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Hang out with friends and she's 5.
LOL -- I get this more than I'd care to admit.
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Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:0
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Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:
Admit it, if you looked at his profile and thought he was hot and interesting you would reply to Hi...0 -
Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:
Admit it, if you looked at his profile and thought he was hot and interesting you would reply to Hi...
Yeah, and I would say "Hi" back.0 -
I had one guy that wanted to add me on facebook before we ever even met. Weird. I mean ok for people I know as friends overseas and stuff but not a potential date. I have deleted my facebook account completely since then. Actually thats a lie, I dleted it becuase it kept suggesting my bfs ex as a friend. eek!
I deleted mine too! My whole family is on it, so I always felt watched, despite all the security adjustments. I also deleted my OKC account a while back, even before I was in a relationship. When stuff goes bad with my bf, I am just gonna do the bar thing.
My family is on it and more than half of them don't know what I do. I just adjusted what they can see. It works perfect. I've never understood why people complain that people can see too much. You have control over what they see.0 -
maybe ask questions that involve require more than a 1 word answer. good conversation skills is a two way street
for instance did you enjoy your vacation vs what was the most interesting thing you saw or did while there.
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me: what's the meaning of life
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Man. Woman. Black. Hispanic. Short. Tall.
People are individuals. Some message, some don't. Some express interest via messaging, some express disinterest in messaging.
What I'm saying is: There's no right or wrong answer. However, if you're looking for someone that can carry on a conversation, then just ignore the one-liners and move on from there. Doesn't make them a bad person and it doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes the two of you not a match.0 -
I concur with the misery loves company.
I despise the messages:
Dayum baby you are one fine piece - when can I get atcha?
Me: Um NEVER
I must want a lot if I want someone who can actually converse and express themselves in sentences. Even maybe use some punctuation and grammar!!0 -
Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:
Admit it, if you looked at his profile and thought he was hot and interesting you would reply to Hi...
Yeah, and I would say "Hi" back.
And then he would know you’re interested and send something back... it's called conversation, I know we have forgotten what that is... it think it died out in the late 90's0 -
IF!, If stuff goes bad with your boyfriend. You gotta look at this positively. If you have the mindset that the relationship with your bf will go sour, it will.
You're right. I need to be more positive...but most relationships end. Don't they?My family is on it and more than half of them don't know what I do. I just adjusted what they can see. It works perfect. I've never understood why people complain that people can see too much. You have control over what they see.
It seems like every time I adjust something, Facebook changes the rules. I am just paranoid :ohwell: I've read 1984 too many times.0 -
Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:
Admit it, if you looked at his profile and thought he was hot and interesting you would reply to Hi...
Yeah, and I would say "Hi" back.
And then he would know you’re interested and send something back... it's called conversation, I know we have forgotten what that is... it think it died out in the late 90's
And if he's interesting I would respond again.0 -
This makes me sad. I'm so much more relaxed I'm not using dating websites at the moment. Such a waste of time...maybe ask questions that involve require more than a 1 word answer. good conversation skills is a two way street
for instance did you enjoy your vacation vs what was the most interesting thing you saw or did while there.
lol
me: what's the meaning of life
her: idk
So much bullcrap on these things as well.
Maybe I'd have replied to her (if I still had the will to live at this point):
"Well, maybe to get some inspiration you can try to tell me the meaning of YOUR life, at least, if it has any?"
Her answer is so depressing, it's like she's waiting for her death.0 -
Ugghh.... glad to see misery loves company. This is one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating; when guys actually decide to message me on the site and all it says is "Hi". Really??????? Am I supposed to be intrigued by this? Online dating is downright painful but unfortunately I'll keep doing it and hope for the best. :bigsmile:
Admit it, if you looked at his profile and thought he was hot and interesting you would reply to Hi...
Ummm... yes... probably :blushing:
BUT.. I would just hope that along with "hi" there'd be something else to stimulate more of a conversation. There are so many jerks online it's hard to weed out the good ones. Not that 2 sentences will do too much to help but still. When I do find someone online that I think could be interesting, I try to include a little something to let them know what intrigued me.0 -
If the first contact message is longer than a paragraph, it is too long.OK, I'm a thread killah. You Americans get Poirot right?
LOL. Agatha Christie's Hercule Poirot. Loved the books and the TV series. Started reading Christie when I was in my early teens.0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in? From what I've heard, even good looking guys have empty inbox's while girls swim in messages ... Any truth?
I ask this because I've been contemplating joining POF just to see what happens.0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in? From what I've heard, even good looking guys have empty inbox's while girls swim in messages ... Any truth?
I ask this because I've been contemplating joining POF just to see what happens.
Definitely some truth. I've sent a few messages, but I could probably count on one hand the number of times I've actually sat and scrolled through profiles. Pretty much check messages. I'm not a serious online dater though (actually went on exactly 1 date), so maybe that's the main difference? I ignore messages if they just say "hello" or something dumb, like something about the gorgeous colour of my eyes.. which he can apparently determine from my black & white photo. I can't generally overlook terrible spelling and grammar, either. That alone probably makes online dating a waste of my time. :ohwell:0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in?
The most I will do on Match is click "yes" when it asks if I am interested in a guy. The only guys I've contacted first are those who were there (and I had email contact with) when I was on it 2 years ago. Everyone else has been someone who emailed or winked at me first. I used to not answer "Hi" emails at all, but I do now (thanks to what I read on this forum) and it's paid off.0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in?
The most I will do on Match is click "yes" when it asks if I am interested in a guy. The only guys I've contacted first are those who were there (and I had email contact with) when I was on it 2 years ago. Everyone else has been someone who emailed or winked at me first. I used to not answer "Hi" emails at all, but I do now (thanks to what I read on this forum) and it's paid off.
If I paid for Match, which I don't, I would only click yes just like you do.0 -
If I paid for Match, which I don't, I would only click yes just like you do.
If you're not paying for Match, how do you get any dates out of it? I couldn't respond to anyone until I paid.0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in? From what I've heard, even good looking guys have empty inbox's while girls swim in messages ... Any truth?
I ask this because I've been contemplating joining POF just to see what happens.
Mostly true... I don't get a ton of messages but I do log on often to check. I do look through the profiles and will send out a flirt or a quick message if I see someone that looks interesting and has something in common with me. And I do answer the one work "hi" messages if I think it's worth a shot. Don't answer them if the sender clearly doesn't have the things I'm looking for. POF isn't bad, no worse than any other sites.0 -
I have been getting frustrated with messages lately because a lot them say the same thing. They are not personalized or mention what mentioned in my profile. Its like its a copy and paste email. Either that or they only say .... "nice smile" or "nice eyes" and thats it.
I try to repsond to all messages and all winks but some I just cant.0 -
Here's a question for the ladies. How many of you just log in to see what's in your inbox and how many actually seek out and initiate contact with guys you find interest in? From what I've heard, even good looking guys have empty inbox's while girls swim in messages ... Any truth?
I ask this because I've been contemplating joining POF just to see what happens.
I initiate all of the time. I think it's fun. Sometimes I won't with a really good looking guy because I feel like there is no chance in hell he'll respond. However, If I'm not intimidated I will. Yeah, I'm lame (I just re-read what I typed - it's true though).
My inbox is not flooded with messages. I have a few a week, but that's about it.0 -
I had a profile for a little while. I tried to respond to everyone, even if I was just letting them know that I appreciated their message, but just wasn't interested. Occasionally, I would send a message to a guy, but I have a terrible fear of rejection.
One man in particular sent me numerous messages, and I hadn't logged on to see them.
Sooo, I get this.:
"Listen you stuck up little goo goo dolls *****. Go get ****ed in the *kitten* behind starbucks by one of your gym bros."
I promptly deleted my profile.
Slim pickin's, guys.0 -
One man in particular sent me numerous messages, and I hadn't logged on to see them.
Sooo, I get this.:
"Listen you stuck up little goo goo dolls *****. Go get ****ed in the *kitten* behind starbucks by one of your gym bros."
I promptly deleted my profile.
Slim pickin's, guys.
Uggh... sorry you had to deal with this jerkoff... online dating is indeed a rough world sometimes. But I hold out hope that *maybe* there are some decent men on there.0 -
Wow, just wow. Apparently it's a-holes like that who make it difficult for the rest of us by scaring away all of the good looking available girls.I had a profile for a little while. I tried to respond to everyone, even if I was just letting them know that I appreciated their message, but just wasn't interested. Occasionally, I would send a message to a guy, but I have a terrible fear of rejection.
One man in particular sent me numerous messages, and I hadn't logged on to see them.
Sooo, I get this.:
"Listen you stuck up little goo goo dolls *****. Go get ****ed in the *kitten* behind starbucks by one of your gym bros."
I promptly deleted my profile.
Slim pickin's, guys.0
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