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crodrigu73
crodrigu73 Posts: 134 Member
Not sure how all this works but I thought introductions maybe a good start.

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  • KM11102011
    KM11102011 Posts: 41
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    Great idea!
  • crodrigu73
    crodrigu73 Posts: 134 Member
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    My name is Charlie. I was lucky enough to meet Katie through MFP and I am very happy that she created this group. My loss happen many many years ago. My son Jordan was born July 31, 1992 and he passed away 2 hours after birth. He was born with potters syndrome and I knew he was not going to live for several months before his birth. His life and death has changed me in ways I can't even communicate.

    I am an emotional eater and have been for a long time however after my sons death my weight really went out of control. I have gained over 100 pounds since his death. My highest weight was 401 when I pregnant with my twins. They are three and a half now. I promised them while they were in NICU I would loss 100 pounds from my prepregnancy weight by the time they start kindergarden. I weigh 309 today and I need to get to 232 to keep my promise so I have two years to get there.

    Not sure what else to include, but I did want to say my current profile picture is my highest weight at 401 when I was pregnant with my twins, if it bothers anyone please let me know.
  • Chocoholic72
    Chocoholic72 Posts: 19 Member
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    Hello. I am glad this group was started. I am 36 yrs old with a 6 yr old son and a wonderful husband. I have had 4 miscarriages and a back injury between the 3rd and 4th miscarriage. I weighed 125 lbs before I got pregnant with my son. My highest weight was 163 lbs. I have been working hard and really watching what I eat (despite my screen name) and I have lost about 5 lbs so far. We are done having any more children, so now it is time for me to get back in shape and feel good about myself again.
  • MisdemeanorM
    MisdemeanorM Posts: 3,493 Member
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    Hi. I lost my 6 month old in December to a heart defect. We spent 5 of his 6 months in the hospital. He passed quite suddenly and unexpectedly only 3 days after we were released from the hospital. We really knew that the odds of having him long term were not great, but it blindsided us that it happened so soon and so suddenly after he was doing so well to be sent home. I don't eat well when I'm unhappy and I'm trying to get back in to eating better. I have so many what ifs about if we had just stayed in the hospital a couple days longer and a lot of guilt that I didn't notice something was wrong sooner because we were getting in to the routine of being home after so long in the hospital, and new schedules and medication regimens and feeding tubes etc, and also because I never thought something like that would happen when we had just been sent home thriving.

    we have a non profit in his memory www.heartonastring.org and www.facebook.com/heartonastring.org
    Currently you can vote for him http://www.mix969.com/pages/baby-idol/vote-entrants.php?ag&gid=3#8 we're trying to spread some awareness by getting in the finals for this cute baby contest.
  • Crin6
    Crin6 Posts: 4 Member
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    Hello,
    My name is Corrine (I go by Crin). I am 29, thirty in less then a month. I had my first miscarriage in March and my second one this July. I did not get to hold my babies or even hear their heart beats. I asked my doctor to test my hormone levels and she refused. I have now seen a specialist and was told I will need hormones as soon as we decide to try again. It breaks my heart to think that my babies could have been saved. My husband and I decided to start our family right after we got married. I was the little girl that was always the mommy and had six babies or more. Now I would be happy if I could just have one healthy one. I, too, am an emotionaly eater. But honestly when I'm really sad I tend to not eat, and still gain. I have seen a dietician and previously was very successful at losing weight. I now what I need to do and yet I still seem to be making the bad food choices or skipping meals. So here I am. I know that my heart is broken and it will be a while before I feel like myself but I may as well better myself on the journey. My heart is sad for all your losses and I wish you all the best.

    Crin
  • amandaxay
    amandaxay Posts: 3 Member
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    I am Amanda I lost my baby at birth due to a birth defect. We knew at 18 was pregnant she would pass away. I gained 100 pounds w her. And a year and a half later I think I am ready to lose the weight Would love some friends in this journey.
  • mwunsch
    mwunsch Posts: 2 Member
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    My name is Mara and my precious daughter Julia was born this past June 16th. Halfway through the pregnancy, we learned she had a fatal neural tube defect and that it was not possible for her to survive long after birth. We carried her to term and she was with us for 22 beautiful hours and 9 minutes. She was a blessing to our family, including her big brother Carter. Taking care of myself right now and being fit is a small thing I can do for myself and I'm very grateful this group was formed and that I found you all. Prayers and hugs to everyone!
  • MrsDunn8910
    MrsDunn8910 Posts: 16 Member
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    Where to start....It's been a really rough time off and on since I lost my little one. I've recently lost my little one during my pregnancy. I was about 6-7 months along when I found out he passed. It was a devastation like I've never felt before. I know he wouldn't want me to be unhappy, which I've not been about myself for a long long time. I need to lose the weight not only for me, but for him and any other future children I have. It scares the living daylights out of me to have another one, but I also don't want to live in regret because I never tried again. It's just the what ifs that get to me. What if I get as far as I did and I lose the next one? What if I did something wrong? Etc. I try to not live in the what ifs and fear. However, it creeps up on me every now and again. It's just so fresh. However, I know I must not give up and let the fear beat me. It helps knowing people have gone through this loss and have overcome it. They have gone on to have numerous children. Hopefully, I will be able to experience the same joy of watching a child I brought into the world grow up and be happy one day. Until then, I need to overcome the obstacles and loss to move on and be happy. I am getting to a better place because of the immense support I have around me. My next step is to lose the weight and be healthier. I'm just glad there are groups like this with people who know what I am going through and are in different stages of healing. It gives me hope I'll be able to move on and be happy. I need this group because I know it'll let me have my ups and downs with people who know where I'm coming from. It'll let me seek comfort from those who understand and can help me stay on track and not stray from the journey to a healthier life and healed heart that I'm trying to take and achieve. As far as weight loss, I've lost almost all the weight I gained during the pregnancy. I'm at a mini-impasse. It's time to get the numbers dropping again. I want to get back to where I started weight-wise and eventually hit my goal. In the end, I just want to be healthier than I am when my husband and I decide to try again.
  • hjgioia
    hjgioia Posts: 5 Member
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    Hello Everyone,
    I joined MFP several months ago to lose weight before my wedding. I lost qu16lb right away and stopped because I was so happily married, I forgot about my health.

    We got pregnant right away - and I can say that I was thrilled. My doc said I was overweight but otherwise healthy and the baby would be fine. We lost it at 12 weeks a little over a week ago. Besides being shocked, we are in a lot of pain. I am not even sure how to describe how I feel... but I know that I need to keep going, and get healthy to give any future babies the best chance they can have.

    Our Doc said all my vitamins are low and that we need to wait at least 4 months before thinking about another baby. So, I think I need to use those 4 months to make smarter, healthier decisions.

    It's strange, but every time I think about how small and tiny and weak our poor baby was... it makes me angry enough to move and do something to make sure it doesn't happen again because of my health. So, maybe it is a good motivator to move and let getting healthy be the way I heal.
  • heather21h
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    Good Morning Everyone,

    I searched miscarriage under groups and was pleasantly surprise to find this group. My husband and I found out we were pregnant this past June - we were so excited to finally start our family - we had been trying for about 6 months. In July, I miscarried. We were not far along but the depression was still there...the what ifs came upon me. We waiting a month and tried again and crazy enough...got pregnant again!! but soon after lost that one as well...

    It has now been three months and I have let myself go. I have not worked out in FOREVER...eating like crap and have gained about 7lbs. I think that I have been holding my feelings of lose and worries of future miscarriages in instead of really talking about it and it has negatively effected me physically.

    I read the post before mine and my heart goes out to you all. We need to be there for each other during this time and pray for healthy babies in the future :-) If anyone wants to friend me so we can help motivate each other - please do!!
  • Dana_283
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    Hello everyone, my name is Dana. I am 32 years old.

    I also did a search of miscarriage and found this group. I am glad to find yall. Well my story goes a little something like this:

    My husband and I have been married for 12 years now and we quickly made the decision to start a family immediately. After trying for what seemed like forever (2 years) I was told I was just in that 20% of women that was infertile. I made peace with it after a while and we decided adopting would be best for us, so we put ourselves on the state's list. After being on the list for 5 years and not hearing a word about a child available, we finally contacted DFACS and began the process to become adoptive parents. In the midst of all of this I was finally diagnosed with PCOS. Within 30 days of becoming approved parents through DFACS, our Jesse was born and he came home to us at 4 weeks old. He is now 5 years old.

    I have been told for the last 12 years that I am infertile and would not get pregnant. Well that all changed on Sept 11, 2012. I had an unexpected period start the Wednesday before (I put it off as stress from work) and also began having cramps, which is completed normal for me. Well by Monday I was in so much pain that night I had to tell my husband that he needed to take me somewhere and someone needed to come and get me. I could not even stand up without feeling like I was going to pass out. I finally made it to the car by crawling on my hands and knees out of the house. Once I got to the hospital, I was blown away when the doctor said my pregnancy test was positive. (My mother even asked the doctor if he was in the right room) I was rushed for an ultrasound and then rushed into surgery before I know it.

    Once in recovery I was told what was going on, my pregnancy was ectopic and my tube had ruptured and I was bleeding out. My tube was removed and I has lost about 20 oz. of blood, thank goodness no transfusion was needed. Now that I know I can get pregnant, my chances are even lower now only having one tube.

    I feel I need to get myself in better health, that way if some miracle happens in the future, I can be at my best when it happens.
  • elizabethbstephens92
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    My name is Elizabeth. I am 35 yrs old and I have two great daughter that are 7 and 4. I was approximately 8 weeks pregnant when I miscarried on 26 December 2012. I have had immediate and bad morning sickness with my first two children and this third was the same. I had my IUD removed 4 months prior so that we could try to have one last child. I could tell that this pregnancy was different because I was having terrible body aches and each joint felt terrible. I have irregular periods and wasn't sure how far along I was. They couldn't find a heartbeat and wanted another sonogram after a week. I still didn't have a heartbeat on board when he checked the third time. I went to a sonogram at a higher level facility with little hope. When the doctor called me with the results there was a heart beat but it was half the rate the they would need to give us any hope. That was a really hard Christmas. I told family on Thanksgiving that I was pregnant and had to tell them at Christmas that there was little to no hope for our child. The medical bills and copays have had a hand in my depression also. I fortunately have not needed a DNC and have handled things very well. In less than 12 hours after my miscarriage I have had a total body transformation. All the body aches are gone and I feel very good. I do feel that because I started this pregnancy obese that I knew it wouldn't be easy. I would like to drop some pounds and get more active to help elevate my mood even more. I have given myself only another year to let God work his magic in our lives. Otherwise, I am very happy with our two girls and have no real desire to change diapers again unless God provides us another child. I would just like a little support in creating a better body environment in the future!
  • JWolf7911
    JWolf7911 Posts: 63 Member
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    My name is Jessica and I am 28. My husband and I found out I was pregnant Thanksgiving weekend and 2 weeks ago I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. Before getting pregnant I had lost 43 pounds and I have gained 8 back from the pregnancy and the aftermath that consisted of a lot of emotional eating and very little exercise. In the next few months we are hoping to get pregnant again so my plan is to start working out again and hopefully lose a little more weight before that happens.
  • Asimi7
    Asimi7 Posts: 13 Member
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    Hello, I'm Angela. I have 5 kids on earth, 2 angels in Heaven. March 2012, we were so happy to get our BFP for baby #6, at 14 weeks I had an ultrasound, baby was doing great, and we told the world, just two weeks later, 16 weeks at a regular Dr. Appt there was no heartbeat, the baby died. I was induced, that went really bad, I ended up having an emergency D&E, later a blood transfusion, spent 5 days in the hospital. We had a little boy, who we named Avery John. We held his tiny little body.

    A few months later, we decided to try again, in November we got a BFP, we were so happy, Christmas Morning started spotting. I tried to just relax, 10 days later, January 3rd, I went to the Dr, and it was confirmed, the baby had died, I was 9 weeks.

    I spent 6 months of last year pregnant and have nothing to show for it but a hole in my heart and a box of ashes. We want to have another baby, but I am SO scared to try again. My husband says we can't surrender to defeat, and my heart agrees with him, but my fear gets in the way.

    After my first loss, I lost a lot of weight, just the grief I believe...but, between the two losses we moved 2000 miles, stayed in a hotel a few months, bought a house that we are renovating and didn't have a kitchen...we were eating out a lot. At the Dr's office I got on the scale and oh my, I guess I had gained 28 pounds! Oh my...so, I'm working on getting in the best shape I can to prepare myself for if or when we do try to conceive again.
  • mbrummer
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    So like many others I searched miscarriage in the groups and fell to this group. I am so excited to maybe have some support. While I was only 6 weeks and 5 days along and after reading some of the others who actually got to see their babies and hold them, I feel a bit selfish for saying this, but Im have been devistated.

    My story... I have been happily married for almost 9 years. My husband has a 12 year old daughter who lives with us. I have always wanted children. Always knew I was put on this planet to be a mommy. My husband was in no rush to have another child when we got married. His first experience had been horrible. So I waited. He wanted me to finish college and get a career going before we tried. Soooo 8 years later I was finally ready to start trying. We got pregnant the first month. I started to spot at 6 weeks. Went to the doctor heard that sound I will never ever ever forget, the heartbeat. Doctor said he couldn't tell where the bleeding was coming form and since they heard a strong heartbeat, we should be okay. Four days later walking into the doctors offfice I felt the gush. I went to the restroom, and there was my baby. NO I didn't see his face or his arms or anything other than his little baby sack, but I knew that it was him. I told my husband to come back immediately and to bring the doctor. The doctor walked in the bathroom told me there was nothing we could do, and to flush him. While she didn't say it heartless as it sounds, how could I flush my baby. Even just typing this makes me cry. The full swing labor that came hours later was nothing to laugh at either.

    Here I am almost 3 months later, I can't say healed, almost maybe scabbed over at best. I have decided that I am going to continue my weight loss journey and get healthy. No one ever said my weight was a factor but being 304lbs at the time probably didn't help any of it.
    I am currently down to 295 and am working my butt off everyday, because I will not go thru this agin (as if I have a choice).
    My highest weight was 338lbs.

    I hope there are words of encouragement and words to help me heal. I have found a song out that probably alot of you know. "I will wait" by Mumford and Sons. It has been very theraputic. While I know it is not about losing a child. It has helped me understand how waiting is okay. I am waiting for my chance to once again be pregnant and feel whole again.
  • smwooley
    smwooley Posts: 133 Member
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    So, I just happened to find this message board and figured why not? I'm 42 and have 4 great kids - ages 19, 16, 13, and 2. I have miscarried 5 times now, the last time 2 days ago. I wasn't nearly as far along as I was with the other ones (I was 6 wks 2 days, usually about 13 weeks), so it didn't hurt as badly. However, with my age and history, my hubby wants to stop trying now. We had 2 miscarriages in a row, this past Aug and just now. Not sure if I"m ready to stop trying yet or not.