I am high maintenance...
La_Amazona
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I keep seeing chicks on here referring themselves to "low maintenance". Cool beans.
Well I'm high maintenance and I don't mind it. I'm sure there are guys out there that wouldn't care for it, but there are guys out there that enjoy it as well.
Here is why I think so:
I like attention. I want to know I'm on your mind.. I don't need constant attention, but I am now accustomed to Smiley's 'good morning' texts, lunch texts and good night phone calls when I'm not with him. If he misses one, I get cranky. (plus, I'm a taurus, we do NOT like change!)
I get needy sometimes (usually around PMS time- like now). I'll do these little cute noises or facial expressions when I'm feeling needy. I can't help it. Yes, I'm 33 but I never claimed to be Miss Mature.
I take a long time to get ready. I do my hair, my make up (although I don't wear a lot IMO), I will take forever to pick out the perfect outfit. I wear awesome heels that match perfectly with my outfit. My nails are painted and so are my toes.
I can shop for hours and hours. The longest I've done is from 10am until about 11pm and all I came home with was a couple of skirts, dress and a pair of flip flops. It's the thrill of the chase!
I'm all for boys nights/ girls nights but I do like to say "Hi" once during the night.
If I don't like something, I say it. Maybe this comes across as whiney sometimes but I don't care. I rather say too much than not enough. I don't b!tch but I will communicate my expectations.
I cry and am very emotional. I will cry if you hurt my feelings. I'm sensitive. I've always been this way since I was a little girl. People think I'm tough, which I am.. but underneath the hard shell I'm just a runny yolk.
I like reassurance whether it's by appreciating the little things I do for you, noticing my new dress, noticing new panties, telling me you're thinking of me, etc etc.. I like it, I want it.
When I get mad at you, I'll pout and then you'll ask "what's wrong" and I'll say "nothing" while looking out the car window. Yup, that's me.
That's all. I'm bored and thought I'd type this out. :bigsmile: So yeah, I think I'm one of "those" girls.
Well I'm high maintenance and I don't mind it. I'm sure there are guys out there that wouldn't care for it, but there are guys out there that enjoy it as well.
Here is why I think so:
I like attention. I want to know I'm on your mind.. I don't need constant attention, but I am now accustomed to Smiley's 'good morning' texts, lunch texts and good night phone calls when I'm not with him. If he misses one, I get cranky. (plus, I'm a taurus, we do NOT like change!)
I get needy sometimes (usually around PMS time- like now). I'll do these little cute noises or facial expressions when I'm feeling needy. I can't help it. Yes, I'm 33 but I never claimed to be Miss Mature.
I take a long time to get ready. I do my hair, my make up (although I don't wear a lot IMO), I will take forever to pick out the perfect outfit. I wear awesome heels that match perfectly with my outfit. My nails are painted and so are my toes.
I can shop for hours and hours. The longest I've done is from 10am until about 11pm and all I came home with was a couple of skirts, dress and a pair of flip flops. It's the thrill of the chase!
I'm all for boys nights/ girls nights but I do like to say "Hi" once during the night.
If I don't like something, I say it. Maybe this comes across as whiney sometimes but I don't care. I rather say too much than not enough. I don't b!tch but I will communicate my expectations.
I cry and am very emotional. I will cry if you hurt my feelings. I'm sensitive. I've always been this way since I was a little girl. People think I'm tough, which I am.. but underneath the hard shell I'm just a runny yolk.
I like reassurance whether it's by appreciating the little things I do for you, noticing my new dress, noticing new panties, telling me you're thinking of me, etc etc.. I like it, I want it.
When I get mad at you, I'll pout and then you'll ask "what's wrong" and I'll say "nothing" while looking out the car window. Yup, that's me.
That's all. I'm bored and thought I'd type this out. :bigsmile: So yeah, I think I'm one of "those" girls.
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You need a PMS hobby. Something to keep you occupied while on the rag wagon.0
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LOL that's what you're for...
Why do you say that?
I'm not bored because of PMS. I'm bored because I'm bored.
By the way, these beautiful characteristics of mine don't only peek out during PMS. This is ME. La_Amazona. I have shaved off as much rough edge as I possibly can so I'm embracing me.
If you look at my "why I'm a catch" list, you'll see the trade off is pretty darn worth it.0 -
You sound like one of my best friends back home (so not counting NV as home yet).
I'm the opposite though. I'm low maintenance. It's actually kinda funny because if you take some of your points and go the opposite (quick to get ready, causal, doesn't need a hi on guys night, takes an hour or two to shop, generally won't cry) it fits me to a T. Although I'm not opposite on all of those. I'll still speak up if I really dislike something, I like reinsurance from time to time, and there are times I really love to dress up.
But it's like you said. There's guys out there who like and enjoy high maintenance women (I know, my friends are higher maintainance and my coworker's wives are higher maintenance... some probably have even more items to add to the list you have lol) and so I always tend to hope there are guys who like lower maintenance. :-)0 -
My current boyfriend likes certain things about me being high maintence like the dressing up and he'll put up with the daily texts. He's not much of a talker (I'm learning) so he'll just listen to my emotional crap and just tell me what he thinks.
The getting pissed part and looking out the window, well I'm still working on that because he's the type that will take my silence as not wanting to talk about it. Grrrrr. IT'S THE OPPOSITE. I just want you to dig it out of me. I know, stupid but what ev!
It's just funny how we're all different. I'm sure plenty of guys would consider me a psycho and that's fine. Eh.
I'm in a "I don't give a damn" mood today! lol0 -
We are all unique individuals with our own quirks and vices...the question always becomes which is worth more,having the relationship or persisting in the practice in question.
As always talk it out with him,if that issue of you saying nothing is wrong when it is will cause a problem in the long run then he needs to know what you want or you need to change it.0 -
Wow..........La_Amazona. You and I are so alke it's quite scary!!! I've never considered myself high maintenance, but I guess I am!! And I'm totally okay with that.
Cheers to embracing who we are!! :drinker:0 -
Shoot is perfectly ok to be high maintenance. Sometimes I wish I were more of the girly girl.
Amazona - shoot work it girl!!! And sometimes the I just dont give a damn mood - fits perfectly especially for me right now.0 -
We are all unique individuals with our own quirks and vices...the question always becomes which is worth more,having the relationship or persisting in the practice in question.
As always talk it out with him,if that issue of you saying nothing is wrong when it is will cause a problem in the long run then he needs to know what you want or you need to change it.
Eventually I come out and say it especially because he doesn't put up with this act of mine.
I don't have a problem with how I am. I'm never going to be perfect. I'm not crazy. I'm not psycho. I'm not an abuser. I'm not going to use somebody. I don't play games (besides that 1).
I'm okay with me. Like I said, I've shaved off a lot of extra which came off as demands. I'm done with that. But there is only so much I can change w/o changing all of me. This is me.0 -
My current boyfriend likes certain things about me being high maintence like the dressing up and he'll put up with the daily texts. He's not much of a talker (I'm learning) so he'll just listen to my emotional crap and just tell me what he thinks.
The getting pissed part and looking out the window, well I'm still working on that because he's the type that will take my silence as not wanting to talk about it. Grrrrr. IT'S THE OPPOSITE. I just want you to dig it out of me. I know, stupid but what ev!
It's just funny how we're all different. I'm sure plenty of guys would consider me a psycho and that's fine. Eh.
I'm in a "I don't give a damn" mood today! lol
I do the same thing. I say nothing is wrong, but I want him to keep pushing it. I also want him to discover what is wrong, without me having to tell him directly. Kinda crazy,
I always thought I was low maintenance, but I was never really in a relationship. I am kinda high maintenance and my bf already told me that I am crazy. I don't need or like consonant communication, but I do need assurance and romance. I also get really emotional, that's why I try to not talk about emotions too often, because I cry so easily.0 -
Hehe, my bf tells me I'm crazy too. :blushing: But he will say "nothing I can't handle". Luckily for me, he thinks it's cute. Now if I went all bat poop crazy on him, I'm sure he'd probably want the exit.0
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I am way more high maintenance now than I was back in college. In college and grad school I was the epitome of "low maintenance." Interestingly, I got almost NO male attention back then and get plenty now. So I don't look at "high maintenance" as being a bad thing.0
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I never considered myself to be high maintenance but I am the same as you in like 90% of your list, LOL!! Add that I'm super indecisive cuz I'm a Libra. You learn something new about yourself every day...0
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I'm super indecisive too. I go back and forth. My bf laughs at me. (such a good thing to still be in the honeymoon phase.. gotta say! lol)
JJ, I don't see it as a bad thing either.. nor is being low maintenance. I just feel a lot of high maintenance girls don't speak up because being high maintence has a bad rap. But I KNOW guys who prefer high over low... and vice versa.0 -
Hehe, my bf tells me I'm crazy too. :blushing: But he will say "nothing I can't handle". Luckily for me, he thinks it's cute. Now if I went all bat poop crazy on him, I'm sure he'd probably want the exit.
That's cute. Mine says that I am worth it, but I did see panic in his eyes when I cried in front of him.
Maybe they like a challenge?0 -
Hehe, my bf tells me I'm crazy too. :blushing: But he will say "nothing I can't handle". Luckily for me, he thinks it's cute. Now if I went all bat poop crazy on him, I'm sure he'd probably want the exit.
That's cute. Mine says that I am worth it, but I did see panic in his eyes when I cried in front of him.
Maybe they like a challenge?
Yup.. mine's already said he's never dated anybody like me. I'm different. GOOD! I want to stand out sucker!
I'm also the 1st latina he's ever dated soooooo.... if we break up, I might mess that up for him forever!0 -
I'm pretty similar to you except I bite my nails instead of paint them, and I don't wear heels that often because my feet are *kitten*.0
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I'm pretty similar to you except I bite my nails instead of paint them, and I don't wear heels that often because my feet are *kitten*.
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I'm pretty similar to you except I bite my nails instead of paint them, and I don't wear heels that often because my feet are *kitten*.
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...arf arf? LOL
P.S. I'm coming to AUSTIN in October! I expect you to carve some time out for me thank you very much. :bigsmile:0 -
I'm pretty similar to you except I bite my nails instead of paint them, and I don't wear heels that often because my feet are *kitten*.
meoooooooooow
...arf arf? LOL
P.S. I'm coming to AUSTIN in October! I expect you to carve some time out for me thank you very much. :bigsmile:
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The angels have heard my cry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I need to be single by then..
j/k!!! :bigsmile:
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I am... none of those things. Especially the shopping one. Shopping stresses me out. I don't look down on girls that are high maintenance, and I don't have a problem if that's what a guy wants. What I find annoying is when guys take the time to stress how much they want something that's low-maintenance and drama-free but just don't want to admit that's exactly what they're after.0
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Hahahaha don't worry if you're still with Smiley (which I hope you are, if you're happy and stuffs), then you will just have to play wingman.0
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Hahahaha don't worry if you're still with Smiley (which I hope you are, if you're happy and stuffs), then you will just have to play wingman.
I'm seriously smiling BIG.
I think I'm in love with you.0 -
Hahahaha don't worry if you're still with Smiley (which I hope you are, if you're happy and stuffs), then you will just have to play wingman.
I'm seriously smiling BIG.
I think I'm in love with you.
:smooched: :smokin: :flowerforyou: :bigsmile: :blushing:
Hehehe! I can't wait! I'll be down there for a tough mudder on October 6th. Not sure what my other plans are besides that, but we'll get them worked out!0 -
My current boyfriend likes certain things about me being high maintence like the dressing up and he'll put up with the daily texts. He's not much of a talker (I'm learning) so he'll just listen to my emotional crap and just tell me what he thinks.
The getting pissed part and looking out the window, well I'm still working on that because he's the type that will take my silence as not wanting to talk about it. Grrrrr. IT'S THE OPPOSITE. I just want you to dig it out of me. I know, stupid but what ev!
It's just funny how we're all different. I'm sure plenty of guys would consider me a psycho and that's fine. Eh.
I'm in a "I don't give a damn" mood today! lol
I do the same thing. I say nothing is wrong, but I want him to keep pushing it. I also want him to discover what is wrong, without me having to tell him directly. Kinda crazy,
Just keep in mind that something like that is probably one of the top 5 most annoying things to a guy,what may be cute or cool now while everything is in the crush/euphoria stage will likely be viewed as disrespectful in time.
No skin off my nose what anyone does but be aware.:flowerforyou:0 -
Yup.. I'm starting to understand that.. which is why I've made myself talk about whatever is bothering me even when he doesn't ask.
Also Smiley isn't a big talker. We did the road trip right? On the way there I was griping about how he doesn't share things with me. I'm always asking. Dumb dumb dumb.
Weekend was good.
As we drove back I dropped the whining. He just drove, we listened to music and just chatted. Do you know I learned some very intimate details about him (family stuff) this way? It was amazing. I learn as I go.0 -
My PMS hobby is crying in the lockerroom at the gym cause I feel like the 90 pounds I lost were just air and burps and I still look exactly the same and no one is really my friend, they just feel bad for me and tolerate me cause its not like im funny or useful.
Then I remember Im PMS and I eat a couple Hershey's miniatures, make myself a drink and be glad I still have two days before the cotton mouse shows up.0 -
Seriously, I think a lot guys prefer girly girls! They just do. Some like to be needed and some like to know they are dating someone opposite to them in every respect.
Not sure about the whiney thing. Not sure I know any guy that likes that or finds it endearing? But hey, like you say, there is a trade off and you are a giver in so many other respects.
Personally, I'm on the low end of the scale. I hate shopping and I take 15mins to get ready (I honestly have no idea what women need to do for 2 hours?) My nails are always manicured and pedicured and I epilate/wax once a month. So apart from showering and dressing, bit of make up, hair style.......what else is there? Changing clothes twenty times would annoy me so much!! :laugh:
Also, you would NEVER know my TOM! Like I said to you in another thread, take some Oil of Evening Primrose if your hormones need balancing.
But, like you, I AM very emotional and it's an affliction that annoys me more than anyone, so I do try to contain it. Although, once I've had a few glasses of wine, I'm off.......:laugh:
I think we all have our pro's and con's. Nobody is perfect. :flowerforyou:0 -
LOL my PMS hobby is hitting the punching bag... then going dancing.......0
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Seriously, I think a lot guys prefer girly girls! They just do. Some like to be needed and some like to know they are dating someone opposite to them in every respect.
I believe this is why I'm a mystery to Mr. Smiley. I think he feels needed by me as a man and I feel safe with him as a woman. I've never felt that with anybody. It's always been opposite roles somehow because I would end up with very passive/ doormat type of guys.
I'll take responsibility and say a lot of this had to do with me, my immaturity in certain areas and I've had to really reflect on what I want from a man. With this growth, I was able to select someone who fits me a bit better.. or the woman I want to be.
I'm independent. I have my own place, my car, etc etc.. but I like to think I can depend on my man in certain areas. I think Smiley appreciates this.0 -
Just keep in mind that something like that is probably one of the top 5 most annoying things to a guy,what may be cute or cool now while everything is in the crush/euphoria stage will likely be viewed as disrespectful in time.
No skin off my nose what anyone does but be aware.:flowerforyou:
I know it's a problem and I am trying to fix it. Admitting I have a problem is the first step.
It always bugged me when other people did it and I barely realized that I do it too.0
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