Pet Peeve
Meghan0116
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Feel free to rip me to shreds for being nit picky. lol
I have been talking to this guy for a bit and he is really nice, very complimentary, and we are going out Friday night. However, he already calls me baby, babe, hun, etc. I know it is ridiculous but that always gets on my nerves until there is an actual relationship.
Just felt like putting this out there. lol
I have been talking to this guy for a bit and he is really nice, very complimentary, and we are going out Friday night. However, he already calls me baby, babe, hun, etc. I know it is ridiculous but that always gets on my nerves until there is an actual relationship.
Just felt like putting this out there. lol
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I am the same way and people think I am nuts. I just prefer to be called by my given name.0
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I only did this once and it was because I forgot the girls name... has he said Meghan during any of these conversations??0
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I only did this once and it was because I forgot the girls name... has he said Meghan during any of these conversations??
HAHAHA, well, hopefully that's not the issue... your real name isn't Mulva or Delores, is it??? (Going old school for the TV show reference...)0 -
Definately a turn off for me as well. No no no! When guys would use those terms of endearment w/o knowing me I would tell them "please don't call me ______, you don't know me and I'm not comfortable using pet names until I'm close to someone".
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I only did this once and it was because I forgot the girls name... has he said Meghan during any of these conversations??
Yes lol, on the phone.0 -
Uh ... why are we just hearing about this someone now Miss Meghan ... ???? :grumble:
I dunno .. I think its kinda cute. Shows he likes you. But if you don't like it ...how do you say knock it off without coming off as a meany pants? LOL0 -
Some terms I don't mind because, being from the south, I'm accustomed to being called certain things by men just as a matter of habit (e.g. sweetheart, hun, darling, etc.).
But baby/babe and similar terms ... it really pisses me off when a guy calls me that before I've let him know that it's okay. That's more territorial for me, and you shouldn't call a woman that if she doesn't "belong" to you.0 -
It woudnt bother me in the slightest. Possibly because we use terms like that all the time in East London......it denotes you like someone. You wouldnt say it to someone you didnt like, put it that way.
There are so many worse/derogatory things to be called. It's not an insult, its not a criticism. What's the harm in it?? :flowerforyou:
A guy once told me not to call him hun, so I never called him again!! I thought wtf is he calling me on a little pet name for?? Whatever next would he be criticising me for?? :huh:
Sorry hun......its nit picking......I mean Meghan......:laugh:
Enjoy the date!!! :bigsmile:0 -
Definately a turn off for me as well. No no no! When guys would use those terms of endearment w/o knowing me I would tell them "please don't call me ______, you don't know me and I'm not comfortable using pet names until I'm close to someone".
Grrr.
In that picture your bf looks like Jarred Allen MN Vikings DE0 -
Definately a turn off for me as well. No no no! When guys would use those terms of endearment w/o knowing me I would tell them "please don't call me ______, you don't know me and I'm not comfortable using pet names until I'm close to someone".
Grrr.
In that picture your bf looks like Jarred Allen MN Vikings DE
Ah-HA! I knew he looked familiar!0 -
Definately a turn off for me as well. No no no! When guys would use those terms of endearment w/o knowing me I would tell them "please don't call me ______, you don't know me and I'm not comfortable using pet names until I'm close to someone".
Grrr.
In that picture your bf looks like Jarred Allen MN Vikings DE
I looked him up.. Nah! It's the facial hair.. though Jarred is cute!0 -
Agreed I'm not crazy about that either until I know the person more. I do always wonder does he remember my name?0
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It woudnt bother me in the slightest. Possibly because we use terms like that all the time in East London......it denotes you like someone. You wouldnt say it to someone you didnt like, put it that way.
There are so many worse/derogatory things to be called. It's not an insult, its not a criticism. What's the harm in it?? :flowerforyou:
A guy once told me not to call him hun, so I never called him again!! I thought wtf is he calling me on a little pet name for?? Whatever next would he be criticising me for?? :huh:
Sorry hun......its nit picking......I mean Meghan......:laugh:
Enjoy the date!!! :bigsmile:
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I don't know why it bothers me so much. lol0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol0
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He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.
I think I agree with this Meg! lol0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.
The hot Irish guy I went on a date with started the "baby"s early on.. He was a hottie but that was my 1st turn off.0 -
I had a guy who called me Pretty. He didnt say I was pretty, he called me Pretty. Hey Pretty this, hey pretty that, incessantly- about 40 times a day at least. I asked him if he had any other other sweet pet names and he said- I'll call you momma, but you gotta call me daddy. I just looked at him cause it was only our 3rd or 4th date and was just thinking, why cant you just call me babe? Flash forward through a pint of beer and he's already calld me Momma about 8 times.
I asked him if he had some aversion to calling me by my name at this point, its weird, but is it so awful that you have to call me something else at the beginning of every sentence?
I know it seems petty, but --- Hey Pretty, do you wanna go get a beer tonight? I know this great bar near penn station, Pretty, you're gonna love it. Oh, pretty, the beers are from all over the world, seriously, Pretty, you could pick any country and we could drink our whole way through it! Hows that sound, Pretty?
MY NAME IS FUHKING BRI0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.
The hot Irish guy I went on a date with started the "baby"s early on.. He was a hottie but that was my 1st turn off.
I said Brad Pitt, not Irish guy!!0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.
The hot Irish guy I went on a date with started the "baby"s early on.. He was a hottie but that was my 1st turn off.
I said Brad Pitt, not Irish guy!!
LOL
I'm just saying.. I'm not into Brad Pitt at all. It's David Beckham for me.
Now if David started calling me Baby early on.. hmmm. Well I wouldn't take him seriously. I would think he's just trying to butter me up... which might be okay.. butter. me. up.0 -
I had a guy who called me Pretty. He didnt say I was pretty, he called me Pretty. Hey Pretty this, hey pretty that, incessantly- about 40 times a day at least. I asked him if he had any other other sweet pet names and he said- I'll call you momma, but you gotta call me daddy. I just looked at him cause it was only our 3rd or 4th date and was just thinking, why cant you just call me babe? Flash forward through a pint of beer and he's already calld me Momma about 8 times.
I asked him if he had some aversion to calling me by my name at this point, its weird, but is it so awful that you have to call me something else at the beginning of every sentence?
I know it seems petty, but --- Hey Pretty, do you wanna go get a beer tonight? I know this great bar near penn station, Pretty, you're gonna love it. Oh, pretty, the beers are from all over the world, seriously, Pretty, you could pick any country and we could drink our whole way through it! Hows that sound, Pretty?
MY NAME IS FUHKING BRI
That makes me think of the scene in Deliverance "He sure has a pretty mouth"0 -
He just sent me a text that said, How's your day going babe?, and I shuddered a little. lol
If Brad Pitt was calling you babe would you care??? I'm guessing you're really not into the guy and this is an excuse.
Yes, I think Brad Pitt isn't very attractive. I like him so far but we haven't met yet. Seems weird to me.0 -
I had a guy who called me Pretty. He didnt say I was pretty, he called me Pretty. Hey Pretty this, hey pretty that, incessantly- about 40 times a day at least. I asked him if he had any other other sweet pet names and he said- I'll call you momma, but you gotta call me daddy. I just looked at him cause it was only our 3rd or 4th date and was just thinking, why cant you just call me babe? Flash forward through a pint of beer and he's already calld me Momma about 8 times.
I asked him if he had some aversion to calling me by my name at this point, its weird, but is it so awful that you have to call me something else at the beginning of every sentence?
I know it seems petty, but --- Hey Pretty, do you wanna go get a beer tonight? I know this great bar near penn station, Pretty, you're gonna love it. Oh, pretty, the beers are from all over the world, seriously, Pretty, you could pick any country and we could drink our whole way through it! Hows that sound, Pretty?
MY NAME IS FUHKING BRI
That makes me think of the scene in Deliverance "He sure has a pretty mouth"
Bahaha, paddle faster.0 -
Brad Pitt doesn't do it for me, either. I think it's funny that guys always use him as the celebrity crush example, though. "If Brad Pitt said/did that, you'd love it."
Honestly, I don't care how rich or good-looking or famous a guy is, if I'm not his woman, it's going to piss me off if he calls me baby. I just think it's disrespectful.0 -
To me it seems not much of a thing but we are all different so if you don`t like it then make that clear,don`t simmer about it.
Picking and choosing words that are okay as a sweet nothing and ones that aren`t is bound to cause heartburn at some point unless it is talked about.
I understand the cultural differences that there are around the country but to use JQs example where sweetheart is okay but baby is not will cause a lot of confusion.
To her they mean something different but to me they are interchangeable so would cause me to scratch my head.0 -
To me it seems not much of a thing but we are all different so if you don`t like it then make that clear,don`t simmer about it.
Picking and choosing words that are okay as a sweet nothing and ones that aren`t is bound to cause heartburn at some point unless it is talked about.
I understand the cultural differences that there are around the country but to use JQs example where sweetheart is okay but baby is not will cause a lot of confusion.
To her they mean something different but to me they are interchangeable so would cause me to scratch my head.
I guess I just feel like terms of endearment are for relationships and it creeps me out a wee bit when it starts before a first date. Does that make sense? It isn't a deal breaker.0 -
To me it seems not much of a thing but we are all different so if you don`t like it then make that clear,don`t simmer about it.
Picking and choosing words that are okay as a sweet nothing and ones that aren`t is bound to cause heartburn at some point unless it is talked about.
I understand the cultural differences that there are around the country but to use JQs example where sweetheart is okay but baby is not will cause a lot of confusion.
To her they mean something different but to me they are interchangeable so would cause me to scratch my head.
I guess I just feel like terms of endearment are for relationships and it creeps me out a wee bit when it starts before a first date. Does that make sense? It isn't a deal breaker.
That is perfectly fine and what I meant by all are different,to some they don`t care if they get them or give them,it is doubtful anyone means harm no matter what a personal feeling is.
If it bothers you a lot then suggest to him not to or learn to not let it annoy...no one can know on their own and it isn`t a universally regarded thing.0 -
I hate terms of endearment like hun, sweetie, ect given by total strangers but for some reason I loved it when I would get a good night text from J1, before we were dating, saying good night love. We even started to try and come up with the cheesiest term. I would counter his love with love bug and he would respond with cuddle muffin ect.0
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Feel free to rip me to shreds for being nit picky. lol
I have been talking to this guy for a bit and he is really nice, very complimentary, and we are going out Friday night. However, he already calls me baby, babe, hun, etc. I know it is ridiculous but that always gets on my nerves until there is an actual relationship.
Just felt like putting this out there. lol
I hate when anyone calls me that, including customers at my work.0 -
lmao at least you admit it0
