell yourself he’s NOT perfect for you (he’s obviously not smart enough to figure out how awesome you are, lol). He’s a great guy, perfect for someone else, and the guy who is perfect for you will soon come along.
{{{{{hugs to you }}}}}
LOL!! I love this. I laughed the whole time reading it. Definitely applied to me in some of my relationships or crushes. Ha.0 -
all btches love hot men in uniforms. :glasses:best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one.
its a tale as old as time.
just like how white btches love firemen.0 -
Yes, he's smart, but not smart enough to realize what he has pushed away... so it's time to move on.
Exactly! Girl, you got this!0 -
best way to get over the last one is to get under the next one.
its a tale as old as time.
hell it worked for me.. and I didn't plan it!0 -
Quit letting Lifetime movies remind you of him! Naw I'm just playin, I'm sorry you're stuck in that rut.
I had a guy on my mind like this once. I thought about him often for years, even after it'd been over for a LONG time.
I'm not sure what got me over him. Honestly I think I just grew out of it and matured from the situation.0 -
Been there, done that. The only real healing will come with time and focusing on yourself (mentally, physically and possibly even spiritually). Good luck!0
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Been there, done that. The only real healing will come with time and focusing on yourself (mentally, physically and possibly even spiritually). Good luck!
I agree and would highly recommend the spirituality part - i am not talking about some New Age crap - go for something that resonates with you; for me it was Jungian depth psychology & dream interpretation oh and of course running!!!0
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