How do you handle your ex moving on so quickly?
Slimderella3
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Now before you all attack me or say I’m being overly sensitive, know this: I had never had ANY previous dating experience before, so this is all new to me. I just got out of a short lived (2 months) relationship and we have remained friends.
After just two weeks he writes a blog post about the new woman he’s dating. Part of me feels upset that he would post it knowing that I would see it and not caring how it would affect me. The other feels that the relationship was too short for me to be upset. I’ve been avoiding him lately because I don’t want to hear him bring it up to me. Now I’m stuck wondering whether he really ever liked me at all and all these other negative thoughts.
So, do I have a right to be upset or am I just being immature? I can’t help but think that if I do wind up speaking to him I’ll sound like the bitter, jealous ex-girlfriend I’m being right now. =p
After just two weeks he writes a blog post about the new woman he’s dating. Part of me feels upset that he would post it knowing that I would see it and not caring how it would affect me. The other feels that the relationship was too short for me to be upset. I’ve been avoiding him lately because I don’t want to hear him bring it up to me. Now I’m stuck wondering whether he really ever liked me at all and all these other negative thoughts.
So, do I have a right to be upset or am I just being immature? I can’t help but think that if I do wind up speaking to him I’ll sound like the bitter, jealous ex-girlfriend I’m being right now. =p
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So, do I have a right to be upset or am I just being immature? I can’t help but think that if I do wind up speaking to him I’ll sound like the bitter, jealous ex-girlfriend I’m being right now. =p
Both, but I wouldn't call it being immature. He certainly has a right to update people on his life and it does not seem like he is going out of his way to rub it in your face, But it's just a plain awful experience, especially the first time, that it's normal to be upset. Avoid him as best you can until your emotions calm down and you've moved on.0 -
You have a right to be as upset as you want to be. Heck, I had more than one guy pull the 'I'm just not ready to settle down' line on me, and six weeks later he was engaged to some chick. Which meant he just wasn't ready to settle down...with me!
It sucks. Rejection sucks. There's no way around it, no way to soften it, to make it easier, to rationalize it. It just sucks. But you should probably just move on. Not because your feelings aren't hurt, not because you aren't sad about the end of the relationship, but just as a survival tactic. It ain't fun, but that's just how it is.0 -
My ex-husband of 14 years had his girlfriend move in the day (yes the same day) I moved out. You have every right to be hurt. 2 months isn't a long time but it's long enough to develop feelings. You aren't being inmature.0
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Block his facebook and just get him off your radar for a while. You'll move on quicker not knowing what he's up to. It can gnaw away at your brain when you keep in touch with people you had/have feelings for.
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Block his facebook and just get him off your radar for a while. You'll move on quicker not knowing what he's up to. It can gnaw away at your brain when you keep in touch with people you had/have feelings for.
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This. You shouldn't be following his blog anymore.
I was married for 20 years; kicked my ex out after a violent incident where the sheriff was involved. I made the decision to divorce after a few months of counseling alone and together; it was apparent he wasn't going to change. On a Monday we visited with the counselor together where I let him know it was done. He still wanted to reconcile. I ran into him the following Saturday; he was walking with another woman. Even though the end of our marriage is what I want, no second thoughts, etc, it was a bit surreal seeing him with someone else. (Frankly my initial reaction was to warn her about him :laugh: ) Took me a few days of talking about it with friends and my counselor and I got used to the idea. Not that it won't be weird if it happens again; but there's no turning back for me at all. No regrets. (Helps that he is till a controlling D*bag and truly awful to our older son.)0 -
Man, I really wish my ex would move on! I really do. We have been broken up for almost a year now...and he still won't leave me alone :laugh:
But I think you should definitely not keep track on him, like others have said, especially if you had feeling for him. It make since to feel upset about that, but trying to let it all go and move on yourself can make things better for you.0 -
My last long term relationship, when we broke up we still lived together for a while, she started seeing her ex... I helped get her **** out before she got home. Lol0
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My last long term relationship, when we broke up we still lived together for a while, she started seeing her ex... I helped get her **** out before she got home. Lol
BAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAH!!!!! - I can see it now..."And you want this in the box right??"....ok now get the fvck out!"...lol
On a serious note, ex's are ex's for a REASON! Let them go lives their lives and just worry about yours!0 -
My last long term relationship, when we broke up we still lived together for a while, she started seeing her ex... I helped get her **** out before she got home. Lol
BAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAH!!!!! - I can see it now..."And you want this in the box right??"....ok now get the fvck out!"...lol
On a serious note, ex's are ex's for a REASON! Let them go lives their lives and just worry about yours!
Haha totally. He didn't dare come help her though lol0 -
Man, I really wish my ex would move on! I really do. We have been broken up for almost a year now...and he still won't leave me alone :laugh:
^^This!! I thought my most recent ex was long gone, but about a month ago, he comes back along saying he thinks we made a mistake, blah blah...I shut him down by closing my Gmail acct. Then this week I've now gotten two messages from him through LinkedIn, geez... the guy didn't want anything serious and slept with 4 of my coworkers! I've moved on and am in shock he hasn't....
The guy I was with before him was harder to let go. He stood me up and that was the last straw. I had to shut down all contact with him because I SOOO wanted to talk to him. You'll get through
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Now before you all attack me or say I’m being overly sensitive, know this: I had never had ANY previous dating experience before, so this is all new to me. I just got out of a short lived (2 months) relationship and we have remained friends.
After just two weeks he writes a blog post about the new woman he’s dating. Part of me feels upset that he would post it knowing that I would see it and not caring how it would affect me. The other feels that the relationship was too short for me to be upset. I’ve been avoiding him lately because I don’t want to hear him bring it up to me. Now I’m stuck wondering whether he really ever liked me at all and all these other negative thoughts.
So, do I have a right to be upset or am I just being immature? I can’t help but think that if I do wind up speaking to him I’ll sound like the bitter, jealous ex-girlfriend I’m being right now. =p
Yes, you sound immature. 2 months. Not 2 years.
1 week of mourning for every 6 months you were together.0 -
Relief.
Naw.. jk. But seriously.
Wait, he's a guy and he blogs? Lol. I didn't know men did that.0 -
Now before you all attack me or say I’m being overly sensitive, know this: I had never had ANY previous dating experience before, so this is all new to me. I just got out of a short lived (2 months) relationship and we have remained friends.
After just two weeks he writes a blog post about the new woman he’s dating. Part of me feels upset that he would post it knowing that I would see it and not caring how it would affect me. The other feels that the relationship was too short for me to be upset. I’ve been avoiding him lately because I don’t want to hear him bring it up to me. Now I’m stuck wondering whether he really ever liked me at all and all these other negative thoughts.
So, do I have a right to be upset or am I just being immature? I can’t help but think that if I do wind up speaking to him I’ll sound like the bitter, jealous ex-girlfriend I’m being right now. =p
Yes, you sound immature. 2 months. Not 2 years.
1 week of mourning for every 6 months you were together.
Sorry but I agree with this! :flowerforyou:0 -
People have to live their lives. I don't think he was trying to hurt you. It's his blog. It's where he writes his thoughts and details about his life. I don't think there is a "good guy" requirement that he refrain from going public about being in a relationship with someone new on his own blog. Now, if he posted it on your Facebook wall, I'd say he's an *kitten*. But that's not what happened. You should get rid of any trace of him that's left in your life. The longer you wait, the more you will hurt, and the longer it will take you to move on.0
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1 week of mourning for every 6 months you were together.
For someone who is anti-rules, you sure do stick to this one!
To original poster, you said y'all are still friends. If you truly are his friend, then you wouldn't care what he wrote. Obviously youre still getting over the break up or still care for him do best thing is to go No Contact with him. Delete him from FB and block him if you have to. It's not worth the stress...
By the way, I just got out of a 2 month relationship myself with a guy I was crazy about. There's no way I could be his friend. Be honest with yourself. Think about you. Do what's best for you.0 -
the guy didn't want anything serious and slept with 4 of my coworkers!
Okay, ladies, explain this. How is it that women will sleep with a friend/coworker/family member's man? Yes, he's a D-bag, but it does take two.0 -
Pat Benetar said it best, love is a battlefield.
Sure, you're upset that your ex has moved on so quickly, but thats life. I've been on both sides of that and it does suck. Don't let it get to you, just get back out there and meet someone new. You'll quickly forget about him, trust me.0 -
the guy didn't want anything serious and slept with 4 of my coworkers!
Okay, ladies, explain this. How is it that women will sleep with a friend/coworker/family member's man? Yes, he's a D-bag, but it does take two.
In this case, none of us knew about the others as far as I'm aware. We literally all found out about each other in the same day. As much as it hurt me, I was actually #2 in the chain, so there was one woman he'd been seeing even longer. I think he thought he had chosen 5 women in a company that had 800 that wouldn't meet...WRONG! Karma...
But to answer your question, I haven't crossed that line, but I have friends who have. You're only looking to please yourself in those cases I think and don't worry about anyone else... selfish and that's all.0 -
Stop reading his blog. And be thankful he waited until AFTER you broke up to move on. My last BF was dating other girls long before we broke up, possibly the whole 3 years we were together. Best thing you can do is just stop communication w/him, stop reading the blog, unfriend him on FB and live your own life regardless of what he does.0
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the guy didn't want anything serious and slept with 4 of my coworkers!
Okay, ladies, explain this. How is it that women will sleep with a friend/coworker/family member's man? Yes, he's a D-bag, but it does take two.
Takes a 'special' kind of woman to do that!! Personally I wouldnt!
Single men only enter this love zone!! :bigsmile:0 -
the guy didn't want anything serious and slept with 4 of my coworkers!
Okay, ladies, explain this. How is it that women will sleep with a friend/coworker/family member's man? Yes, he's a D-bag, but it does take two.
My former common law had an ex that cheated on her with her cousin. I could never cheat, let alone cheat with family. If your not happy, leave much better for all involved. I was only man that had never cheated on her. Don't know if that says anything about her.0
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