I'm back.
La_Amazona
Posts: 4,855 Member
And I love you all.
Weird to say? It is. But you all have listened, laughed, given me advice, talked me down from ledges, smacked me into sense, picked me up and said nice things when I was crying (yesterday!), and made me smile.
I'm baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack.
I'm excited. Funny how break ups/ divorces light a fire under your *kitten*. I'm here making all these new goals for my life. lol.
We'll start off small. I'm going to spend the next weekend with my family. I can't wait to see them!
I got asked out for a date on the weekend. I accepted but will back out since I'm going out of town. I'll wait a bit longer. I'm definately needing to just have fun right now, nothing heavy. Guess it's back to casual dating... :drinker:
Weird to say? It is. But you all have listened, laughed, given me advice, talked me down from ledges, smacked me into sense, picked me up and said nice things when I was crying (yesterday!), and made me smile.
I'm baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack.
I'm excited. Funny how break ups/ divorces light a fire under your *kitten*. I'm here making all these new goals for my life. lol.
We'll start off small. I'm going to spend the next weekend with my family. I can't wait to see them!
I got asked out for a date on the weekend. I accepted but will back out since I'm going out of town. I'll wait a bit longer. I'm definately needing to just have fun right now, nothing heavy. Guess it's back to casual dating... :drinker:
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:drinker: Girl I wish we lived closer0
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I am completely mesmerized by the fact that both of the drinker animations are moving at exactly the same time....
Oh! Yes. You are awesome and amazing and gorgeous and sexy and smart and have killer legs and are going to be just fine!!
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You are absolutely phenominal!!! Cheers to you!! :drinker:0
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:drinker: Girl I wish we lived closer
I second this!!!0 -
That's an awesome attitude !! :drinker:0
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I wish we lived closer.
I'm glued to the couch, haven't showered,watching movies, crying off and on and calling my friends and family. Blah!!!!0 -
Sounds like classic roller coaster recovery to me! You're doing fine, Diana :happy:I am completely mesmerized by the fact that both of the drinker animations are moving at exactly the same time....
Oh! Yes. You are awesome and amazing and gorgeous and sexy and smart and have killer legs and are going to be just fine!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
^^^ Agreed! :flowerforyou:0 -
When all else fails, friends on the internet love you.
Listen to your gut, we have instincts for a reason. Chin up and just keep going!0 -
I wish we lived closer.
I'm glued to the couch, haven't showered,watching movies, crying off and on and calling my friends and family. Blah!!!!
Stop that!!!! Get down the gym and start crushing on gym guy again!!! :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:0 -
I wish we lived closer.
I'm glued to the couch, haven't showered,watching movies, crying off and on and calling my friends and family. Blah!!!!
Stop that!!!! Get down the gym and start crushing on gym guy again!!! :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:
I vote this! But still kudos to you for the original post despite the loss. Its ok to be down and cry for awhile or a bit more, tomorrow will still come. I do have to ask... the movies at least have hot guys in them right? :-) (hugs)0 -
Stupid Smiley.0
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Stupid Smiley.
He was disc golfing at the park with a buddy while I was on the couch yesterday (thanks FB!!!). :brokenheart:
So I have many thoughts going through my mind. I've asked for some days off next week and I'll be spending them with my family. I need to come up with some goals, figure out what I want to do, etc etc. This isn't even about ex bf anymore... it's about me. I don't think right now, I should be in a relationship. He was a good way to practice since I know he's not the one for me (and realize that I'm not ready for a serious relationship) but still... I need to get my crap together and focus on me for a bit. I was doing well before with casual dating but I can't just exist. I need to do SOMETHING. So I'm going to visit my family, refocus, figure out what I want to do, what I need to do and start from there.
If I end up a single old hag well so be it.0 -
Again, stupid smiley.
You will never wind up a single old hag. lol. You have too much spirit in you for that .. people feed off of it.
As for regrouping and doing some soul searching .. there is never a bad time for that. BUT .. just because smiley couldn't handle you .. doesn't mean there is something wrong with you that you need to change or fix or make better. Got it??0 -
Again, stupid smiley.
You will never wind up a single old hag. lol. You have too much spirit in you for that .. people feed off of it.
As for regrouping and doing some soul searching .. there is never a bad time for that. BUT .. just because smiley couldn't handle you .. doesn't mean there is something wrong with you that you need to change or fix or make better. Got it??
He did say I was too "colorful" and maybe he needed to stick to what he was used to- "bland". WTF?!?!?!
He said I wasn't ready to settle down either because I wanted to go out and party (um, nooo I want to go out and have fun with my now ex bf!).
So yeah, my "free-spirit" was a little offended and maybe I need to tone it down?0 -
Don't even think about it. Just because it didn't work out with one person doesn't mean you need to change anything about yourself. Just means the two of you weren't a good fit.So yeah, my "free-spirit" was a little offended and maybe I need to tone it down?0 -
Oh good lawd no!! lol. Do you know how many men would LOVE a girl that would go out and party with them??
DO NOT let Mr.NotSoSmiley break your spirit. :grumble:0 -
Yeah but even you all think I'm this loud crazy girl that probably parties 24/7 (I don't) and has an annoying laugh (I can laugh pretty loud).
All my family and friends tell me I'm this free spirit that has a great funny outgoing personality but maybe it's too much for a man? I don't know. Who the hell knows. Ex bf (I will no longer call him Smiley- he's lost that privelage) was pretty close minded and stuck in his ways.0 -
Don't even think about it. Just because it didn't work out with one person doesn't mean you need to change anything about yourself. Just means the two of you weren't a good fit.So yeah, my "free-spirit" was a little offended and maybe I need to tone it down?
This^^^ never, ever, EVER change for someone. It will never last and it will just surpress you and make you miserable in the end.
And conversely, never expect a guy to change for you!!
Being compatible is very important for a relationship to last :flowerforyou:0 -
Diana, you are an incredible person. (How many times have I said this to you? Oh yeah, I think this might be the eleventy millionth...because it's absolutely true. I don't say things I don't mean). Ex bf just couldn't handle you. This does not mean that you party too much or are too free spirited. It means that you are a fun-loving, wonderful person, and it scared the hell out of him. Note: I'm not saying he's a bad person. I'm saying he is the one who called you too colorful -- translation: scared.
Sooo....go, take your few days off, refocus, outline your long-term goals, then go out and live life and be the fun, beautiful, colorful person you are! You deserve only the best, and it will find you while you're out living and loving you, not worried about changing for someone else who isn't right for you :flowerforyou:0 -
No yeh buts ..
Could you be happy not being you? Could you be happy not laughing and partying and having fun? You don't need to change who you are to find your forever man.0 -
Don't even think about it. Just because it didn't work out with one person doesn't mean you need to change anything about yourself. Just means the two of you weren't a good fit.So yeah, my "free-spirit" was a little offended and maybe I need to tone it down?
This^^^ never, ever, EVER change for someone. It will never last and it will just surpress you and make you miserable in the end.
And conversely, never expect a guy to change for you!!
Being compatible is very important for a relationship to last :flowerforyou:
I understand this. I do. I promise. And I'm not fishing for you all to tell me how great I am. I won't change because this is ME. But maybe I need to tone it down. Just a tweak? Maybe I inimidate men.. maybe I challenge them. Maybe I'm a handful. Who knows. My ex was very very passive. I can easily see how we weren't a good fit. Ex bf was more assertive.. or maybe passive aggressive. He would say no to me, which was awesome. Still, obviously it was too much for him.0 -
Yes. I think it is too much for a man.Yeah but even you all think I'm this loud crazy girl that probably parties 24/7 (I don't) and has an annoying laugh (I can laugh pretty loud).
All my family and friends tell me I'm this free spirit that has a great funny outgoing personality but maybe it's too much for a man? I don't know. Who the hell knows. Ex bf (I will no longer call him Smiley- he's lost that privelage) was pretty close minded and stuck in his ways.
How about instead of partying so much you buy a good cookbook and start learning how to make good dishes for your man?
Also, I think housekeeping courses are back in fashion... You might want to check these out, here are a few: how to clean the windows, how to choose the perfect curtains, table manners and how not to embarrass the Man with your laugh, the kitchen & toilet guide, etc.
Last but not least, learn how to fetch a beer for your Man.
Before that, I don't think you're anywhere near ready to settle down.0 -
Yes. I think it is too much for a man.Yeah but even you all think I'm this loud crazy girl that probably parties 24/7 (I don't) and has an annoying laugh (I can laugh pretty loud).
All my family and friends tell me I'm this free spirit that has a great funny outgoing personality but maybe it's too much for a man? I don't know. Who the hell knows. Ex bf (I will no longer call him Smiley- he's lost that privelage) was pretty close minded and stuck in his ways.
How about instead of partying so much you buy a good cookbook and start learning how to make good dishes for your man?
Also, I think housekeeping courses are back in fashion... You might want to check these out, here are a few: how to clean the windows, how to choose the perfect curtains, table manners and how not to embarrass the Man with your laugh, the kitchen & toilet guide, etc.
Last but not least, learn how to fetch a beer for your Man.
Before that, I don't think you're anywhere near ready to settle down.
You forgot the ironing. Man can't have wrinkled clothes...0 -
Yes. I think it is too much for a man.Yeah but even you all think I'm this loud crazy girl that probably parties 24/7 (I don't) and has an annoying laugh (I can laugh pretty loud).
All my family and friends tell me I'm this free spirit that has a great funny outgoing personality but maybe it's too much for a man? I don't know. Who the hell knows. Ex bf (I will no longer call him Smiley- he's lost that privelage) was pretty close minded and stuck in his ways.
How about instead of partying so much you buy a good cookbook and start learning how to make good dishes for your man?
Also, I think housekeeping courses are back in fashion... You might want to check these out, here are a few: how to clean the windows, how to choose the perfect curtains, table manners and how not to embarrass the Man with your laugh, the kitchen & toilet guide, etc.
Last but not least, learn how to fetch a beer for your Man.
Before that, I don't think you're anywhere near ready to settle down.
For your information Mr. Flamfloz, I'm very domesticated. I cooked for him, I'd clean up his clutter every now and then, I actually would get him a beer. I'm old fashioned like that! So now I'm confused because you're saying that's not good? I enjoyed treating him well. He can never say I treated him like crap. I went out of my way for him in a sweet manner.0 -
Diana, Flimflam is joking! Don't change xx0
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I'd actually crap myself then.For your information Mr. Flamfloz, I'm very domesticated. I cooked for him, I'd clean up his clutter every now and then, I actually would get him a beer. I'm old fashioned like that! So now I'm confused because you're saying that's not good? I enjoyed treating him well. He can never say I treated him like crap. I went out of my way for him in a sweet manner.
Not used to be with a girl who is great at home, who is good fun and likes to go out as well. My brain says: "does not compute"!
And I like to wash the dishes, so BACK OFF!0 -
I'd actually crap myself then.For your information Mr. Flamfloz, I'm very domesticated. I cooked for him, I'd clean up his clutter every now and then, I actually would get him a beer. I'm old fashioned like that! So now I'm confused because you're saying that's not good? I enjoyed treating him well. He can never say I treated him like crap. I went out of my way for him in a sweet manner.
Not used to be with a girl who is great at home, who is good fun and likes to go out as well. My brain says: "does not compute"!
And I like to wash the dishes, so BACK OFF!
That's what he said.. he's not used to it. I can't win!!!0 -
Diana, Flimflam is joking! Don't change xx
Flimflam .. bahahahahahaahah!!!!! lol0 -
That just means you're an upgrade to any of his previous girlfriend then... Which - I suspect - is a good thing?
That's what he said.. he's not used to it. I can't win!!!
I'd actually crap myself then.For your information Mr. Flamfloz, I'm very domesticated. I cooked for him, I'd clean up his clutter every now and then, I actually would get him a beer. I'm old fashioned like that! So now I'm confused because you're saying that's not good? I enjoyed treating him well. He can never say I treated him like crap. I went out of my way for him in a sweet manner.
Not used to be with a girl who is great at home, who is good fun and likes to go out as well. My brain says: "does not compute"!
And I like to wash the dishes, so BACK OFF!
But you said he wanted to settle down and stuff, so he and I are different there.0 -
Haven't you learned anything in this group? We don't like women who make us sandwiches, clean, fetch us beer, or treat us well. We only like to chase boring women with no opinions or domestic abilities.For your information Mr. Flamfloz, I'm very domesticated. I cooked for him, I'd clean up his clutter every now and then, I actually would get him a beer. I'm old fashioned like that! So now I'm confused because you're saying that's not good? I enjoyed treating him well. He can never say I treated him like crap. I went out of my way for him in a sweet manner.0
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