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2stepz
2stepz Posts: 814 Member
edited December 2024 in Social Groups
So... I've been single and self-supporting for my entire adult life. However the last 2 years I have had to sublet rooms due to financial considerations. This makes dating a PITA. In the next 10 days I'm moving out, and establishing my own abode again, without sub-leasers. I'm so excited!! I will get to have my preferred set up (treadmill in front of the TV, XBOX and Wii set up for aerobics, and weight set in the living room) and I'm within "no excuses" distance of two major walking trails in my town.

This is HUGE for me. However, I have a couple worries at the moment. One - due to packing and such, I'll be living off fast food for the next week or so. However, I will be moving my body more to do packing, lifting boxes, etc... so I'm not TOO concerned about the calories... just the sodium.

Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...

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  • Silver180
    Silver180 Posts: 294 Member
    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling.



    And the problem is............what exactly? :)
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    It's pretty easy to eat pretty healthy without a kitchen. I have to do it all the time. Just takes a little more research on what restaurants offer. Luckily almost every chain has it all up on the web. The local places are harder but it's pretty easy to find an equivalent. Sodium is a concern but can just counter it by upping your water intake for that week.

    Oh and I am jealous, I miss having my own place.
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling.
    And the problem is............what exactly? :)
    Hahaha... the problem is the line you cut off! I have to be able to live with myself the next day, no matter what I want at 10 pm...
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...

    Girrrrl I know how you feel! What a shame to hit this peak while single... why couldn't I have hit it whilst married?? haha I bet my ex would ask the same thing! I rarely invite guys to my place for that reason... and they always say something like, "You don't have to worry about me...I'm a total gentleman" and I reply, "I'm not worried about YOU, hun. I'm worried about ME.":laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    PS: would the guys jump me if I added that anytime a man has told me "I'm a total gentleman" he always ends up being the one I have to fight off later. :explode:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    A secret...

    I haven't worked out in the last 2 weeks besides a couple of runs here and there. Moving was hectic. I just put my 2nd room together tonight. I was also living off of fast food (tried to pick healthier options). By next week I should be better.

    Congrats on your new beginning though!!! :drinker:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Yeah, congrats!!! What a brand new start, I love having my own place :bigsmile:

    As for inviting guys back? Do what you want, you're only answerable to yourself! :smooched:

    TBH I dont let my sex drive get the better of me when I meet a guy. I've invited many a date back here and not had sex. Strictly drinking, talking, sleeping - in that order :laugh: You're the only one in control hun :flowerforyou:

    Enjoy! :drinker:
  • Moe4572
    Moe4572 Posts: 1,428 Member
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    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...
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    I am going throught the exact same thing.....moving in about 10 days to my own place, and worried about the same thing......but guess see how it works out ..... for both of us....good luck!!
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    TBH I dont let my sex drive get the better of me when I meet a guy.

    That's great...I like to think I have excellent self control, but I always use the above line as an excuse to avoid the drama that ensues once guys get the scent that you're into them. It's like they figure you're telling them no so you can "appear" to be a good girl, not because you really mean no. And then they push too far. Being pinned down and having to draw upon my unarmed combat skills is an unpleasant experience, and one I'd rather not repeat.
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    ...once guys get the scent that you're into them...
    * BARKS *
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...

    Funny... I had these same fears. I had my own place before but it had been shared with the ex. I did bring guys over though but for some reason having MY own place (me choosing it, me paying for it, me decorating it to my taste) felt different. And I pictured myself inviting men over to my place all the time (like in the movies!). Hehe.
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    Congrats on your own place!!! I love having my house to myself - I can walk around nekkid if I wanna etc. Great stuff. Enjoy your freedom again! :drinker:
  • oddyogi
    oddyogi Posts: 1,816 Member
    Congrats on your own place!

    I look forward to living on my own again one day, but for now I highly enjoy my roomie. :) I have cheap rent, a yard for my doggies, and a nice house to live in.. oh and the whole stopping-myself-from-inviting-dudes-over-all-the-time problem. :P

    Good luck with your challenges!

    As for the fast food.. if you can do anything but eat fast food do it! It's not the sodium that will kill you, it's all the processed junk and chemicals inside the food. Yuck!
  • MyTime1985
    MyTime1985 Posts: 456 Member
    Congratulations!!!

    I have to say I get it. I bought a house a couple years ago that was a foreclosure that had sat empty. I had to gut the entire house while working full time and taking care of my daughter before I could move in. It took me 3 months. I ate fast food and guzzled Mt. Dew. I ended up gaining almost 30 pounds! :noway: Don't make my mistake! Be careful what you put in your mouth...trust me.

    My brother moved in with me about a year ago. 6 months later I let his girlfriend move in too. Needless to say I haven't had anyone over in a really long time. I think it's because I don't really want to get involved but now that the roommates have a child on the way they will most likely be getting their own place in a year or so. (My daughter is at her Dad's every other weekend) I wonder if that will unleash my wild side? :smokin: Either way I think it will be fun. I'm starting to remember all the luxuries of living alone. Everything is where YOU put it! You can walk around in clothes you wouldn't be caught dead in. You can watch anything you want. It's going to be great! I'm happy for you! You'll have to keep us posted.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member

    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...

    I am going throught the exact same thing.....moving in about 10 days to my own place, and worried about the same thing......but guess see how it works out ..... for both of us....good luck!!
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    The thing is girls, I dont even think a ONS is even worth the angst!! I mean, lets be honest, what guy on a ONS gives a **** about if the girl enjoys it or not?? So, is it going to fulfill your physical desire anyhow? And if not, then are you going to feel used? You're probably better off with a rabbit! At least you can make yourself cum without the guilt!! :laugh:

    After a couple attempts at this over the years I figured that it's not worth it at all. Coupled with the fact that I've been too drunk to remember it anyhow :laugh:

    Nothing like getting to know a guy and exploring each other's bodies :bigsmile:

    No offence to guys whatsover, just being open and honest :flowerforyou:
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    No offence to guys whatsover, just being open and honest :flowerforyou:
    Not very open, I think... Spread those legs a little bit more please!

    I guess it probably depends on the context, but you can definitely have a good ONS by being mildly drunk and finding a guy who cares about you enough to give you pleasure.
    To be honest, I normally have less pleasure than a girl (I think) on a ONS for a variety of reasons.
    But sometimes, just for the warmth of another human body and stuff that goes with it (kissing, caresses, etc.) it might be worth it.

    It can certainly brighten a weekend and put a smile back on that face (especially when your sex drive is through the roof).
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Not very open, I think... Spread those legs a little bit more please!

    I guess it probably depends on the context, but you can definitely have a good ONS by being mildly drunk and finding a guy who cares about you enough to give you pleasure.

    I've only ever woke up feeling "WTF did I do that for?" :noway: :laugh:

    But you're very sweet Florian if you at least try to give pleasure :flowerforyou:

    To be honest, I normally have less pleasure than a girl (I think) on a ONS for a variety of reasons.

    What reasons?? :bigsmile:
    But sometimes, just for the warmth of another human body and stuff that goes with it (kissing, caresses, etc.) it might be worth it.

    I can get that without the sex! I dunno, for me, the whole bumping uglies thing needs to be with someone I am bit more familiar with, for me to get pleasure from it. But hey, we are all different :flowerforyou:
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    So... I've been single and self-supporting for my entire adult life. However the last 2 years I have had to sublet rooms due to financial considerations. This makes dating a PITA. In the next 10 days I'm moving out, and establishing my own abode again, without sub-leasers. I'm so excited!! I will get to have my preferred set up (treadmill in front of the TV, XBOX and Wii set up for aerobics, and weight set in the living room) and I'm within "no excuses" distance of two major walking trails in my town.

    This is HUGE for me. However, I have a couple worries at the moment. One - due to packing and such, I'll be living off fast food for the next week or so. However, I will be moving my body more to do packing, lifting boxes, etc... so I'm not TOO concerned about the calories... just the sodium.

    Two - I'm a little concerned I'll be more likely to invite guys back to my place too soon. Not that there's anyone around here that I'm remotely interested in at the moment... but I have hit an age recently where my sex drive is in overdrive, and I find myself willing to settle for a purely physical fling. At the same time, during the light of day in my sane mind, I wouldn't consider that. Ugggh...

    Lots of water, smart choices at fast food and you should be ok.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    The thing is girls, I dont even think a ONS is even worth the angst!! I mean, lets be honest, what guy on a ONS gives a **** about if the girl enjoys it or not?? So, is it going to fulfill your physical desire anyhow?

    Ain't THAT the truth!
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    You should make it count anytime guys, especially the ons, there the ones they are going to tell their friends, what kinda story do you want it to be lol
  • llahairdna
    llahairdna Posts: 502 Member
    Congrats on the new place!!

    Last summer I considered renting out my spare room to help ease the pain of the mortgage, but then I remembered how much I love not having to share the bathroom, not trying to separate groceries, and being able to do WHATEVER THE EFF I WANT!!!!! I date, but I dread the idea of having to share a place again....
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,830 Member
    I date, but I dread the idea of having to share a place again....

    I'm with you on this!!

    I think I'll make separate bathrooms and closets part of the pre-nup!
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